So being my first field report and slightly drunk and having just finished The Game, I felt it was time to write a field report and get a few responses on my game.

So I'm a melbourne boy, australia. Out tonight with a mate, winging him as I usually do fine by myself. I saw a rather empty crowd at a bar called Fad Gallery. I noticed a group of girls tearing it up on the dance floor with what I presumed was the gay friend (who later turned out to have a wife). I approached the male first and from there he introduced me to his work mates. I immediately got on well with his friend and work mate Jess. As she was a 7.5 I opened with hey, hows it going... We had some common interests and in between getting to know her and her friends who I spent some time with before coming back to her. She was bumping up next to me and sipping her drink and smiling a lot, A LOT. I wanted to, and should have put my arm around her but didn't.

By this stage she went off to get a drink and I started chatting to another girl, Steph. I opened well, smiled a lot to her and she smiled back and then she offered to and bought me a drink while chatting generally. (First time a girl bought me a drink in a while), she came in an out of my periphery vision most of the night, she said she felt tired, so I offered we sit down. Sat on a sofa, but I felt like we weren't connecting, she had her legs crossed. I'd had what I think was now my down fall but too much to drink and forgot a lot of the "steps" so after 5mins, kanye west came on, she got up to dance and I was left alone.

I saw Jess numerous times through tonight, but couldn't close it. We seemed to click but I couldn't bring myself to put my arm round her, we even danced here and there but... I'm 26 and closed numerous girls in the past but after reading: The Game, it's kinda thrown me off and now unsure how to proceed to closing... I have what I think most of the game down but yes, alone tonight.

HbyDesign

The ideal time to get a number close is just after attraction and before you get too deep into comfort. Maybe you've spent 10 minutes building rapport past attraction, go for the number. Then continue into comfort to get to know each other further before pushing to kissing and escalating kino.

Remember legs being crossed is not a "closed off" body language. A lot of people think that legs and arms being cross is negative, it could be but not necessarily. Some people don't know what to do with their hands so they naturally cross their arms as just a comfort factor. Women are taught to cross their legs and they do it out of habit or cause it's more comfortable to sit that way. This by itself is a very bad indication of how she feels.

I'd just based on eye contact, conversation, how close she is to me, if she's touching me at all, is she receptive to me touching her, etc.

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Been around the world twice, Talked to everyone once...

You're in your head too much. "Forgetting steps?" Don't depend on steps. Crossed her legs, etc... I know... I notice things like this too but I give them way too little attention to remember it later. And that's because I'm not dependent from the outcome. Try to focus on feeling generally good and in the moment more than "steps" and "crossed legs". Sure it's a good thing to know these things, but if you rely too much on them, you're gonna have a hard time.

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"Bros before hoes"

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It's really about just going for it man. The worst that can happen isn't as bad as you doing nothing and ending in the friend zone.