Alright so I haven't done an update in a few days. I've been working on my weaknesses and improving greatly. One of which was maintaining eye contact. I'm getting that one down pretty good now. Smiling and making small talk isn't hard anymore.
So I've had a small thing about my location, small town less than 8,000 people. I think this is seriously crippling me to a small sense. I think the more I think that it's hurting me, the more it does. In a year or so I will probably quit my job and move.

Friday Night though I did go out, by myself...(fyi there's only 3 bars in my town, one was closed, the other is a biker bar, and the other is kind of a pool and beer pong bar), I was nervous as hell, but once I got in there it wasn't that bad. I walked in and sat at the bar, scoped out to see who was all in there. 2 chicks (one was a hb 5, the other was a blonde hb8), ok cool ain't to bad looking and the waitress is pretty damn good looking (hb8). I make eye contact, she finally breaks and smiles and ask for my drink, I order. Then I noticed she had a ring on. Damn, but I did make a little small talk with her. It was all good, laughing and smiling. The other 2 chicks came next to me to order drinks I kinda look over at them, make eye contact and just smile. turning back to my drink I noticed they both have freaking rings on too... awesome the only chicks in here are married. I noticed the group they returned to. Just playing pool and drinking. I finally went over and challenged them to some pool. They all agreed and I befriended the group. It was a fun time. Both the chicks husbands were there with them.

I've been to the bars other times here and it's the same results unless a band or something in. I'm going to have to rely purely on Day game to do anything, in this town. Meaning I'm going to have to start putting time into trying to find where the women are going. Here in the summer time I'm sure they'll be at the lakes. We have tons of lakes around here.

Gonna try to go to the grocery stores more. usually I can find 1 or 2 women that i find attractive. I just have to approach and talk.

I'm starting to think most of my problems comes from me overthinking the whole thing.
I'm doing better with eye contact and smiling.
Approaching is getting better
Phone game is getting better
building attraction and escalating things sexual are my biggest problems now. But I have seen an improvement here slightly.

Thats all I got. I am feeling better now I should be able to get out there and put in the work I need too. I'm thinking of going to another town and practicing though, due to the size of the town i'm in, I don't want gossip going around if I do something really stupid...<-this might be an example of my overthinking....

That's the Update

Sparton

Haha thanks Poet1989

alright I'm pretty excited. I'm pretty sure I'm getting the texting down pretty good. I had some help friday night from poet1989. got me a number and she almost came over, thanks poet1989 (I think theblackmagician helped a little bit on this one too).

So these one chick I went completely solo and NAILED it! FUCK YEAH. I'm pretty sure she re-qualified her self twice and I went in for the number. (I did get it)

Another chick I went solo on for a little bit but hit a stump, theblackmagician helped me a little bit on it as well. But other than one text I did the rest and I went in for her number as well. still waiting for that one

I did have one hb7 call me lame to one of my openers, kinda funny.

I'm getting fucking addicted to this more and more with every success I have.
these are all from tinder just an FYI

Alright, haven't been keeping up on this as well as I should of. Going to try to keep this as short as possible.

Back in June I decided to get a little help. I hired Eddie to help give me a little bit more of a push.

While this coaching was going on I figured out that my location is horrible. I would go out for hours at a time to work on approaches only to find maybe 3 girls worth approaching. Which I did approach and had good little conversations.
Also here the bars have "Ladies Night" just like every other town. So I went with some friends to this only to find that the only women there, was: the bartender and one of my friends wife.... and about 7 guys... Yay for ladies night! haha
So due to location I was having to travel a lot after work to other towns. The closest Cities are 2 hours away.
My plan as of now, if I don't get laid off, is to tough it out till June of next year and quit and move to a bigger town, with more options.

But here's some of the highlights of June & July
During June I had a lot of encounters with women. Actually approached a hot blonde in a grocery store, first sober approach. I was nervous as hell when I was talking to her, but afterwards it wasn't that bad. Eddie told me to go back and ask for a number, but when I did she had a boyfriend. lol
The rest of the month was mainly me going out to all random places just to work on approaches. I really didn't think to much about it, but here in the summer everyone is at the lakes on the weekends... I went to the Mall in a City and it was dead as hell. Only managed to talk to one girl, that worked at one of the stores.
During the trip to the Mall, however, I went to any... Just to work on approaches. I finally got a few knocked out and got to the "fuck it" mode. Didn't really care what happened. Went to check out at this store and there was a cute chick working there. So I talked to her for a bit and asked for her number. She gave me it and I went on my way.... (Little embarrassing afterwards... I felt like a total BA, was walking out, and walked to the wrong side of the automatic sliding doors... LMAO I didn't run into the glass or anything. but I was like fuck I'm an idiot) This girl was a little bit of a surprise. the next day I called her number, no answer. Called the next day, no answer. Little bit afterwards I get a text... It's her dad... He explained that no guy had ever asked for his daughters phone number, and being nervous she gave me his number instead... lmao He also asked if we could "chat" before he would give me her number. So I called him up, talked a bit and she text me the next day. I'm still currently talking to her.
I approached a girl in the gym, that was a little more tricky I thought, but afterwards I notice that I put way to much thought in ALL of my approaches. I forgot to get her number and got it from a friend. It really didn't go anywhere.
Those we're really the only big highlights of June.
During July I've been trying to slow down a bit more. Trying to get bills paid off and was worrying like crazy if I was going to lose my job.
I did go out a few times in July. Nothing to big happened. At the end of July I got blackout drunk and did a whole bunch of stupid shit. So I'm quitting drinking now. It's something I've been wanting to do for a while and now I have a good reason to quit. All my future approaches and stories will be without the aid of alcohol and rely purely on confidence and skill. A harder task to do but I think it will be more beneficial to me in the future.
OHHH also in June I did the Apocalypse opener... at the time I believed it didn't work. I nailed it and didn't realize all I had to do was go a little bit more. after I told Eddie what had happened, he pointed out that just a few more lines and I could of probably took her home. But since she didn't just "jump" into my arms I assumed it was a no....

