Some things that I have realized about girls. THEY WANT TO FIGURE YOU OUT. But you don't do that right away. Think of a cat that plays with a string, if the cat gets bored, she walks away without blinking. But if that string is tempting that cat will be so fixated that she will do everything in her power to catch it!



Fortunately for me, I do this naturally. I don't like giving all my cards away and when I do I always feel gross because I feel like I am explaining or supplicating too much to the other person. i always keep things simple and if the other person wants a better explanation then they should ask. This past week I have gotten the "You drive me crazy" "It scares me that I don't know where I am with you"


These girls are the ones chasing me. I figured it out how I get them to chase me. I give them what they want by not giving them what they want. . My answers to these statements I just smirked and gave them some physical affection. This drove them crazy that I didn't reassure them.


I made plans yesterday out of the blue. My phone was quiet most of the day and I was really okay with that. I have been in the company of women week after week and I needed some me time. I did text that girl from the art gallery and pretty much told her straight up to facetime me when I was at work and when she was home and not doing anything. Who can say no to that . She facetimed me and we had a nice conversation.. LOL. Once i noticed she was having too much fun and she was getting comfortable, conveniently it was time for my shift to end. I reminded her that I had to drive home and it was nice talking to her. I think I sensed a hint of disappointment in her voice. I made it up to her by asking for her schedule this week. I wanted to see her again. She liked the directness and asked me about my schedule and what days I had off. I told her and said we will discuss this further in the week.


I made plans with another girl I haven't seen in awhile. So far it will be for this Thursday. Getting some good ol ice cream. Which is fine because I havent had that in months after hitting the gym. As Mr. A keeps rolling, I keep informing. Thank you for reading!

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I finally decided to go on the stimulant for my ADD for the time being. I have goals and I can't keep crawling towards them like i have and being sidetracked by meaningless things. I do remember a week when I was on the stimulants that all my pickup experiences were extra sharp. My skills were easily accessible and pickup was a breeze.

I got a shit ton of dates and was able to organize them in a manner that was beneficial to everyone involved. During this time it was when I was effectively using my time that I had sex with two girls in the same day. Would I do that again ?


Hell no. Girls are like the third hobby in my life. I have the gym, cooking, guitar, and hopefully soon, DANCING .That is what I will be about. Maybe yoga once a week will help with flexibility


I want to finally get good at guitar, keep up my gym habit and focus on getting good at this managerial job I have. Girls will come and go. I have big plans to get myself moving toward a great lifestyle that will keep me happy. I have been increasing my cooking skills at work. One of the perks of having this job is that I can get to cook using the resources they have. So I am getting better at cooking while on the job . Perfect. This job is also an outlet for me to practice my assertive skills and my people skills. I am talking to the my supervisors in a manner where I find a win win situation. I am also chatting up my coworkers in a way that they are influenced by me in a positive way. Things are picking up. I hope to keep up this progress and not be sidetracked by some chick. But this is why I have you guys here to help me stay on track. I will write it now. I will NOT get wifed up this summer by a girl. I want you guys to hold me to that. I know I will try my best but everyone's been there, a moment of vulnerability is all you need before you end up somewhere you didn't want to be.


I remember a respected PUA artist who knew his shit. But he met a girl that he actually really liked and wanted a LTR. A couple years later he comes back, single, and a little defeated. He knows his stuff still but you could just tell he needed to get picked back up. I have been there. But as my experiences taught me, you know what path that leads to. You need to be sure, absolutely sure that whatever path you take is the path you want. Even better, if the path you take is the path you want, are you excited about the unknown possibilities that lie ahead ?


That is why I started taking my medication. I understand that I have been doing okay without them but I can't reach my full potential without a little added push.

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Don't game at the workplace...


I was struggling to stop myself from escalating the situation with a coworker of mine. I knew the tension was high, she kept flirting with me hard. She is a relief staff so she only picks up shifts here and there. Still, I don't want this lady to spread that if we ever hooked up together, she would tell everyone. It's a small company.


