26/7/12
I recently took a trip to visit my cousin. This is someone i have looked up to my entire life: in almost every aspect he is who i want to be when i am his age (8 years my senior).
i spent the weekend picking his brain, speaking philosophy and learning how he produces the results that i am looking to emulate. i learnt his diet, we went to the gym, he taught me his sleep pattern and we spoke of spirituality which is a domain of life i am begining to explore. since the trip i have been on top of things, regularly exercising, eating healthily, sleeping well, learning daily about spirituality and conversational skills.
the fire to aspire to greatness that once burnt so brightly inside me has been lit once again.


this journal will document my adventures in the ambition to take control of my ability to meet women, feel free to read along but the point of this is for personal reflection and a reminder of why i am doing this.

safety.

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just because my name is safety doesn't mean i like condoms

01/08/12

Today i made my first real approach after starting this thread.
I passed up alot of oportunties since starting the thread: at uni a girl made eyes with me for at least 3 or 4 minutes at the poster stall and i did nothing. Another girl whom i have had interactions with before where there is basically an its on vibe looked at me the other day and i did nothing. I went out on saturday night for a friends reunion and there were plenty of women i could have talked to but didnt.
so today growing ever frustrated with myself i hung out with my wing on campus. We both passed up more than our fair share of sets and left with our tails between our legs. then before work he forced me to open a girl who i had said was cute tha was working at the shopping centre, the interaction didnt go far, I went in direct, made a few jokes, and went straight for the close. naturally i was shut down with the "boyfriend" excuse but i can seee where went wrong and most of all i walked away thinking

"why the fuck do i always do this?! I put so much pressure on myself to approach from fear of rejection and then when i actually get rejected it doesnt hurt half as much as the time I wasted"

So even though there was no close and i completely bombed im happy.
because now the fire is beginning to heat up.

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just because my name is safety doesn't mean i like condoms

2/8/12

(writing in hindsight)
The other day I went and directly opened a girl whom I have spoken to a few times and flirted with before. I was instantly shut down. It was actually pretty brutal. I assume the fact that it has been months since I hit on her last coupled with the fact I have seen her around a lot made me look A) creepy B) a pussy.
Lesson learnt. 3 second rule is serious.

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just because my name is safety doesn't mean i like condoms

Damn right is serious! But rules can be broken.. Just learn how to break them properly. That's what I'm learning.

In my experience, I've had some success in the past with Girls even if I saw them and didnt apply the 3 sec rule. Even if it was almost the end of the night at the bar, I still aproach them sober and have a good time..

Im re-gainning that confidence and experience again

Good luck man !!

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".. I will learn all that I've forgotten, I will succeed where I'd previously failed, and even if I don't I wont stop, cuz this is not just about girls, this is about Life "

Good work man! And yea of course the rule can be broken but right now I need to be more strict on myself or I will never get anywhere...

8/8/12

Over the weekend I didn't go out. I was however invited over to a girl house for drinks, long story, roommate sorta cock blocked me and I wasn't really being forward enough anyway. But at one point it seemed like she was implying she wanted to be fwb. I'll update as that situation continues.
Today I was at uni, I've been reading "how to win friends and influence people" today's chapter was all about the importance of smiling and complimenting people. I ended up making a female friend trough another, opened a two set and spoke for a while, met up with my wing where we together worked a set. None of them went anywhere mostly due to the fact that I didn't show any intent. Still at least I'm found something.

What I learned: unless you show intent you may aswel be friendzoned.

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just because my name is safety doesn't mean i like condoms