| I do have a problem that’s confusing me, maybe you guys can shed some light into all this. Here are the facts:
I dated this HB 5 or 6 for two months, she was falling for me, me I didn't but it was enjoyable because she was funny and affectionate. It’s not that she said it (she said she is falling for me though, I kissed her and said "That's the spirit, honey"), and everything she did proved she was falling in love with me. Hard. I was acting alpha 90% of the time I guess and showed willingness to walk away on one occasion when she was out of line. She was like a puppy since then. Since then she was pretty much afraid of me dumping her and she got more clingy and careful with her behaviour.
However, a few weeks ago I got really sick and for a few days she saw me laying in bed in some pain (I guess my alpha aura vaporized then), she spent a night with me. One night before getting sick things were more fine and I kicked it up a notch saying my trust is not at the best level as some sort of a push and pull thing and she kind of deflated because she was confused. I meant to kick in with the continuation but I got sick and then the pull back part was left undone.
Fact is that weekend we had plans to fly the weekend to some other city but due to my illness that didn’t happened.
So she stays with me friday night and saturday night goes out with a another chick, close friend of hers, and stays up all night partying. i know red, flag there but I was too sick to say deal with it, so I never said a word about it. Anyway, she never tried to hide this from me. Monday I went for some blood tests and the next day when the results came, a friend, the doctor told me to go asap to ER and get myself under supervision because things don’t look good. So I called her, she was out with some chick for a coffee and told her I want to speak with you, be at my place please before 8 pm. She says no promises (granted, I never stated it’s important shit) and she failed to show. She called 45 mins later, while I was already in ER and since I was busy with doctors, I didn’t answer. I called her when I was done with tests, told her (I snapped so I said it in an abrasive/glacial tone – but didn’t shout at all) “I’m in a hospital and I’m not happy with you not being able to meet me prior to that.” Since I had more papers to fill I told her let’s talk tomorrow. Well, the next day, she, of all people didn’t call. I was like for 24 hrs under doctors observation and she didn’t bothered to call to find out how am I doing. So I called her up in the same glacial / abrasive tone and told her to come meet me in front of the hospital for a talk that night. When we met, she had an impulse to hug my but after eye contact she restrained herself from doing that. She said she didn’t call because she didn’t like that tone. Then she said something like “When I’m with you I feel fantastic, when I’m not with you I feel bad and I don’t have time for my own hobbies – obvious bullshit here”. Before I could say anything she blurted “our relation should stop right now even though she knows what she’s missing – more BS” I was like WTF just happened? I said to her “you’re joking right?” These are not real reasons, I know. My tone was not cute in tonality but the circumstances were harsh but I don’t think that a reason for a breakup. She saying she’s been into relations were she would fight all the time and that’s not what she wants. When I realized she was serious about it I wished her a good life and went back to the hospital.
When I got discharged from one hospital only to go to another (doctors couldn’t say what’s wrong with me and they still can’t say what's wrong with me) I called her, as promised to come get her stuff. She came on a pair of freshly bought roller blades (I guess that’s the hobby?) and started to shit test me. I snapped, gave her stuff, opened the door and told her to fuck off and never bother me again. After all my major concern is my health I want to get well to get back in the game, not this bimbo. But this rubs against the grain, I don’t feel like I fully comprehend what happened and I would certainly like understand.
Does this make any sense to you?
PS: She's 24 and I'm 36 years old.
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