I want to tell you about my last insane week,
where I had tremendous results and why I had them (the post is a read of about 5min).
I’m in the game now for more than 2 years now, hitting it pretty hard the last one and half years, going out constantly 3-4 times at week plus some day game. I actually had a lot of fun, crazy experiences and obviously plenty of sex. But I’m not yet where I want to be, a real “pimp”.
I’m not pulling as much as I want and not the super hot chicks, at least yet. But I’ve the sensation that I moving in the right direction.
Over the last months I understood and internalized 6 key things:
1. I started to enjoy the journey of the game, not only the results
2. I don’t see myself as a victim, but as a fighter
3. I push it fucking hard, but I never take things seriously
4. I enjoy the good and the bad times of the game
5. I always try to leave my comfort zone and try new stuff
6. I have understood that I’ve to work damn hard to get to the top. There is no place for bullshit.
Everything in my life is now aligned to work and going out. And this makes me happy because I’m moving in the direction I want to.
Therefore, two weeks ago, I started to go out solo. This was always a pretty scary for me to do, even if I had done it sometimes during a 30day challenge of going out, which I did last summer.
I went solo because I had nobody to go out this days. I could have stayed at home, just relaxing, but I said: fuck it man, there is no excuse to not go out and approach. Or do you even need a wing to take piss (see point 5 and 6 above of what I’ve internalized)
And you now what?
Leaving my comfort zone and doing what scared me most at this point (going out solo), was so damn rewarding. I had a crazy last week, which was a huge reference experience for me. I want to tell you what happened and why and hopefully you can get some inspiration out of it.
I went out alone by night on Sunday, Monday and Tuesday in a row.
On
Sunday I just talked to a couple of sets and get a number from a cute blond ( I went in for the kiss, as it is something I’ve committed to do if I’m set for longer then 15min), but most important I had a lot of fun and I was approaching alone, what gave me a lot of confidence to go out also the next days alone.
On
Monday I went out again alone. From my first approach, a cute but pretty small 8, I got a make out and the number. As I noticed that she was really into me and the probability to date here was high, I decided to push it hard instead of trying to play it safe, so I switched sets...(you've to be a pretty big dickhead to do that)
And I did the right thing. I opened a solid 7, who was in the venue with her gay friend. I spend the whole night with her and her gay friend and finally took her home…
It was the first time I went out alone and get laid. Awesome experience.
On
Tuesday I decided to go out again, obviously highly motivated from the 2 days before…I know, it’s not the best to get the motivation from external successes rather than from inside, but what you want to hear? It motivates pretty much to get laid, doesn’t it?
So I went out alone. But it was a different feeling then in the past when I went out. I wasn’t going out because of doing some approaches; I was going out with the mindset of getting laid. And I did!
I laid a hot blonde 9, one of the hottest girls I had so far. And it was my first approach of the night…
Amazing. But why was that?
Well, because of different reasons.
• I felt completely entitled. I had pulled the day before (the girl was sending me sms to see us again).
• I understood that I can have a lot of fun when going out solo.
• I had the reference experience from the two days before.
• I loved myself because I was affronting my fear and not excusing.
• I was super relaxed, not pushing the interaction to hard, but still moving it forward.
On Wednesday and Thursday I stayed at home and did some work. On Friday I dated the girl I KC and NC on Monday before switching sets. And I laid her too!
It means that I had three lays in one week by going out solo,
fucking amazing! This is the biggest reference experince in my game so far. I had two lays in one week a couple of months ago, but this was another thing as by I was going out with wings.
The point where I want to arrive is this:
On
Saturday, I could have met any of the three girls I laid, just to enjoy the night, have a couple of drinks and enjoy the sex. It seems reasonable after a week like that, doesn’t it? But you know what I did?
Exactly. I went out alone again.
I didn't get any big results on Saturday apart from a nr, but I loved me so much for pushing me.
Man, and here is the big difference. I’m starting to be process oriented and to see the bigger picture. I know where I want to get and what I’ve to for this. There is an ancient saying that states that for achieving real mastery you’ve to be willing to put off short-term pleasure for the sake of the long term achievement.
I’m not suggesting you to do this, as we are all gaming for different reasons and with different backgrounds. And I’m completely agreeing on spending and enjoying time with girls you like.
I’m just saying that I think that if you want to reach a real high level, you’ve to do pretty sick stuff and constantly leave your comfort zone for a longer period of time.
Do you think I hadn’t enjoyed just seeing one of the three girls I laid again on Saturday and chill? Of course man. Specially the blonde one from Tuesday, as the sex was really good.
But instead I went out. And get many blowouts. And that’s good. You wanna now why?
After laying three girls in a week, you feel like fucking champion. The problem is, i
t’s too easy to just rest on your laurels…
But as I went out and
get a couple of blowouts at the beginning of the night, reality hit me hard in the face. The problem is: I knew I had laid three girls within a week, but the girls I approached on Saturday didn’t knew how awesome I’m. Bam, back to reality.
You know, after laying a couple of girls, it’s just too easy to lay back and say you’ve game…But to keep pushing your self, go through all the bullshit that girls give you when you approach (and will always give you, undependably of your game level), it’s hard.
But it’s what
you ultimately have to do for couple of years to reach a top level.
Obviously, it is also important to full your life with positive emotions, and you can’t push yourself 24/7. But I think you got the idea I’m trying to tell you here.
I will post soon the field report of the pull on Tuesday, as it was a pretty tough thing and I had to overcome a couple of hurdles. I would like to hear from you anything you think, positive or negative.
You also find a field report with lay (it’s called: “Laid a 8 who was partying with two guys-complete breakdown”) from a couple of month ago, when I also had pretty good momentum…in between I had some real tough months too, but that’s part of the game
Hitting it hard,
until next time,
Anchu
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