Hi,

I have been talking with this girl, she is Dutch, in the past 3 weeks on Facebook messenger, that is where I meet her.
I was about to sign up for her Dutch course, but then I changed my mind, and while letting her know that I wont go there, I asked her to go out with me sometimes.
On that she was neging but instantly started talking to me, and we talked about 3 hours that day..
After that, she called me for a coffee at the university, it was short, since I had classes, but we mad, and everything was ok. No kiss no nothing since we weren't alone + at university.

Yesterday night she messaged me again on FB while I was getting ready to go out with some friends..
She asked me about where am I going out, I told her the place... and she responded "I like the place, you know?" (she self invited)

On the end she asked me for my number, I gave it to her, but without the last digit, and said to her, if she want it she needs to find the last one herself.

later on I was out with my friends, and there is her SMS, " I found your number"

Then again she was being decision-less if she wants to go out or not, but finally she was with me after one hour..
We got some drinks and started dancing ( this was my 3 time seeing her in life) and after a while I tried to kiss her. She didn't wanted with saying "you're my dutch student" ( I reapplied again last week) After 15 minutes we went to the bar and we started kissing..

After some time she said we should be just friends, and you should find another girl.. then she was asking questions about me and my life.. and again kissed for a while.. and again " we should be friends"

I said to her, OK if you want we will be friends.. I didn't texted her today or anything, but then there she is again , starting to chat with me again..same like previous.

So my question to you gurus is what is the game with this girl? I really dont get it.
Is it the Dutch culture or I am doing something wrong?

p.s. I'm new in Netherlands and I haven't got much experience with Dutch girls, although I've heard they are really complicated and rude.

Thank you!

Dutch, german, australian, madagascarian, bananalandian.

Doesn't really matter where she is from. Women are women. They are just altered slightly by culture, but they still live and act off emotion, which never changes.

She's apparantly giving you a massive amount of shit testing and is very stuck up. I would've told her to fuck off already but im guessing you want her pretty badly. So here's the irony.

You're not gonne get her if you want her pretty badly. She's the kind of girl that reacts on the "i really don't give a crap attitude". But you really don't have to give a crap to make that work.

She is doing all the work because she is looking for someone to control/lead her by not acting, if that makes any sense to you at all. If you try to force her she will get turned off immediatly and its game over.

What i would do is keep going at it, accept the "just friends" shit test and keep a SEXUAL frame every time u see her. Do not go mushy friendzone AFC type on her now (or ever, but im sure you're familiar with it). Keep ESCALATING and kissing/touching her whenever u can. If she resists, just act like nothing happened, you're still friends and try again later. Don't be afraid to game other girls infront of her (She will break very fast if u do it that way).


Good luck.