Gnomefan and I, both rAFCs/aPUAs, just went out two Saturdays ago to Vertigo Club at Mid Valley, Kuala Lumpur. My recollection of the number of ladies may or may not be 100% accurate, so I will try to remember it as I go anyway.


A bit of background

Gnomes and I met up at around 11:30. It was our first time meeting each other, and we got along well. I'd just come from a friend's birthday celebration, and that group I was with also went to the same club. The ladies were quite a bit older, and the men were all gay. I'm not even kidding; I was the only straight guy in that entire group who are pretty well-connected, one of them even getting me into a club once without the door charge because he knew the manager

Gnomes had earlier arranged for another four or five guys to show up, but they never showed. We don't have time for indecisive people.

Gnomes clearly had done his homework by reading up PUA material, which I'd hardly done prior to our meet, and was mentioning terms which I'd either forgotten or never learned. Of course, I was glad that I'd met someone with this much enthusiasm for pick-up. Some time during the night he mentioned how he'd number-closed once a lady by negging her the right way (jokingly calling her a lesbian).

Prior to discovering the PUA community, I would just wing it. Give me an automatic firearm, put me at one end of a warehouse and targets at the other end, make them moving targets, and turn off the lights. That's pretty much my game then. I'd hit 5 out of a 100, but it was better than not shooting at all. In hindsight, I never noted the things which had led me to number-close in the past, which is a shame.


The night

Opened seven or eight sets. Could have done more but we were in a club. Several factors hindered our opening. One was the loud music, which made conversation difficult. The amount of alcohol going around, mixed-in with the dancing and loud music, made opening sets like trying to talk to people with severe ADHD.

Approach anxiety and genuine nervousness got to us for the first two sets, but that became less of a problem once we had the warm-up. One particularly cute girl was dancing alone while her boyfriend had gone to the washroom, but when I approached her and asked her, "Do I look gay, because some guys outside were hitting on me," she laughed and told me, "No, you don't. I'm sorry, I really like this song. " Then she went back to dancing. She did smile and wave the next time we passed her, but I never followed up and instead went to work on more sets.

Gnomes approached and opened two or three sets early in the night (and by early I meant just past midnight) and they were a 2-set, a 3-set and a 5-set with all of them being ladies-only sets. He'd ask for their opinion, and point at me and say, "Does my friend there look like a drug dealer?" If they asked why, he'd say, "Some guys outside asked if he was carrying any." Then I'd come over and we'd start joking about it. We then asked them, "How would you know? Do YOU do drugs?"

This was quite exciting and new to me. The only problem was that we did't stick around to carry on the conversation, and we weren't interested in having drinks anyway since we wanted to stay alert for more sets.

One Caucasian lady was sitting alone and drinking, and when I approached her from the side with the, "Do I look gay?" opener she gave me a "no" and gave me a defensive bitch-shield by just turning away.

I'm pretty sure that some sets had seen us approach others, but what do I care. We made a few people laugh, and I know they saw it too. Maybe it was just being outrageous and sometimes ridiculous that got us the positive results. There was one mixed set which I approached with the, "Oh dude, did you see that fight outside (two girls fighting over one guy etc.)?" opener. We even joked about how some women should not leave the house, in front of their ladies too.


In conclusion

As rAFCs, we have a long way to go. We got to approach a few sets, and found that the anxiety wore off after a few sets. We had problems keeping the conversation going, rapport building and of course, escalation.

We're meeting at The Curve in Mutiara Damansara this Friday the 27th, with a few other guys. Not sure about their PUA/AFC status.

Drop me a PM if you're interested.