Alright guys, I don't usually post field reports for my students. However, this one is going to be an interesting one to follow. I've got the most pure definition of a hard case newbie. Picture the most socially awkward guy you have ever met in your entire life...

A bit of a background on him:
Age: 42
Occupation: Unemployed (Wants to be a screen writer)
Goal: To have "a baseball line up of women"
His current sticking point: He feels that his wheel chair gives him the inability to attract women (Oh yeah... and he is also in a wheel chair for the rest of his life)

He's also read "The Game" (figures lol) so he has basic knowledge of pick-up. Never actually applied anything he learned though.

I send each of my new students a quick survey to fill out so I can get an idea of what type of guy I'm working with. These were his responses:

On a scale of 1 - 10: (1 = Completely Agree 10= Completely Disagree)

-The thought of approaching women scares me......

Your Answer: 1

-I often find myself stuck in the "Friend Zone" with women.....

Your Answer: 1

-I find it difficult to hold an interesting conversation with women or
tend to "freeze up"....

Your Answer: 1

-Women usually consider say I am a "Nice Guy"

Your Answer: 1

-I don't feel very confident in myself when I am talking to a girl....

Your Answer: 1

-I consider myself to be a very logical thinker....

Your Answer: 1

-When operating something that is new and foreign to me, I tend to
read the manual before trying to operate it....

Your Answer: 1

-I learn best by observing.....

Your Answer: 1

-When starting a new project, I tend to stick with it until I
accomplish my goal......

Your Answer: 1

-When I am in the process of learning something new, it is beneficial
for me to have the ability to communicate with others who are studying
similar material as me......

Your Answer: 1

Now, I had my first coaching with this guy about a week ago. It went extremely well. Most of what we had discussed was inner game and developing an attractive lifestyle for himself. I had him list out 10 features about himself that he finds attractive. Once he started, he had no problem coming up with things he found attractive about himself.

Also covered: Understanding Social Psychology and the theory of perception, Female Psychology (emotions, shit tests and bitch shields and what not... explained to him why women act the way that they do), Traits of the "alpha-male" and being a high value guy, gave him some solid fashion advice, (the guy has NO edge to his appearance... We were at the mall so I took him shopping for ideas.) and gave him some ways to help over come his AA. I am a very enthusiastic person and I could totally tell that even as "dead of a person" he was on the inside, I was getting tons of enthusiasm to come out of him. So again, it went very, very well.

After the session, I approached 2 sets for demonstration and he was in complete "awe" of what he had witnessed. (I made out with a girl in the first set I opened... He didn't think it was possible. My goal for the first session was accomplished... Completely twist his fucked up sense of reality.) He's hooked. He's ready to learn.

I gave him a homework assignment of:

1. Get out of the house atleast 4-5 times a week.
2. Say "Hi!" to EVERYONE he sees.

The other day, I got an email from him titled "I am tired of being a wanna-be" so now I know he is even MORE committed to learning. He's scheduled 2 more sessions. One of which will be next Saturday, the next one will be scheduled after.

Here's my plan for his next coaching:

I'm going to take him out on the streets down town Chicago (again, we were in the mall last time) and show him a few more approaches... except this time, I'm gonna do it in a wheel chair. I want to show him that it can be done regardless of his disability. I am going to teach him how to use it to his advantage.

I'm going to shove him into sets and traumatize the guy. I am going to force him to approach and start talking. I'll work on his ability to maintain good eye contact and have good posture, and I'll load his lips with some basic stuff to talk about to give him the ability to hold a 30 second conversation. My goal is to get him opening sets and being able to hold a short conversation by the end of the session.

My ultimate goal is to pull a complete 180 with this guys life. Everything he wants to accomplish is completely do-able. I've also got some hook ups at MTV so I'm going to try and help him fulfill his goal of becoming a screen writer as well.

This is a challenge and an opportunity of a lifetime. Wish me luck guys.

-Majik

Kind of sounds like an instructor's worst nightmare, but it's nice to see you care and really want to help him. Respect.

Thanks bro! It's definitely going to be a tough one but I love a challenge. I'll keep everyone updated as to what his progress is. It will definitely be interesting. This guy being able to master this aspect of his life will mean that NOBODY should ever be able to make excuses as to why they can't do this. And its my job to help him.

Alright gents, had another coaching session with Wheels on Saturday. The session went extremely well. Definitely broke some ground with him... As I knew getting into this, the guy was going to take some work. Unfortunately, I wasn't able to get my hands on a wheel chair when I was out in the city but the thought of his method of transportation affecting his "game" is definitely out of his head.

The session lasted for 4 hours and we spent most of the time working on mostly him approaching strangers. Here's what we worked on/still need to work on improving...

1. His body language- Now, granted he is already sitting down, but he has some strange gestures that he makes with his hands. He puts them up by his face when he starts to get excited about something. I noticed that once he would get really involved and interested in something I was explaining to him or he was about to talk to a girl, he would kinda make like this Dr. Evil gesture. I started slapping his hands down every time he would do it. It's creepy and girls don't like creepy. I'm sure it's some type of nervous tick he has so it's definitely going to take some focus to fix it.