Throughout the shift she was flirting and I have become more aggressive as a man. I have been more blunt and been more edgy with the way I interact with people. Basically, been more assertive. She was like "woah, what's gotten into you? You are fiesty" to which I just smirked. She kept bumping into me with her nice tush...and I didn't flinch. At one point I teased her to the point she was like "I'm gonna punch you" to which I just said "too bad I like it rough" and she was taken aback by the boldness she meekly said "don't get dirty with me..."

So after that she was just chasing me the rest of the night. Made herself available for me to take things further.


I didn't number close her. I rationalized away the thought of her nice black figure away....I couldn't do it. I would be a hypocrite to telling everyone on the forums to NOT GAME in the workplace. I just kept it to flirting. Even though she wanted me to make a move on her at the end of the shift. She stayed around for like 5 minutes extra...but I just assured her we will call her when we need her. We have her number and she said okay

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It's Thursday, so you know what that means FIELD REPORTTTT


I met up with another cutie from online. She was about 11 years older than me so she was ALOT more mature than the normal girls I meet. Works for me, I have been told that I act about 5 years older than I am. I guess this time won't be no different. I was late to the date though lol. Good thing we met on a trail for the first date, she was leading and I was leading. I kinda liked it. One of the reasons I date older women, because they KNOW what they want and they just want you to stop beating around the bush and get shit going.



So we met up on the trail and we were walking, she was asking me a lot of questions so I knew she liked me. I just talked about whatever came to mind. She did test me on the online dating profile and about the other girls on my Facebook. I was ready. I have been interrogated alot about my girls lately. Girls have been commenting on my stuff and I even uploaded one picture of a girl who was an HB8. She asked about that why it didn't go anywhere yada yada. I WAS explaining the situation of how SHE actually picked me up but then I was like the fuck am I talking about another girl. I told her that, I was like, why focus on someone else when I have a beautiful one right here. She liked that. I WAS mentally masturbating the kiss. I knew that I could go for it but you know how GUYS CONSTANTLY REJECT THEMSELVES BEFORE being rejected....I was doing that a little. I will admit it.


I FINALLY asked to sit down somewhere on a bench and she and I were close. She talked about how the redbull I was drinking had calories and how I should burn them off by walking to which I was like "I have a better idea than that". And I just went for the kiss close. She gave me minor resistance as to play the "good girl" card by saying "oh you kissed me on the first date ?!" to which I just smiled yeah and kissed her again hahaha.


Then I backed off first and started talking about random things . I normally do that after an intense kiss or makeout. Just start talking like it never happened/big deal. It drives the girls nuts and I love watching her just at how composed I am. So we both had to work early in the morning so we had to get back to our vehicles. I hugged her and kissed her goodbye. I think I will F-Close this one. She is cute and she has a decent figure for being a 36 year old mom. Plus, she has some spunk and her views on life are pretty nice.



Tomorrow, I am shooting for a date with the girl from the art gallery. That will be an interesting test of balls once again. I have yet to kiss close this one but I will do it on this date or at least get this ship moving forward. Stay tuned!

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Just fuck her dude, it's not that big of a deal, she's not gonna tell anyone.

It's fun fucking co-workers, especially management at the work place!

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Just fuck her dude, it's not that big of a deal, she's not gonna tell anyone.

It's fun fucking co-workers, especially management at the work place![/quote]


I've considered it. I mean I told her I like her it rough for crying out loud lol. But for now I have enough girls outside of work to keep me company. MAYBE, down the road. Maybe. If I am confident in what I am doing that I won't create drama at the workplace.

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Field Report:


I have started dipping into the hottie pool and boy am I having a little fun. Yesterday I went out with the girl from the art gallery. She is pretty beautiful i have to admit. I haven't felt jitters like this in a long time. I embraced them but the old me, the me who joined this forum kept creeping his little head like "you made it buddy, but....wait a minute, is this real"



Now on to the date. Even with that thought in mind I just told him to shutup and enjoy the moment. I took her to a Mexican restaurant where we talked and blah blah. I was still struggling to make a move, you know how that socialization makes it seem like you should treat hot girls differently, it was creeping into my interactions a little. I felt it but I knew I had to make moves despise it. It meant I was doing the right thing and I was fighting socialization. So on the ride to the restaurant, I told her she looked stunning, to which she said you look good too .

