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 Post subject: Daben's Journal.
PostPosted: Fri Nov 09, 2012 12:14 am 
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Hey. I'm a 26 year old living in long island, new york. I work in a hospital M-F, 8-4:30.

So for those of you that don't know, New Jersey-New York was pretty badly messed up last week from a hurricane. I went a few days without power (no big deal), but there have been issues with gasoline, crazy long lines to fill up (like... people getting in fist fights and others waiting 7 hours). And there's a snowstorm right now. Basically, this just means Im going a little stir crazy and spent the weekend locally, leading to an uneventful solo night (or two.), and now, decided to set up this thread, just to get it in place.

Ok. So, just for a little bit of info, I got "into" pickup from a meetup group November 2010. Ended up in a relationship for a year or so, then was hanging out with my couchsurfing crew, and now I am focused primarily on pickup. I made an effort to force myself out (3 days a week) about 6 weeks ago, as opposed to 1-2 nights a week.

Here are some things I am working on.
1- I want to approach attractive girls more often, so I decided to do a "100 approach goal." Based on some crap I thought of, that only girls that I would bang count towards the 100, and I need to make a solid effort to actually progress towards an F close (that way, I can't just open for the sake of adding a number towards 100). Also, I will open guys, girls Im not attracted to, etc, they just won't count.

2- Becoming a better wing. A buddy of mine went to a free RSD event last month and came back with this "it's never over" attitude which kind of rubbed off on me. A night was kind of stale, getting late, we walk into a bar at 3am to find a dwindling crowd, open a two set, and both SNL.

This worked out well. However, he didn't think he had an opportunity and I didn't think I had an opportunity to pull, but were each staying in these interactions thinking we were distracting the obstacle. Here, it all turned out ok, plus it was 3 am, but I decided in the future, after a 1/2 hour or so, it's important to find out what's going on during a brief huddle. Girls go to the bathroom together, so same thing. Remerge sets, then isolate again.

Another thing that i immediately fixed. A different friend and I were talking to two girls, I do erm... thinking of the phrase... I don't know, isolate, lead, move around venue, etc. using "I need water, come with me to the bar." The first night (girl A), I walked to the bar and got caught up trying to get bartender's attention and lost the target's attraction. However, the second night (girl B), I did the same exact thing, except when I got to the bar, I focused on her.

ps, girl B is an HB8 from Brazil, been here for 3 months. I wanted an immediate Day2, but "storm" interfered. Im seeing her Friday. ps, texting a non native english speaker is a pain, haha.

3- Flying Solo/ Social Circle Mastery/ merging sets-
I've gone out solo maybe 16 times since I read the game (I think it was 2009, before the meetup group, including maybe 4 times where I was peacocking like an idiot), not comfortable at all, very little activity. Enough said, something that I want to try more.


[PS, as i wrote this, my power went out and I got pissed off because I would not be rewriting this, but thankfully chrome saved it. haha]

Social Circle mastery- being more sociable overall. I started going through this product from Lovesystems and it seems solid.

Merging sets, both groups (ie friends from work, couchsurfing crew, wingmen crew) and making these all interact. I've felt weird doing this in the past... probably, because the last time I did this, I was helping out this guy that just started... [to get an idea, he was running canned material and stories from the Game on me], went up to my other friends and kind of intensely got in their faces questioning why they weren't approaching women. strange shit.


As far as what Im saying. I'm pretty good with kino. I like to think "if you aren't touching her, how do you plan on f-ing her." But that's physical. Now, I want to get the conversation sexual, so that's

[power just went out again... I struck my knee, screamed "COME ON. EVERYDAY!]. so I am going to wrap this up.

Yes. I want to bring the conversation into sexual innuendos. probablyhavesuggestionsbutiamdonewiththisrightnow.

[PS. my power went out again at 9pm, so I am posting this the following day, haha]

Cheers.

DB


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 Post subject: FR- 11/9/12
PostPosted: Sat Nov 10, 2012 4:26 pm 
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I decided to do a group hangout with the brazilian chicks from halloween and two of my buddies. I had built enough attraction with her a couple weeks ago, and I made sure to come to her and pick her up, push her around, reclaim the girl, whatever.

