| My game. My views on PUA.
I think there is a universal thread that runs through this entire philosophy of analyzing male interactions with women, except there are multiple views on how to implement the same basic, core philosophy, and that is dominance. Some call it “high-value” or “high-status”, but I prefer dominance, because it seems less as if you’re trying to please someone’s opinion.
Women love dominance. I need to read more on this topic, and evolutionary biology and psychology, but simply in my own experience, and after having read so much about game for the past two years, many different books, posts on forums, just huge amounts of information, and also after having lived in Mexico City for three months.
I came here from Berkeley, California thinking PUA was bullshit. Almost expecting to hop off the plane, and the girls to hop on my cock. Well, now that I fucked my first Mexican girl, and have quite a few in the process, and am feeling as if I am moving forward in a positive direction with my game, I have realized a few things.
Like I said, I thought simply being tall, blond, American, white, skinny and young, would be enough to get me laid.
Well, its not. Perhaps it helps, I’m sure, but it still does not negate the most important core philosophies of game and those are: dominance, not being needy, approaching lots of girls, and overcoming your fears.
In the usa, I thought the girls would come up to me here and ask for, or give me their numbers (well they don’t do that, but they ask me for photos! LOL not even kidding), but the thing is, even when the girls asked me for the photos, I still needed to know enough Spanish to be able to escalate and communicate with them, enough to build comfort, or get their numbers.
I’m still the man, and they’re still women, and I still need to be the one who approaches first. I have to call them first, ask them to meet with me, first, and kiss them first. I also need to initiate the fuck, first. She needs to be able to blame everything she did, on me. That is basic, and true everywhere, at least in the usa, and in mexico.
One thing I like to think about is communication with women. How do they communicate? Well I cannot explain exactly how they do it, the most important thing, like anything in life, is experience with it, but I can outline some general principles that have helped me immensely in generating attraction with them.
Always be the one who pulls back first. Never answer her questions directly unless you really want to. Always take longer to text her back, than she took to text you, and always say less than her. Always hang up first on the phone. Never do something she says to do, just because she says to do it, only do something if you truly feel that you want to, you’re not giving a fuck about her. Never give a fuck about her, you don’t really, you don’t really want to, and she doesn’t want you to. I’ve asked girls, and they basically confirmed that.
It all comes down to dominance, but some tactics have worked better than others for me.
I took the fact that the girls were asking me for photos on the streets, and turned it into a routine, perfect for text or in person. I like it for text, because its slightly sexual, displays preselection, dominance, and is entertaining. This really happened too. First I ask the girls
“why do all the girls ask me for photos”
Her: “I don’t know, because you’re attractive for girls Mexican” (their English is usually a little bad)
Or “because you’re tall blonde and white American” or something similar. They ALWAYS compliment me on my physical appearance.
Then I tell them I’m thinking of opening a stand to sell my photos for 50 pesos each. I ask them if they’ll help me, its perfect because then I ask them to bring their friends, it seems like I don’t want to fuck them, I’m using them to get other girls. Its great. I’ve never actually done it, maybe I will some day, but for now its perfect as a routine.
They usually ask me if they can take a photo with me, which is a perfect transition into meeting up.
So, women are illogical, men are logical. This whole write-up is very logical, masculine. I learned a lot from david dieda’s way of the superior man, the whole thing about masculine vs feminine energy opened my eyes to what the differences between men and women are.
One really good thing I got from PUA is facing my fears and realizing that there are undercurrents of power that are not explicitly stated, but are implicitly known. Recently I joined toastmasters international, a year and a half ago, it’s a public speaking and leadership organization. Most people are scared as fuck to speak in public, I was too, when I started, its just like approach anxiety. You rationalize a million reasons as to why you can’t do it, rather than just fucking doing it.
I never would’ve known about Robert Greene’s excellent books, the 48 laws of power, 33 rules of war, 50th law, mastery, and of course, the art of seduction. I own all his books, they’re great. I haven’t read a single one all the way through, but I’ve read significant portions of all of them, and his perspective is very interesting, its almost as if he applies the PUA’s philosophies, to the analysis of history. Very good.
They’re not logical. They’ll say one thing and do the opposite five minutes later. All you need, is to be DOMINANT, and keep escalating physically, but back off when they are resistant. The thing is though, I have had MANY experiences with women, thinking afterwards, “fuck, I should’ve been more dominant, or escalated more”, but I have NEVER had an experience where I was too dominant, or escalated too fast, and got totally blown out. One must simply overcome their fears.
I was choking a girl a few nights ago. I first got introduced to choking girls by a girl who I was a total AFC with, she introduced me to PUA. Well, she ASKED me to choke her one night, ( I never fucked her, just kissed her a few times, it was gay) but she asked me, so I did it, and I thought she was weird, there was something wrong with her. She also told me how she loved being dominated, and how she wanted to be raped. I thought she was sick in the head or something.
Well, fast forward two years later, I’m kissing a Mexican girl, I’m seventeen, and shes twenty three, although she does not know my age. I’m kissing her, and I’m touching and feeling her body, however I wanted to, being extremely dominant. I don’t know if she put my hand on her neck, or if I just started choking her, but she fucking loved it. She said she loved it, I could see she loved it. God, just writing about it makes me want to choke her now. She would indicate with her hands and body, when it was too much, and I would let go. I think that made her trust me, because I was extremely dominant, choking her whenever I wanted to, but I would let up when she wanted me to, I did not rape her.
I asked this Mexican girl about rape fantasies. She said she had them. She seemed hesitant to talk about it at first, but then I said I think most girls have them, and she opened up, she said yes, most girls do, she thinks like 70%, like all her friends do.
I think this is natural. Girls LOVE dominance. This is the most important part of pua, no matter where you are in the world. Yes, I have it better here, I’m taller and cooler than everyone here because I’m white, American, tall, blonde, but I still must be DOMINANT, if I’m a pussy, I won’t get any girls. Yes my looks make it better for me, synergistically with game, but they do not replace it.
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