FIRST DATE

Location: Vieux Port

Hey guys.. just came back from my first real date since I actually joined the community with a girl that I actually picked up in a bar. It went well..but I have a lot to say and a lot to analyze. First of all.. I woke up this morning and started preparing myself really early. I wasn't having any AA at all until 1 hour before our meeting. Anyway.. I started putting my self (at least trying) in this mindset: I'm only going to see a friend.. I want nothing from her. It did work out but once I was in my car, it was still a little there so I decided to use the #1 weapon of each PUA: Talkitave state. I started talking to myself about anything that it was coming into my head and that worked really really well. AA was exactly 0% and when I met her.. I was already in a state of talk so I didn't freeze or stumble into my words. She was really cute.. it was like a month and a half since we met that we didn't see eachother so it was a while.

So she enters my car.. gives me a great smile and we talk for about anything during our whole road to our destination. I multiple threaded very well.. always going from a subject to another and remembering DJ Fuji technique. When she says something... make an interesting comment about it and than ask a different question about that subject. That went well untillll...... we arrive! I forgot MY KEYS in the fucking car man!!! hahahaha wow.. and the thing is.. I never forget my things.. I always take them with me and it's the first time this happens. In my head I'm like: WOW DLV man!! What a perfect timing! But she actually enjoyed it lol she found it funny and to be honest.. she didn't really give a shit. So anyway.. we left my car in the parking lot and went to take a walk together.

It was a beautifull day so that was really nice.. as we were walking.. I realized she was walking a little bit too fast. That pissed the shit out of me.. because even if I tried to slow down my walk (so she can see that I want to walk slower) she just kept going. I didn't feel alpha.. it was like I was following her and not her following me. Anyway.. as we were talking while walking.. I realized how hard it is to keep eye contact when walking. I just couldn't look her in the eyes for more than 4 seconds. I don't know if that walking fast thing was because it was IOD or because she was just stressed that she was with me.

After some walking, we went to a restaurant to eat. Now at that particular time.. when we sat down.. IOI's just kept falling from the sky like rain.. it was one after the other.. playing with her hair..her pupils dilating a lot.. her feet pointing towards me.. body oriented towards me.. no signs of any negative body language.. smiling great. She also went to the bathroom for a quite long time.. so I took it as an IOI because her hair was changed when she came back to our table (thought she pimped herself in the mirror). I was also capable of making eye contact REALLY well.. I just was always staring at her.. and during the meal.. my boy T_Rex texted me some tips.. I imediately started making some triangular gazing.. which helped a lot.. even if it was some kind of difficult. Anyway, We talked while eating and discovered we have a lot of things in common. After we ate.. she told me something that captivated every part of my mind...

HB: Hey... if you want after the restaurant... we can go eat something near my place.. than you could come see my appartement.
V (inside my head): HOLY FUCK! NICE!
V: Oh sure... why shouldn't I?

So we hop in the car and I'm happy.. but than we look at the time.. and she had to be babysitting someone's kid at like 6:30.. it was 5:50.. time flew quickly. FUCK!!!!! We didn't had time.. so anyway.. I drove up in a place where her friend was waiting for her. And while we were waiting for him to arrive.. we sat on a bench. The thing is.. she got up and smoked.. which turned me off completely. Anyway.. when we said goodbye.. I didn't KC her.. her friend was there watching me.. and I don't know.. to be honest with you.. I didn't think it was a good night.. I got mixed signals of IOD's and IOI's. So I hesitated when the kiss came. She did invite me next week to a party with my friend T_Rex.

Finally, It was harder than I thought.. you forget a lot of material when you're in a date. It's hard to see the opportunities.. when to kino or when to neg..when to kiss when not.. so microcalibration needs some improvement. I'm still of proud of me.. maybe it was a great night.. it's just that with my experience I cannot say if it was.. the last time I had a date it's like 2 years ago. I also should'v put in some DHV SPIKES here and there.. I tried to put some pre-selection in her head.. talking about a girl who's into me and asking her opinion.

OVERALL

POSITIVE:

- did perfect eye contact seating down (a lot)
- multiple IOI's
- she invited me to her place
- pushed my comfort zone
- multiplethreaded very well
- body language confident! PERFECT body language I had.. even when a negative action wanted to appear through a gesture.. I was controlling it
- she invited me to a party with my friend (2nd date)

NEGATIVE

- not enough kino
- absence of qualification
- need to improve microcalibration
- forgot the keys in my car
- wasn't always the alpha male
- not enough negs

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