This was a little strange for me, but it's a step in the right direction. I heard tyler from RSD talk about this actually yesterday, and was talking about "bringing the girl to the club/ bootcamps" or whatever for the day2.

I take a walk with my buddy patrick. He's from Germany, got here in august. His english is alright, but it's tough when we are out at times. I made up a routine for him where he's a professional photographer from Berlin, so he is supposed to grab the target's camera when they are taking pictures of themselves, set up for the pic, and as he takes it, start waving his finger and saying "no,no,no,no,no" dramatically. then kick it from there.

(Ill say approach 11) Anyway, he and I walk around the bar, and I jump on an HB8 and HB6 in the corner. One has a shot, the other has an empty cup. "why are you letting your friend get fucked up by herself and you are sitting here with water?" Patrick jumps in too early, which is perfectly fine, starting to chat HB8, which is [a little less] perfectly fine. but whatever, he jumped in, so it's a start. im chatting, patrick's convo dies, "mother hen" (is that the term?) comes in, and I suck, try to open her/ bring her into convo, nada.
Rather than walking away, I start talking to two guys standing next to me. (I keep on talking to them throughout the night. Talk to guys about girls, beer, or sports. I saw one guy standing against the wall not dancing later in the night. I told him no one is judging him and it doesn't matter, so go stand in the middle of the dance floor and jump around like you own the place. It'll be much more fun.)

Go back to the group, mess with the brazilian. I see a girl yawn, immediately jump on her "you arent allowed to yawn here." shoot the shit for a little while, but decided to find the original group. She asked a couple of times what I do for a living, which is fine. But rather than making something up, I am saying "ok, here's what we are going to do. You can ask me questions, but you have to alternate between fun questions and regular questions. And I can ask whatever I want."

As far as the yawning, the girl "getting messed up" etc. I know I use these as situational openers. However, I decided rather than needing those criterion to be there (ie a shot, a visible yawn), you can say it at anytime. "You just yawned, that's not allowed (even if she didnt)." she will deny it "no I didn't." yes you totally did, I saw it, but I won't tell. But only if you serve as my bodyguard for the next 10 minutes. "

Went back to brazilian and friends, danced around. Eventually left, hung out in my car for a few hours. Oh, watched a truck blow up and set another car on fire in the parking lot at 5am, so called the cops on that. I'm not sure why Im timid with a brazilian girl. The first time I opened her, she mentioned how americans dance too close, "too sexy." I want to say this is universal (body language, sex, whatever), but Im not well rounded in my international lays. I think Ive gotten in my head questioning if there's some cultural discrepancy that Im missing, but it could just be that I suck, haha.

[edit. Oh, next time I can say "let's go to a hotel." "I want to rip your clothes off."]
This is stupid, I dont know what I was thinking.

[edit take two. My kino is good. For some reason, I was in the mindset that I need to be on the topic of sex. I can just slip in "we are not having sex" or "if you keep on giving me those eyes, Im going to take you home and spank you." a couple times, if I even need to. otherwise, just pull. because I have an awesome bottle of wine, or the coolest picture on my computer. and I live like 15 minutes away, its fine."]

cheers


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 Post subject: 11/10/2012
PostPosted: Sun Nov 11, 2012 9:34 am 
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approach 12.
there were a few approaches and messing around, but I went out with my buddy from Germany (I wanted to stay local after being out until 6am or whatever with the brazilian and barely sleeping).

I was dancing and making out for about a half hour with a girl I met from a dating site a few months ago, just having fun.

I opened another set HB6,HB7 and threw patrick into it for patrick, but he lost their interest. Because I am not very comfortable going out solo, I figured I can groom him into a wing, or at least give him enough material to keep his conversations going for more than 2 minutes.

I know I mentioned these other goals, but I should make sure I open 10 sets a day, and also count towards the 100. Maybe try to intentionally get blown out of a set also, test limits of what I can and can't get away with. not sure exactly how to go about that.

Now that gas and power is for the most part back to normal, Ill be sure to get my butt out a few times in the next week and get some work done. I stopped at starbucks today and it inspired me, maybe Ill add a couple of day approaches also. Yea. 1 direct day game approach by next sunday at 4:33am... I dont think Ive done that since... 2008.

cheers


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