AFC reporting in.
22 years old Aussie. Never had a relationship last more than afew weeks. I keep getting in the friend zoned because I don’t build attraction or make a move. My whole life I’ve put girls I liked on a pedestal.

Recently, I had strong feelings for a girl. Lost sleep thinking about her. For two weeks we would lie in bed and talk for hours, however nothing ever happened (After reading the game I can see she was giving me a lot of IOI’s ). Then she went and slept with a random guy. Doesn’t get more AFC then that right?

From what girls say I’m attractive, I just don’t know how to take their interest and k or f-close. I think fear of rejection and lack of experience plays a big part.

Goals:
Be able to approach women.
Overcome approach anxiety, fear of rejection
Overcome anxiety about carrying an interesting conversation
Improve phone game
Create friends with benefits The ultimate goal. I’m sick of being a coward. It’s clear they want it, They just need me to make it happen.
Also I become quiet when more than 2 other people join a conversation. I guess it’s because there’s enough participants for the conversation to stay alive without my involvement.

Progress:
This is over the course of 2 months.

1st month
Drinking at a club and a HB sat by herself on a lounge opposite me and my mates. After some gentle encouragement from the boys I got up and talked to her after the intro and name exchange we made awkward conversation:
AFC: How often do you come here?
Her: Saturday and Sunday
AFC: Do you like it?
Her: Yeah, that’s why I come here.
Painful I know. She was pretty much on her phone the whole time. I ended up asking her if she had a boyfriend and when she said no I told her to give me her number. After making strong eye contact for afew seconds she gave it to me. Then as I was getting up I said: “I’m going to head back to my mates, how about a kiss before I go?”. Poor form, but K-closed. Watching "Keys to the VIP" gave me the structure for this approach.

Current Month
Went through my phone looking for friends I thought I could spark some interest with. Asked afew to hang out over text. Many seemed keen but we had trouble pinning a day. Anyway this little exercise build some confidence that girls are willing to hang out with me at the least.

Took a girl on a shopping date (this was a huge milestone for me). She did most of the talking, which is good because conversation is one of my biggest insecurities. The conversation will be going well and then I get wrapped up in my thoughts thinking about how I worry about keeping a conversation going well, which ends up distracting me from the conversation (I’m my own worst enemy in this regard). Plenty of IOI’s from her.
Definitely need to work on kino. She actually initiated kino, where as I did nothing. We’ve arranged to have lunch later this week. I’m starting to think about what we can talk about (not sure if this is normal). I’ll attempt to build kino even though I’m naturally reserved, possibly review some routines: the cube, thumb war (any suggestions?).

I hope this wasn't as painful for you to read as for me to write. Any suggestions to start becoming an AFC would be appreciated.

Something I'd like to know is are feelings involved when you become a PUA?

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Just do it.