I really did feel like i was on fire on Thursday night. I had opened 5 different sets of girls and struck really good conversations with them all. I even managed to get two number closes, one of whom had a boyfriend so i was pretty pleased, however looking back on it....i should have done much better.

I have a big problem when it comes to the end of a conversation, i really should have kiss closed three of the girls i'd met but i ran into serious problems every time. On the first occasion i asked a simple question to a HB7.5 which she like delayed with the answer so i decided to react negatively and turn my back to the conversation and she responded by literally dragging be back round to speak to her. Straight away my alarm bells were ringing but i ran out of ideas and DHV's so when another boy came along who they already knew, they both lost interest.

Secondly, i opened up a set of two girls. Everything was going well, i started to get immediate Kino from one of them which i pounced on and continued the conversation. To my surprise her friend was getting really jealous for some reason, so she pulled me to one side and whispered in my ear "can you stop chatting up my girlfriend" LOL. Whilst my mind was scrambling for a clever response my friends decided to drag me away for no reason because they wanted to go to another club. Bad times.

I thought i'd try again with another set and low and behold i got talking to the girl i had originally wanted again. I even managed to "lock in" after a bit of time and she just randomly kissed me. But instead of reacting to the kiss, my mind once again blanked and in the 5 seconds i stalled her friend came along and said "come on i want to dance let's go" and she then said to me- ok "i'll give you my number because we probably won't see eachother again tonight" to which i meekly nodded and took her phone number. FFS

About 5 minutes afterwards i noticed the love of my life. She was gorgeous. An old me would have just watched BUT i thought fuck it what have i got to lose, opened up all her friends and before she lost attention got on to her. We talked for ages, she really looked like she enjoyed speaking to me and even told me some stuff that she probably shouldn't have told me which i won't repeat in the forum haha. I found afterwards that she had a boyfriend which she didn't actually bring up so i was quite pleased with that. She actually asked me if i wanted to get the train with her in the morning to work because she works near me as well so she won't be "bored". I responded with a little neg which went down well. But once again she had to go and we exchanged numbers and that was it

To summarise, i'm learning slowly and i'm learning the hard way. If anyone wants any more details i'd be happy to oblige because it will really help me out with any constructive criticism you guys could give me. I guess my main questions would be, how can i deal with a girls friends more effectively? How can i make more of an impact than what i currently am? and finally Maybe a few more firm DHV's I can use =]

Thanks for taking the time to read this.

DC

Dude it sounds like you're doing great, I don't know how much advice I can give.

But if it helps, it sounds like you're losing focus at these key moments. You're thinking about what you should do, instead of allowing yourself to naturally react. The best way to stop that, when you start thinking "what's a good DHV, should I neg, I should be touching her now" and notice it, is to pay attention to her. Look her up and down, take note of her body language, pay complete attention to what she's saying. If you understand the girl you're with, you'll understand what she wants from you.

In the first set, you need to jump on being friends with that guy. Introduce yourself immediately when he walks up, don't wait for anyone to introduce you. Don't give him too much attention right away, maintain focus on whoever is speaking, but stay central to the conversation. Your body language, confidence, and relaxation in a social setting will make him naturally respect you. When he demonstrates respect for you, send some right back.

thanks a lot, i appreciate the reply. I'll take it on board and i'll make a new field report for next week and let you all know how it goes =]


DC

Good job buddy, you're off to a great start.