1st TIME: men issues
OK, so I was out on some kind of an informal date and brought this girl home, put her on the bed, bra off was ok but meeting resistance in taking the pants off.

I kept going, she said she really didn’t want to because she wanted to see me again.

I told her I don’t believe in that crap and said the best way to meet again is if we just follow our emotions and do what we feel like etc. etc.

After a while she got quite emotional saying she has issues with men and with trusting men.
Because of her dad (who divorced with her mom when this girl was young and never got involved with her again). She also had issues with a former BF too.
She was getting very emotional and on the verge of tears while telling these stories and that’s when I decided to stop.

I cracked a joke and lighten up the mood, and then stood there touching a bit and walked her to the bus stop.
I feel I did the right thing, even though I’m afraid she might feel like we’re on path for a relationship while I don’t really feel like.


What do you think?


2nd Time: period issue
The second time I was almost sure it was going to fly, she came to my place and cooked me dinner with ingredients she had mostly bought herself.

On the bed she said she had her period and didn’t feel comfortable doing it.

I said it was OK for me, I said I actually liked it but nothing.

I even told her “OK, then if we don’t feel that kind of attraction we can be friend”, only to see her get very sad and feeling myself a bit like an Ahole.

After that I could remove the panties, got on top of her and could see her excited, thought it might have happened, touched her there and played with the OB’s string inviting to take it off but nothing.

After some more insisting from my side saying I didn’t care about the period she looked at me very sad and said “and what about my feelings”.
Damn, those words thrust my heart like a dagger, I felt she was so right, I was being too selfish in thinking it was OK for her so it should have been OK for her as well.
She might have had real issues in doing it with blood around, at least for the 1st time with me.

After that sentence I felt I did the right thing even more than on the first occasion, even though being on the bed twice without doing it can be a bit frustrating.


What do you think?


Just for information, on the third time out the deed was finally accomplished with basically 0 resistance.