I was actually laughing inside because people were giving me the "why is she WITH him" looks. I just embraced it but not gonna lie, it was getting in my head a little. But the more I expose myself to the beautiful women that get me the jitters, the more I will be comfortable in the future. This can only help my game tremendously. So on the ride back, I made a move to hold her hand because I needed to escalate to a romantic notion and keep ingraining in her head that I was not afraid to make a move. At first I made an excuse, "my hands are cold, let me hold your hand". But then I saved my bitch ass by saying a few seconds later "nah, I just wanted to hold your hand "


She was cool with that. We arrived to my apartment to which she was like "there is my car"


Fellas, girls won't make moves, you have to make moves. I did not let her leave right away. I just said "come inside for a bit", and she just said yes. We just chatted, I showed her my place and I even showed her my snake in my room. I KNEW she was not comfortable with me just yet, so I refrained from making a move on her in my bedroom. I wanted to let her know that she was in there, but I wasn't going to attack her. I tried to have her stay a little longer but she had to go. I even invited her out to a bar outing with my roomie but she really doesn't drink at all. Like she just doesn't.


As I walked her out I had to make the move. I had to go for the kiss, I had to make her see me as a sexual threat. I had no alcohol in my system so this was purely just pick up your balls and go for it. AND she moved her head . I still kissed her on the cheek. I knew I had to reevaluate where I went wrong in the interaction and learn from it. This didn't mean she was rejecting me, it was just her way of saying, "hold on, make me feel more comfortable, keep seducing me".


So as she was leaving I was just like "can you walk a little slower, I am loving this scene" to which she was like "oh stop" lol.



I texted her later that night saying "I had a good time with her and that I will see her soon"

to which she said "thanks, I had fun too! "



So to be continued.

I like a challenge.

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FIELD REPORT Night time:


So I went out later that night with my roommate after my date with art gallery chick. It was HIS night to approach. I was just enjoying people watching. I did approach later on in the night because i mean, when you see pretty things, you just have to make a move lol.




Anyway I coached him to open and I even coached him to stay in a two set to which he was calling out maydaymayday for me to come help.

I just gave him the ok signal that he was doing fine and not to think I was going to bail him out. He got her number .

Later on in the night, we went to another bar sea of dudes but couple of girls that dudes were just mentally masterbating about. I immediately approached a two set because I was tired of sitting on the sidelines even though it was my night off. I saw to cuties and immediately told her she was beautiful and i had to find out more about her. She said she had a boyfriend to which i said "I like peanut butter on my sandwiches" to which she started saying no no "I am not kidding" to which I kept on pushing and pushing and pushing. We eventually started having a conversation . I stayed in set for awhile while my roommate worked her friend. I went for the facebook close but she was actually happy with her man so I give her credit for being so loyal to him. Kudos to that man.


She appreciated my approach so much that she started introducing me to her friends. She said we will find you a single girl. So that means I did all the right things and she let me down in a respectable way. Unfortunately, I was not digging her friend so when they left I took their spot.


I have become good at picking targets to game. I picked out one target, she looked bored as fuck. I told my wing to for that one. I told him to do it or I will. He knows I will. So he didn't hesitate and they hit it off. I was just enjoying the show.


At the end of the night, I saw a girl who I fucked up on the first date a long time ago. She didn't recognize me but I got to drunk at this bar so she started being a little disinterested. I tried to number close her again to which she said "she didn't have a phone"

I kept on pushing. I asked for her facebook to which she said she had but didn't have a computer


I just looked at her like "are these excuses the best you got"


I ended the night with pizza and passing out. Funny. The girl added me on facebook the next day. I guess her library was open today for her to use the computers....

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I haven't posted in awhile, but last night I went out with big boobie M and you know how all that turned out. It's been funny to realize that no matter how reassured you are that you like someone, it has to happen everyday. That's the name of the game, you have to reassure them even if you are certain that you don't just want them just for the sex. You are two different people, you need to let them know how you feel and how they make you feel.