2. His tonality- PROJECTION!!!!!! The guy won't speak up. He is afraid to speak loudly. He has gotten so used to being ignored his whole life that he now feels that he is inconveniencing people when he speaks. I can definitely tell he was starting to vibe off of me and my loudness and beginning to talk louder but it still isn't loud enough. That is going to still take some work. (especially considering this was only street game and not at a club or a bar... Granted, the streets of Chicago are pretty damn noisy. But nowhere near as loud as a club.)

3. His A.A.- This one was pretty obvious to me that it was going to be an issue. I didn't even give him any canned openers or anything like that to use... I simply told him to ask every girl where a Starbucks is at until he got an answer. I did this because I wanted to make sure he knew how loud he had to talk in order to just be heard. We walked past a good 30 people until I told him "I just want a fuckin passion iced tea" and it got the fear out of his head because he now had a reason to approach other than talking to a girl to have sex. Then he finally started asking but nobody was paying attention to him (again, because he doesn't speak loud enough) He is very outcome dependent even with his approaches which is something that is going to take some work. He is afraid of women. I think for our next coaching session, I am going to take him to a strip club so he will become a bit more used to women talking to him... Except they will be naked. This will also help me work on helping him improve his....

4. Eye contact- Wow. The guy could barely look me straight in the eyes. I try and be cool with all my students. Put myself down to their level (no pun intended, but I was sitting down when I was telling him how important eye contact during an interaction is) so they don't feel intimidated by me. But this was bad. I'm thinking that by taking him to a strip club, I can do something along the lines of... take 3 minutes off of his coaching session any time he breaks eye contact with a girl but reward him for every minute he holds eye contact with a girl by adding an extra 15 minutes onto his session. I'm going to have to get creative for that one. He claims its difficult for him to make eye contact because of the fact that he feels like he has to look up at everyone and that he is not worthy. I'm trying to get through his head that it is a part of his life whether he likes it or not. Allow people to get to know the man first, the chair comes second. He can deal with it and adapt to his situation or he can keep using it as an excuse but the fact that he keeps thinking that damn chair is holding him back is not going to get him anywhere. (I can also be a dick when I have to be... Sometimes you've gotta be a little mean. Because nobody else will tell the guy.)

5. His style- Alright, I understand he's in a wheel chair... But that is no excuse to wear an old ass IZOD shirt with sweat pants, (didn't even match those...) a dirty old Cubs hat and 6 year old New Balance shoes. This guy needs a SERIOUS fashion make over. Also during our next session (pre strip club most likely) I am going to take this guy shopping and find some clothes that work for him to give him a little bit of edge and some type of sex appeal. Just because he can't walk, doesn't mean he should be dressed like a bum. This is super important and has got to change.

6. His "presence"- This guy is in a motorized wheel chair that moves at crazy speeds with fuckin metal foot rests on the front that could really fuck someones day up and he is scared to push his way through a crowd. At one point when we were out, I jammed his joystick on the chair forward so he would realize that he needs to move through the crowd the way he wants to and he shouldn't make excuses for his existence. We were in the mall and he would sit there and wait and let other people who would walk right infront of him to get onto the elevator. Fuck that. He needs to stop making excuses for his existence and man the fuck up. People are going to move when see that chair coming or they are going to feel it on the back of their ankles once I'm done with this guy.

There are a few other things that need changed but these are definitely the major ones I am concerned about for right now. Our next session is July 13th. I'll keep you guys posted as to what happens next. This is for sure starting to get interesting.

-Majik

Very creative and only an instructor that really cares would think of something like that. Props.

Question for you regarding #5. Are suits and ties a good peacock for weekdays as Barney Stinson contends? Better than standard jeans and shirts that blend in with the rest?

Honestly, I have found a nice shirt and jeans with a good amount of subtle accessories to be more effective for peacocking vs. a suit and tie because seems to make it look like you just left some office job. I have experimented with sport coats that most people wouldn't wear but I usually end up having to remove them due to a coat check at clubs out here. They work well but don't do much good if you have to take them off. That could just be because of the area I'm from... lots of gun violence in Chicago. They don't want you bringing coats into clubs because it makes it easier to conceal them. (in one case... Some girl spilled red wine all over my white Armani blazer... that was not cool.)

I couldn`t believe the story:

Two things: for you to coach a guy on a wheelchair; that takes some SERIOUS balls.
And second but not least; the guy on a wheelchair has his balls to ask for help!

Respect for both of you; I`ve seen so many fat nerdy guys complaining about being virgins and avoiding the subject, let`s not even talk about them asking for help on how to overcome anxiety and finally get a girl.

To be a guy on a wheelchair and ask for advice on other males it make him different.

Wish you both the best of luck, both of you already made the 50%: to gather the balls to man up and take the challenge!

Thanks man!

It's definitely going to be a rough journey but the ability to see someone who is literally a nothing turn into a something is going to be quite rewarding. The fact that I will have guided him there... That's going to be something to talk about forever.