Hi all,

So a mini field report here and a question for following up with text game.

Wingman and I go to classy bar in Amsterdam. Full of women, almost no guys. It turns out it was an event from a Facebook group for nannies / babysitters, etc (all 18 and above). We immediately get approached by two chicks. We split targets. My target is kind of chill and almost disinterested, looking around. Wingman seems to be doing great with his. I am locked in at the bar so I just start talking to her very casually like what brings her to town, etc.

I notice she is quite drunk and looks intently into my eyes and gets quite close. I maintain very confident eye contact with a smile. We keep talking, at some point she goes to tell something to her friend, gives her a hug, comes back. I ask her what that was about she says her friend is very cute, like a country girl, etc. I tell her I can also picture her as a country girl and she would be quite cute and I pinch her cheek.

She immediately changes her behavior and starts pressing her body against mine, then pulling back. Basically a common push pull. I sort of escalate with kino and she will occasionaly let me touch her and lean into me or just push my hand away. She says something sexual and I tell her maybe she'll have me if she plays her cards right. We end up having two separate conversations. A casual one with words and a push-pull game with kino. Throughout the time I maintain confident eye contact and a smile. I ask her what she's passionate about, about holidays, how many counries she's visited, standard stuff. I mostly focus on things I like and am quite intense when talking about them.

Her friend starts telling my wingman that my target has a boyfriend, etc.

My target hits me on my shoulder as if to say goodbye, all of a sudden, out of the blue. She goes "well, enjoy your drink then". I recognize it as a shit test. I stay non-reactive, keep smiling and I say thanks, I will. Pause. Where are you going? She smiles, stays put, pushes me against the bar.

After some more conversation and kino she starts texting one of her other friends who left earlier and tried to pull her away to find out where they went. I put my arm around her and I make fun of her typing mistakes, being like sheesh, and you're gonna be teaching kids how to write and stuff? She keeps laughing and can hardly finish the text. She sends it puts the phone back in her purse. I say "what, you don't wait for a reply" she goes "no, I don't care". I give a fake startled face which she mirrors and she's like "yeah, I'm cruel, you shouldn't be talking to me". I'm like "yep, I know, you're probably gonna end up breaking my heart aren't you?" but in a very confident way and body language. She pushes me back, then pulls herself towards me and kisses me. I stay non reactive, keep smiling and talking to her, pulling her in.

We continue on this push / pull thing with more kissing and her sort of touching my crotch now.

Her friend starts asking my wingman "what is your friend doing???" etc. In any case, they talk for a bit among themselves and decide to leave. My target, quite drunk, really wants me to come with them, my wingman has had enough of the cockblocking friend and its not going anywhere. We decide to number close them, I tell my target I'll text her later that night to meet up. She makes me promise and they leave.

We go to a few bars and clubs we had never been before but not much going on. I decide to text my target.

I send a very casual text, "hey, (wingman's name) is going to be leaving in a while, lets meet up and grab a bite. maybe a wiener schnitzel? :p" (she's from austria and wiener schnitzel is an austrian dish. plus we're in amsterdam. so i assume she didn't do a US-style interpretation)

No response after 24 hours. The end.

So, I'm wondering two things:

1) Did I miscalculate and should instead have followed them? It was more like a its now or never kind of thing. I just didn't think following her with 3 cockblocking friends would be ideal. And that texting her after would give her more flexibility to leave her friends and join me. Thing is, she's from out of town so they would have probably all left together rather than her going ok guys I'm going home. Didn't think of that.

2) Any text game tips for this? Should I be very casual, hey it was great talking to you, lets go get coffee / make it more about the event in case she feels self-conscious and thinks I'm gonna have expectations or think of her as slutty? Or should I just play it sexual? Any text-game threads / samples for followups and/or escalations?

Thanks!

here is your fundamental mistake:
your hitting on a girl with a putative BF who is drunk and clearly open to physically escalating. Under those circumstances alone the fact that you will ever hear from her again once the emotional state has disappeared is slim. Your default option in this situation is to isolate and escalate to close, anything else is deckchairs on the titanic.

Well, you were doing just fine until you ended with,

We decide to number close them, I tell my target I'll text her later that night to meet up. She makes me promise and they leave.

Don't rely on number closes.. Rely on 'F-Closes'!!! It doesn't necessarily mean your joining the cockblockers and her circle where to head to. You could join them for a little while, but isolate immediately.

"How about we bail your/our friends and do something fun. But unless your not adventurous enough, then don't bother."


Don't over think it. Just have fun and enjoy the game.. But remember..
Sign it, Seal it and Deliver it.

Cheers

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I appreciate your feedback guys! That's also what I thought but I was hoping there might be a way to re-initiate this.

Thanks!