*Right now I'm focusing more on online dating, due to location*

In the future now I won't be going out as much. trying to get stuff paid of just in case I do lose my job. However, if I do lose my job it's not a horrible thing. It will allow me to move faster!
When I do go out I will do as many approaches as possible.
That's the update for now!

I'm still alive! Haha

Just a quick little update.
I quit drinking completely on August 3rd. Reasoning you might ask? I'm pretty sure I was an alcoholic. I couldn't control my drinking and I've noticed that I started getting more aggressive and I've almost have got Into multiple fights the last dozen times I've drank. So I quit. Another reason for quiting is I've been trying to get into shape. When I drank I ate shit food and would erase all the hard work I put into working out.

So more to the getting better with women part. I think I had another breakthrough. I have slowed down a ton, due to location and my town is literally turning into a ghost town. But I have still been working with my online dating. I got on the other day and tried a different approach. Read a little on their profile enough to start a decent conversation. I didn't really care if they responded back or not. It suprised me that almost every woman I messaged I got a reply back from. I messaged probably 12 women and got 10 replies back. I've got 3 numbers and went out on a date with one. So it's all moving foward.

I also had a girl friend that I went to college message me on Facebook telling me about a friend of hers. She gave me her number and I went and hung out with her and we're still talking.

I've noticed that all my conversations with women are getting better. I'm able to get women back to my place, I'm just having trouble sealing the deal. But I have talked to Dragula about this and he's gave me sold advice.

But that's the update. Everything is going in the right direction, slowly but surely.

Good work man, I've read a lot of start-up journals, and I can tell who's going to quit and who's going to make it. You're one of the latter.

Things you've been doing correctly (and should continue to do):

Taking action and self-analyzing. <--- This is the biggest difference between whether you get good or not. You've been taking a HUGE amount of action, and you can see the results. Keep going.

Framing your results positively <--- You get really excited about any positive results, no matter how small. You don't beat yourself up over rejections, in fact, you find them funny. This is a huge indicator of who will quit and who won't. So keep doing what you're doing here.

Surrounding yourself with people better than you <--- This will speed up your progress tremendously. You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with. Be greedy here, spend as much time with those dudes that are killing it as you can, and emulate them as much as possible.

Things to keep in mind:

In terms of reading material: There's a shitload of information out there, and you're going to find that pieces of it are relevant at different times. Some of the stuff sounds useless and mumbo-jumbo-y now, but you'll see it again half a year later and it'll illuminate a light bulb in your head.

Right now, focus on the how to build attraction, how to communicate flirtatiously. Figure out how to tease and flirt, and work on your verbals. Focus on the big three: vocal tonality, body language, and eye contact.

Continue to stuff as much social interaction into your weeks as possible. The more you do that, the faster you improve. I went out 7 nights a week in this phase, and if I can do it, so can you.

If you want to see someone who's gone through the same exact thing you have, check out my journal at the top of the forum. It should give you some good insight.

There's also a way you can improve that will help you meet more women, higher quality women, without the weirdness of cold approach. It's way easier, and makes getting numbers super easy and high percentage.

I usually only tell it to people who I know are going to take action and use it, which I think you are. Let me know if you're interested.

Good luck and keep going

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My Pick-Up Journal

The past year has been one of the hardest years of my life. Changing who you've always been to who you want to be isnt as easy as I thought it would be. There's so much depression, anxiety and just other things that happen when you force yourself to step out of your comfort zone. But it's all worth it. Now I see when people always said it can take a year or two.

I'm gonna keep this short. I had hired Eddie again to help me and been going at it hard for a few months,well online dating at least. But I have good news, I did finally have sex before my 27th birthday. So I did achieve my goal. So I'm definitely going in the right direction. I'm going to keep working on this, slowly but surely. I can see the light at the end of the tunnel.

Thanks to everyone that's gave me advice. I do greatly appreciate it.

I'm not sure how much I'll update this, but I will probably in the future again.