Hi you guys!
I've been working on this great girl in my school (not my class), she is a clear HB7. Everything went good, atleast I thought so...

Here's the story:
I started this course in physics at my school. The HB7 was in the row infront of mine, so I always talked to her, doing some C&F and other things, wich kept her interested. After a while the physicstest started to worry both our minds. She suggested that we should study together. Said and done... the day after that we met at the local library to read physics. We started talking and I didn't do any Game things (coz I wanted to study), however she gave me tons of IOI's and started doing Kino's by rubbing her legs to mine under the table. This made me play along and I started working her with some negs about how weak her leg muscles were. This resulted in a leg-wrestling fight. She laughed all the time and pulled her fingers through her hair and giving me direct eyecontact that lasted for about 30 secs every time.
So far so good. She walked me to my bus and the week after that we started doing the practical physics assignments together...

This far I thought I was doing good, but then a one week break from school came. During this break swedes (I'm from Sweden) go to family reunions and stuff like that... So we didn't have any contact. When we got back from the break she was all fired up, and started telling me about this guy she met. I kept my cool and listened to her story about the guy that she couldn't stop thinking about.

She obviously met some dude during this break and fell for him. What I wonder is if I read all the IOI's wrong, since she started telling me all about this. I mean, if she was interested in me before, why would she tell me all about another guy like if she hadn't been interested in me.

Do I need to work on my bodylanguage reading?

Thankful for any help that can help my mind make this maze a straight line...

/R.O

Nah, man, you read it well.

Now you just gotta attract her all over again.
And don't fall for that "boy she met" crap. Just pretend that he doesn't exist, and avoid the subject.
KINO, negs, cocky & funny --- all the same.
You got her once, second time won't be hard.
Good luck!
(And post a FR)

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Be careful here man, if she gets too comfortable with you it's time to look out for the ljbf.. Talking about other guys she met and asking for advice about them is a good sign that it's coming so watch out for her asking you questions about them, etc.

It sounds to me like the problem is you never stated you intent with her or made a move to hook her into you and become invested.

In other words you got her attracted, provided comfort and a connection, and then didnt give her anything else. What could have happened is that she went off feeling great and some guy grabbed her up while her sheilds were down.

You could probably still game her, but it should be a lesson that you need to gain some closure in your sarges (i know i have to as well). Next time you get that many IOI's and have gotten to know her a bit go for a k-close at least.

Hope this helps.

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"Be the same, only better."

My brother, if you think this garbage she is telling you is true, its not. She is just trying to dhv towards you. I don't know why this phenomenon occurs in female brains, it makes no sense. She probably talked to him for a couple hours and had a good conversation and that was it. You still have all the chances in the world. Take her back to the library and kino escalate and sit close to her, not on opposite sides of the table. You must try and k-close if you are getting all of these IOI's you have been telling us. One simple thing is if you feel AA for the K-close, take a nice deep breath and tell yourself "fuck it." It works like a charm. Keep it real my brother and you cant go wrong.

Thanks! I think I know what I did wrong now. I obviously stopped going forward and that's what made her find another guy to notice her in the way she wanted to be noticed.

Now I'll try to work my way back to where I was before. She won't slip out of my grip this time. I'll face my fear and do a k-close. The perfect opportunity is coming, soon there will be librarytime again, hehe...


I'll keep you informed of the progress

/R.O

you should have pulled the trigger earlier. its not over and lost though. reattract her and then pull the trigger when you get all those IOI's again. i'm thinking she may bring up her boyfriend because she might start thinking of you as a friend. you need to show her early on your intentions. if you are too ambiguous like earlier, she will be lost

A lot of these guys are saying you should've pulled the trigger earlier. That's exactly what should've happened. If you game a girl and build confort without going for a move that shows you want to be more than friends, you're are just asking for a "lets just be friends."

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Pray – 'til I go blind
Pray – 'cause nobody ever survives
Praying to stay in her arms
Just until I can die a little longer
Saviors and saints
Devils and heathens alike
She'll eat you alive

- "Revelations 22:20" - Puscifer

Hi there! I have now posted the followup on this HB 7.
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