Went out last night, out of town with a friend. Soon as we got there, my friend spots two girls he knows, they say that the club we were planning to go to has a ridiculously long queue, and we should just go to a bar, my friend asked me if I wanted to go to a bar with them but I wasnt remotely attracted to either girl so I said no.

Parted ways with those girls and waited in the queue for this club, insanely long queue! Started joking with my friend that there is probably 7 billion people (the total world population) in the queue, and two girls in front of us turned around like "what!?!?" and i said "well how many people do you think are in this queue" they both said their guesses and I was like "no you're both well off, it's at least 100"... Kept going with that conversation they started talking about their holiday to Spain and how bad it sucked - then they said they're gonna give up waiting in the queue and go to a bar down the road, we were just like "ok cool we might go there later, who knows", they disappeared (by the way they were in a group of 4 but the other 2 were uninterested and not getting involved in the conversation).

5-10 minutes later me and my friend made the decision not to wait any longer so we went to a bar down the road (a different one to the one the girls went to), on the way to the bar we spoke to a 3 set, just a quick conversation, opened with asking for directions then transitioned, they didnt want to stick around - they wanted to get to the club so they could queue up (they never said any of this but I could read their body language) so we said bye and moved on.

Walked into the bar, my friend wanted to open a 3 set (I thought, ohhhh man a 2 set would be so much more convenient) but that's all there was so I said "yeahhhh let's do it". He led the way, closely followed by me, he walks up to them and said "can you guys recommend somewhere for my friend to go it's his first night out in this town?", they said "ohhh there's not really anywhere good to go tonight most places arent open" and I said "well this place cant be too bad otherwise you wouldnt be here!", then we got into a really long conversation, I asked them about their work, tried my best to make witty/funny comments like when one says she's studying primary education, I laugh and go "oh so you like shouting at little kids, you're mean" etc. etc. They asked us how old we were, my friend said "19", but I used a little trick I like to play when they asked me, I said "guess", one of them guessed "19" (which was correct) but I said "close, I'm 20", the reason I do this is to prevent from accidentally "age cock-blocking" myself, to avoid the risk of girl saying you're too young/too old, make yourself roughly how old she wants you to be! Conversation was going pretty well we were kind of teasing each other (the oldest girl was about to turn 30 and I told her she was the OAP of the group my friend was teasing her as well saying stuff like "as soon as you turn 30 you're gonna have so many wrinkles and crows feet!), making jokes about people around us (one guy was asleep, with his head resting in his hands, on the table), bartender told the girls to finish their jugs of drink as the place is closing soon I just said "watch out he's trying to rape you, don't drink those too fast" haha just in a joking way. We kept the conversation going strong till the place closed and they shut the lights off and we all got kicked out, the girls said they're going to the club (the one we were in the queue for earlier on) I said "good luck getting in! you wont get in but good luck anyways", said bye to them with handshakes (retrospectively should have hugged but whateverrrr), also weird how they asked our names and we told them but then didn't ask for theirs lol!!!

We waited a short while so it didn't look like we were following them, then went back to the queue for the club (it was shorter this time but still very long!), spoke to a mixed set for a while (2 guys and 1 girl) talking about Uni and how much of a laugh it can be, then started talking to a 2-set, one Canadian one Czech, could tell my friend was really into the Canadian chick, so I kind of left him to it a bit, in retrospect I should have got a bit more involved in that interaction - I also started talking to two guys behind us in the queue simultaneously (one was mad cos he got kicked out for no reason, or so he said haha) so it was hard for me to stay involved in both conversations lol. We said we're probably gonna go to another bar down the road (the place the 4 set at the beginning went to), Canadian chick gave my friend her number and said I'll text you and you let me know if it's good and then we'll come down. Got to the front of the queue, doorman asking for ID - time to make the final decision, in or out? By now it was 01.00 and we heard the place was set to close at 2.00 or 2.30 at the latest! So I decided "nahhhh not worth it let's go to that place down the road".

We got there, the place was pretty much completely deserted in the entranceway I was like "ohhhh no!", but we walked down further and it was like a bit of a basement type arrangement - really packed! I was like "well this is good let's walk around", spotted the two girls we were talking to at the beginning of the night in the queue for the club, played it cool pretended not to notice them. Then one of them (the wayyy hotter one) spotted us (not sure if she spotted both of us or just me) then she pointed at us with her arm fully outstretched (one of the most glaringly obvious IOI's I've ever got), still I "played it cool", stood there with my back to the bar looking around then I made brief eye contact with her, brief smile then looked away again. At the time I felt this was the right move but in retrospect I feel like it was completely wrong, I feel that I may have accidentally rejected her by not showing enough interest at seeing her again.

Saw the other 3-set we were talking to at the bar earlier on, my friend spoke to one of them quickly, I didn't feel fully comfortable with approaching again as it was a 3-set and there was only two of us. I gave one of them a friendly arm round the shoulder then moved on... Canadian girl from earlier texted my friend saying they're coming but I saw no sign of them dunno what happened there haha

Rest of the night wasn't too eventful, spoke to one girl briefly, but it didnt seem to be getting anywhere so I bailed, place closed about 2.00AM and we got a cab home. Taxi driver was going on about how you should only drink a very slight amount since if you have too much it messes up your intuition and stuff, also told us how London is THE ONE for clubbing (neither me nor my friend have ever been out in LDN), haha cab driver got game! Final thoughts: I didn't hook up but I've never spoken to anywhere near this many girls in one night before! I never used to approach... and some of the stuff I was saying was soooooo smooth! I'm proud of myself looooooool

Anyways stuff I learned:
- always talk to girls in the street outside clubs and bars/ in the queue. They're a lot more approachable when their outside for some reason.
- opening big groups is no biggie as long as you're confident and you distribute attention equally!
- dont be afraid of opening a group just cos there's guys in it...
- its importance to get the right balance of showing interest, if you show too much interest you appear needy and just like an AFC really.... if you dont show enough interest then the girl thinks you're rejecting her!!!!!
- you'll find a lot of tips about how to act in these forums but if you only remember one thing make it CONFIDENCE, look confident feel confident sound confident act confident BE confident.

Thanks for reading, feedback and constructive criticism would be awesome guys.

TS.