I got some hardcore LMR from big boobie M. I told her that I liked her for her and that she will be fine. Those tits are glorious though. The size of a human head. After 30 minutes of fooling around and me pushing through the resistance we finally got around to doing the deed. She is a work in progress, I think she has only had 4 men in her life and I would be the 5th. She was skittish but we got over that hump.

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LIFE UPDATE:


My main MLTR has dialed back her attention to me. Which was expected because I played into her little beta ization attempts for a little but I have regained my frame and my composure. When a woman says "you only want sex" remind her that you love women. Remind her that you care about her. Remind her that you are hers as long as she doesn't give you shit and that you will be there for her sexually and as a friend.


I expected this from the main MLTR since she blurted out "don't fall in love with me because I will break your heart"

Now two things I heard from this "you are acting too much like a boyfriend" or "I am getting too attached, I might run away"


I took the latter. So now, I only have one girl. The big titty one, that's a problem. This means I am monogamous for the time being if I only have sex with one girl. I have luckily had the pleasure of one of my old Fuck buddies hitting me up. She went missing for two weeks but she hit me up two nights ago. I will recycle her and get this party moving.


I am hoping I hone these relationship management skills within this month. I am excited for the possibilities of dating 3 or more girls. Last time I did that, I was having sex constantly, but I know that I will have my work cut out for me until then.


I have learned one valuable lesson that I have to love women. I have to love them and not treat them like crap. I also have to understand there will be certain complaints but some complaints will be because I am doing the right things. I have to understand not alll drama is bad. For example, if she complaints that you never text her, you are in the right frame of mind.This means that you are standing out from the rest of the chumps. You have your shit together, you aren't being too available and she is still attracted to you and thinking about you.



Mr. A out.

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F- CLOSE.....







It's been awhile but I have been sick with the common cold so I couldn't really game. I was in bed, taking medicine and trying to get better.I have been halting dates to a crawl for the past two weeks. It was kind of nice being away from it all. Even though, I was posting on the forums, I was not involved in the dating scene. That all changed last night. I went out with a couple of my homegirls and I had fun. A lot of fun.


I don't really do club game but I am starting to reconsider it.....there are a lot of hot young girls that I have been missing. It was like I was in the twilight zone. Either way I met up with my girls and I held my confident and outcome dependent frame. I introduced myself but I didn't display any needy behaviors. My homegirls friend was cute lol.



We drove the parking lot and of course, they were undecided about shit so I had to take over and I had to use their money to put into the machine to get the parking ticket. After that shit, we went to the clubs. My homegirl had that resting bitch face on lock for the night, unfortunately. I danced, and I danced and I got her friend to loosen up. Eventually we became us vs my homegirl. She was being such a buzzkill!


Eventually the night kept on going and we saw other girls we knew lol. If you have never seen women in competition for a single male, it is a beautiful thing to watch. The girl we knew told me straight up "I am single now". I was like , is this my lucky night or what. So I took down her Facebook. Her friend was trying to isolate me and was like "I need help getting a drink, keep me company" so for most of the night I was jumping back and forth and flirting with girls. Luckily I did not kiss any, I just flirted until I picked the most ideal target, at this point, my homegirls friend was becoming pretty receptive to me. At one point she was like "we should just leave her" my homegirl wanted to go home!


We stalled that shit. We eventually said our goodbyes to the ladies and we went to homegirls house. I followed and met the cats, blah blah. Eventually me and her friend were like we gotta go . We haven't really kissed at this point, we just were in our bubble. I followed her into her car and was like drive me. I made my move. She was surprised and was like "I thought you were a good boy" to which she later found out that night, that was not the case. I told her to follow me home and I will feed her. She was talking about how hungry she was and I wanted to give her a excuse to follow me home.


She complied and she followed me. We pretty much banged each other until the birds were chirping but it was nice to know that I still got it in the circle game department. She left like around 5 in the morning and I was not complaining.


I think I will try some club game, some of those girls were looking pretty damn good.

