| Don't say stuff like "What do you think of me?" That is a huge DLV - remember, you're a cool guy and you don't need her approval - you already know you're great, and you assume she thinks you're great too. Asking what she thinks of you is kind of needy and seeking approval.
A girl has to be really comfortable with you before you say something with sexual overtones (like the masturbation joke) otherwise she'll get uncomfortable and back off. If you're touching her and involving her in conversation and it's going really well, then yeah, throw in some sexual comments, but not otherwise.
You need to ask questions that can't be answered with a yes or no - ask for an opinion on something, or tell a story and get her laughing or interested. Try to lean back and look relaxed, stay calm and don't move too much, keep your voice even and slow. Roll off occasionally; turn away, or cross your legs away from her, or look across the room, then come back to her. Also try a false time constraint: "I can only stay a minute..." Get her number, maybe a kiss, then get out before you mess it up, and call her later.
If the girl asked you to meet her friend, that's a big IOD - she's signaling that she doesn't want to keep you for herself, she wants to palm you off onto her friend. When he friend pointed you out to her, were they giggling? Girls do stuff like saying "Omg there's that weirdo who hit on you!"
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