| Let me start by saying that I apologize for not posting this earlier as planned. Anyway, had a long full night last night so I am not really into going out tonight, so I thought I would make it up 2 you guys by posting another section. If you haven’t already, read Pick Up 2 Relationship Part I-V or you will be lost. With out further ado, Pick Up 2 Relationship Part VI:
...So a few days later I go back. She is busy so I chat up co-worker again. Once again, plant a lip kiss and greet with smile. I sent her a text the night before letting her know I was coming. However, she said she just got it this morning so she wouldn't be able to stay too long.
I was hoping to take her home that day. One of the main challenges was the locational logistics. She works M-F in the city until 7 at night. However, her work is on the other part of the city so it is an hour a way from my place. Sat. and Sun. she lives 2 hours outside the city. Mon - Fri she commutes 2 hours each way. This commute could pop up in her mind if I did not keep her attention on the moment.
I told her that I had a suprise for her and we had to go onto the metro. I was taking her to the botanical gardens which is about 10 min. from where I live. It is supposed to be nice at night. By making it a suprise, I avoided her committing to going all the way to the other part of town.
One thing that I noticed was that she didn't seem into the whole experience as much as the other time. A lot of times she seemed to be some where else. This wasn't always the case. First off, she liked the idea of the suprise. To get her more into the moment, I did some pull-push-pull work which she reacted positively too. We shared a lot of laughs. For example, I playfully negged her for not finishing the hw assignment that I gave her (last time there was one item on the scavenger hunt list that she didn't find so I told her she had to find it as an hw assignment; goal was 1: b playful, and 2: have her thinking about me when we were apart). However, she definetly seemed elsewhere.
We get to the garden, and it is closed for the day. Shit. Oh well, at least I got her to my part of town. She says "this was supposed to be the suprise right?" I jokingly reply, "uh, no, no, the suprise is yet to come. I just thought it would be nice to walk in the botanical garden." I point to a street that has a row of trees that leads in the direction of my apartment building. I say, "come on, we'll go to a different type of garden." I ask a question I got from the show scrubs. I ask her if she could have any animal part on her body, what it would be. She says wings. I tell her that she stole my answer and we both laugh at the fact that we came up with the same answer (by the way, she actually did choose the same answer as I did, this wasn't a replanned response).
However, despite all these good laughs, as I mentioned earlier, many times she really did seem to be thinking about something else. When we were reasonably close to my apartment, I say in a spontaneous manner", "you know what we should do? My apartment is really close to here. We should go take a look at those photos you have been dying to see. Both this time and last time we were together she kept on saying how she really wanted to see my travel photos. This was actually weird because she didn't say yes or no. We just walked in silence for a little bit until I started up the conversation again on a different topic (but continuing to move us towards my apartment). maybe 2 minutes later she says that we should look at photos another time when she has more time and that we should probably start making our way to a metro stop. I say ok making sure not to make her feel pressured or show disappointment. I say that we should still walk the way we are walking because there is a metro stop this way as well (in reality, the one in the opposite direction was closer). We continue to laugh and have a good time, but still notice that I can't keep her from going back to where ever it is she is going in her head.
My apartment is on the way to the metro stop that I was taking her to, so I stop us (we were walking in the arms behind the other persons' backs position) and point it out to gauge her reaction. She interpretted it as "this is my apartment, I am going up stairs, you are staying down here/walking away". She started to say, "ok, well I'll find...". Then I said "no, no, I was only pointing it out to you. I'll walk you to the metro stop." If she didn't seem to have a concern on her mind, I might have invited her up with something like, "I really have some amazing photos you should see, you should come up, you'll only be up for a minute. After that I have some work to do anyway (or some other false time constraint).
On the way to the metro station she finally said what was up. She said, "hey, I noticed when talking to my co-worker you said you would be in Buenos Aires 2 months. However, you told me you would be here 3. Did you lie to me?" I responded, "no, when we first met it was closer 3 months, now it is closer to 2" (I had known her about 10 days at this point).
HB:"It just seems that...your not going to be here that long and I'm going to miss you."
ME: You make it seem like I am leaving tomorrow. We still have a good amount of time together".
I continued to explain how 2 months can still be an amazing time, ect. This was bitter/sweet. I thought that her constantly being somewhere else mentally was a sign that attaction was fading. Its was a good (and frankly felt a little good) that it was actually that she would miss me which why she was down. However, it was hard to fully address her concern as it was logistical in nature. However, after we talked she did seem to feel a lot better. Walked her to metro, gave her solid kisses, and we went seperate ways.
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