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Last night:



I have been losing weight and I have been regaining back the days I used to be a HB8. I get very cocky when I know I look good and I have been imagining myself with my soccer body which will probably unleash and destroy whatever last inhibitions I have about myself looks wise. You don't need a sexy ass body but it does help you in the long run. It's like a small handicap. However you use that handicap is up to you. I know that I am regaining my HB8 status when I was opened at the bar last night by this 6. She was okay. Not my cup of tea but I played around with her and wanted to see how sexual I can get with her in the next 10 minutes.


My roommate was getting used to opening last night. I gave him a few openers to try so that he can feel confident using observational openers. I like just chilling and watching people game. Some guys were actually doing okay tonight. Just keep drinking buddy is what I was thinking.


Anyway, I got opened and I overheard her talking to her friends and I mentined that she looks wayy to young for 25. She started talking about 25 year old stuff and blah blha blah, I got bored and was like you aren't driving tonight are you. She told me she lived close by. Lol. Great. I was just breezing through this interaction. We somehow got to the conversation where I was telling her I don't like dominant women and that it never goes that way. She started qualifying on how guys are intimidated by her and that she wishes a man would tell her what to do.


Lol. Greeeeeeattttt. I took down her instagram and her number and she was qualifying some more. I even hardcore asked her when was the last time she had sex. She told me last night , I was very nonchalant about that response. I was like oh, that must be nice. She started getting a lot closer to me after she saw that I was indifferent about this whole thing. At one point I could have sworn she tried to kiss me because she grabbed my chin and turned it towards her face but I dodged that shit. I didn't want to kiss her lol. I have higher standards now. Only HB7 and up for this man.


I still toyed with her and even asked her that maybe I will see her later if she got lucky. I texted her and she gave me her address lol. I didn't end up going. I hooked up with a fuck buddy of mine that I ran into the bar.


Some dude was trying to holla at her when it was closing time. I pretty much held my frame that I knew she was coming home with me. Dude was trying though "hey come with us" my fuck buddy was like "I will text you later" and brushed him off and walked off with me towards her car where she drove me to my house and we had an hour long sex sessions (2 rounds). It's funny to watch other dudes holla. I wasn't jealous at all, she was a fuck buddy and I knew she wanted to go home with me.


Another day another lay.

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UPDATE:

My life is stable at the moment. Nothing major has happened other than me setting up a couchsurfing account and planning to finally travel abroad at some point hopefully this year. I am crossing my fingers. Everything has been stable, my work ethic is still in top shape. My gym routine is going. I am 40 pounds away from my benchmark of lifting 200 pounds in squats, deadlift and benchpress. I don't have any interest in lifting any heavier than that since I just want to tone up and have a nice physique. I am not trying to win Mr. Olympia here.

Last night I met up with one of the women I have been dating. She gave me small drama about a week ago about not seeing her often but I just decided to let her pout for awhile and call up another fuckbuddy. That's silly. To give me drama when we aren't even in a relationship . Anyway, I called her up last night finally and totally disregarded her expectation of us meeting earlier than normal. I wasn't going to change up my schedule for her. I value my free time and I made sure I voiced that when I was with her. Me spending half the day with a girl....wellll that doesn't sound like my kind of day. I would like to spend two hours max. And then move on to other things.


Last night we went out to a bar with my roommate and his band. I was watching them do some work while I built comfort with my lady. She was sweet. She did bring up the whole "i thought we were meeting up earlier like we talked about" but I completely brushed it off and changed the topic. And even before we met she stated that we weren't getting "frisky". I still kept a condom in my pants just in case. I knew I had other girls so this didn't bother me at all. Eventually I told her lets get out of here and go back to my crib. We watched a movie and goddamn free service had ads. I decided to make out with her and get her hot and heavy. She was the one that initiated the physical escalation


I was just under the impression we werent having sex...so this made her determined in her little woman logic of a brain. She pushed me back like it did anything. I was interested in the movie. So I just sat down and watched some more with her. Again, the ad came on. I made out with her some more, caressed her big boobs and teased her panty lining. Once again she pushed me away "stop you bad boy". I went back to the movie. Another ad came in. I switched it up this time, it was time for a bathroom break .


