Ok I'm in an awkward situation. I met a girl on one of my jobs. It was a 5 day shoot so we started to get to know each other pretty well. I would constantly neg her and talk to her when I got the chance. I noticed she would come to be when she was by herself. All the signs pointed to IOIs but then she drops the bomb. She starts talking about her boyfriend.

I never made a big deal about it, the good thing is it's a cross country relationship. She invited me over to drink and watch Heroes with her because I've never watched it before. Either she's being friendly or that's a HUGE IOI. But a day after, she invites a bunch of other people, ugh. We all end up going to a bar and she was with me most of the night then one of the guys takes her to sit down and chat, I don't follow them. Later that night she starts stroking her fingers up and down my back, I was gonna turn around and just start making out with her but the whole boyfriend thing was going through my head. She goes home early and says to me, "you better call me!"

The next night I called her to see how she was feeling. She was feeling better and wanted me to come over to hang out. I told her I had to go to a b-day party. The bday party got canceled so I went over and she invited a few people over again. We all drank, I fell asleep with her dog on the couch and she took me to her roomate's empty room but NOTHING happened. She said "you know where the bathroom is and you know where I'm sleeping just incase you need anything." OMG is that a fucking IOI? Am I that stupid to realize it or was she just being nice? We end up going to eat lunch together the next day and she asked if I wanted to stay and watch some TV with her but I figured I aint getting any so I just said goodbye and went home.

God if she was single this would be so damn easy. But she's not and I feel kinda wrong to make a move on her knowing she's got a bf even in another state. How should I go about this? If I stay just friends then I'm doomed. Should I tell her straight out like, "you'd so be mine if you didn't have a boyfriend." I've been negging her and teasing her the last week so I don't think it's unwarranted. Ugh I'm frustrated. There's always a catch dammit..

I was in a similar situation about 3 months ago, and I ended up sleeping in the same bed as the girl and although we messed around a little bit I didn't end up fucking her. The bottom line here man, is this:

IF SHE HAS A BOYFRIEND, BUT SHE IS GIVING YOU THOSE KINDS OF IOI'S, it's only a matter of time before she fucks around behind the back of her boyfriend. It might as well be with you, instead of some other dude. I've only been into this whole PU thing for about 2 weeks, but from what i've read some guys on here have developed some legit strategies for getting ass, you might as well use em.

In your particular situation, it sounds like she's giving you the opportunity to get with her--but only if you man up. Keep in mind, that these kinds of things are usually "limited time offers", so you best make a move asap.

I rather not do that. Having those experiences impart serious trust issue later on in a long term relationship. YOu just won't be able to trust women after.

ya know I was at her house tonight and we were talking about it. I told her if we got together then it would mean she'd do that again at a later time. So no gaming or anything we just kept it as mutual and we know where we both stand. I'd rather not be the reason for 2 people to break up anyways.

I hear you. I don't like being the reason two people break up either. If she's already on her way out of a relationship, then just keep in touch, but otherwise I keep playing the game in comfort until it she does free up. That doesn't mean I sit at home hoping, praying, and waiting for her to call and tell me the news. Just keep going out and sarging. When she's done with him then go back into it with her.

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the bf is here for a week then he's back across the country. From what it sounds like on the phone, they are lovey dovey. I'll just facebook her a couple times while he's still here and then start it back up after he leaves again. I don't think it's possible for their relationship to last cause he's so far away but at the same time I don't want to get stuck in the LJBF zone.