Ah it was fun toying with this girl. So much talk and the opposite happened. It's great. I made out with her again when I came back and got to fingering her. I knew it was time to lead her to the bedroom where I re-sealed the deal.


Guess I got someone back on the team again.

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Field Report/Lay Report:


Saturday= I have been drawing back from women lately and have been focusing on myself and just having some me time. When Saturday came around I laughed that I had no pre planned hoes. Which was fine. The night started out and we went to the usual watering hole. My wing and I that is. My wing is on a month dry spell. I haven't been helping him because he needs to come out of this on his own. The first two months i helped him and he seemed to have been growing dependent on me. So I just cut that off and want him to swim.


We ran into the usual people we know so that was social proof. I talked to two girls that I knew and just practiced kino since I didn't want to have sex with them. They were a few pounds overweight for my taste. My wing was meeting a woman he met off of okcupid. I decided to move to another venue by myself and try my lone wolf game that I have missed dearly lol.


I was walking through another bar and someone in the crowd opens me. I kinda get into a cocky "you think you know me but you don't, I am not who you think I am". The girl then tells me that we talked on POF hahaha.

I was like oh....hi . Needless to say I gamed her good and hard. She was flakey and that's why i didn't remember her because I let that one go. I made fun of her and made her qualify herself hard. At one point I stopped answering her questions and told her that I will only answer more if she kisses me. She thought about it but didn't go with it hehe. She instead introduced me to her friends. Her friends as the night progressed dropped one by one. My wing came out of the woodworks and told me that his girl was a no go. I told him that i was working on one and that I might be a little bit.


The girl is getting drunk and drunk but so am I but I stop. At one point I mention that I drove and that I can help her out. She is keen on the idea but she wants some food. Okay, no problem. A meal and some sex sounds right about now. I drive to our spot and I decide to kiss her to just get the kiss out of the way. I am the first one to pull back hahaha and she is like "no one more, one more". I kiss her back and then pull away and tell her that I kinda want to get some food right now ha.


We get our food and we talk some more to build comfort and then I tell her that we can eat at my place since the place was closing. She hesitates but agrees. I tell her I will drive her to her car in the morning. Once we get to my place we makeout some more and I push the waters by caressing everything. I get under her shirt and she pushes me back this time and tells me "oh, you didn't think something was going to happen tonight did you".


I do not react. I just say "hmm meh". She keeps staring at me for a good minute to see whether I would react to what she says....I even start staring at her like " " are you done yet ?

Finally, I just say, I kinda want to eat and I start devouring my food. After we finish our food I go back to making out and getting hot and heavy. I don't even tell her to come with me, I just lead her to my room and finish the deed. The next morning she starts blabbing about how "she isnt the one to bring guys home" and i am like, I don't really care about that, cut it out. She understands and we resume to drive to her car. I build more comfort and let her know that I will keep in touch. She asks if I have her number and I am like of course babe.


Guess I still have the streak going of getting laid every weekend still. Nice.

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So far I have been doing well being single. I haven't been missing anyone which is driving one of my girls crazy. I see her post statuses about "If a man wants you he will put the effort" or "I am done with dating in 5,4,3,2....."


Of course she does this to vent and have her feelings validated by her orbiters which is great to watch. Will she stick around ? So far she has. i never respond to those posts. i just send her a text here or there and she always responds very lovely. Oh well.


Back to what I was writing about. I have been losing weight. I am close to my goal weight of being 180 pounds. I am currently 188LBS. At 180LBS were my golden years as I wanted to call it. I have had body image issues since I could remember. I only made a breakthrough in not caring as much a couple of months ago. I didn't realize I was banging chicks when i was 207LBS which is 20 pounds overweight. Now that I am actually going to the gym, eating healthy, and improving all areas of my life, I feel like there isn't really anything that can stop me now.

I am predicting to reach 180 by the end of September. Which is only 1.5 months away. I know I will reach it...and college girls are coming back to school at the end of August .....expect at least 10 more lays before the year ends and a lot of girls coming in and out of my life because of my unwillingness to conform and be a monogamous man. Lets see how this goes!

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