Day 17 - redo everything

Today, your mission is to REDO each and every task that you don’t feel competent in.

Any task in the Challenge is fair game: whether your posture still needs work, you still haven’t used disqualifiers successfully, you’ve slacked in your grooming duties, or you don’t feel comfortable with openers yet.

But most importantly, you should be able to walk up to a woman or group, deliver an opener successfully, and transition into a value demonstration such as the Ring Finger Routine.

If you are not able to do this, go out today and approach until you are comfortable with the Ring Finger Routine (or any other demonstration of value), so that you are ready for next week’s assignments, which will give you the next pieces in your


Ok, this is going to be shit boring to read and write I warn you. Actually it is so boring I decided life is short again and I will write a summary 1/4th of the intended length.

Thought about everything yesterday. What don't I know? What needs practice? I made a list of everything we learned the past week(s) that could be practiced.

Opening WITH A SMILE
Opening with a straight back, 100% straight back
Disqualifying
Reaching hook point
Kino
Doinga a DHV

So we did our turns doing each of these. First smiling, then small talk etc. Had some fun making small talk and just smiling. Hit a couple of bumps on disqualifying.

DQ #1

So I tried to make some small talk with two hot babes, hired guns, what ever you call them - two girls who were giving out free samples. So I made some small talk with them, tried to laugh and then I tried to neg the hottest one about her retro hairstyle.. Told her my grandma had the same kind of hair. Which, incidentally, she did. But because they were so hot, not that I was per se nervous, it wasn't as playful as I thought it would be. So it wasn't a great neg.

DQ #2

Two hot babes were walking along doing something. And I asked them over my shoulder what mangos are in English.. I don't remember what they answered but I had a winning smile on me and a joking mind. After I tried to disqualify/neg her saying she had a nice baby. She had a pineapple in the baby seat of the cart. As they were walking further away I told them I also wanted a baby like that. But maybe it is too much responsibility. Then I looked at the other one and said "Oh, are you guys lesbians supporting that baby?… I support that (thumbs up)".. They were laughing lot, but walking away doing their business - so no hook point.

The rest of the approaches were just shit. Why? Because I had no mojo. I wasn't nervous, hungry, sleepy or anything. I just didn't put a lot of effort into anything. Sometimes I was mumbling a half effort opener to sets. So I thought about it.

Have I at some point this week done a good disqualification in a set? Yes.
Have I at some point this week done a good opening in a set? Yes.
Have I at some point this week done a good hook point? Yes.
Have I at some point this week done a good DHV? Oh yes.
Have I at some point this week done a good small talk? Oh yes.

Okey. Have I done all of those today. No. Why? No mojo. I don't know what to do. What I realized is that if I am my BEST self I have no problems with this. Maybe not perfectly, I will still meet walls, but I will fix them somehow. So onwards to the next challenge.

Good part of the day was Itsmyway finally broke though his kino barrier.

Day 18 - open loops, multiple conversations

This day got postponed a couple of days because of work. Any my memory is a bit shaky on what actually happened because it happened 3 days ago or something.

Today’s field assignment is to practice creating open loops and multiple threads.

You are going to do this by going out and delivering an opener.

But before the opener and/or responses are complete, start another thread.

This thread can be:

A. One of your stories created during Storytelling day.

B. Another opener.

C. An observation or something situational.

D. A story inspired by something she said, like the exercise in Task 3.

E. The Ring Finger Routine

Don’t worry if this feels awkward or like you have attention deficit disorder at first. With enough practice, it will become natural.

Note: In a normal approach, you will want to create multiple threads, though not necessarily during the opener. However, for the purposes of this exercise, we will be creating them during the opener so that you can best practice them.

Today’s assignment is complete once you have successfully delivered two openers and interrupted them with a second thread.


Location is in the streets as usual.

Successful approach #1

Approached a hot blonde, and asked her about when she last listened to The Beatles. I rooted this into the fact there was an open concert nearby. Made a new thread (did I?) telling a very short story how me and my friend enjoyed ourselves. Rooted this back to the opener again. Then I spontaneously told her how her glasses reminded me of Mad Men, and asked her if she liked that show. Then asked her about the Beatles again somehow. After we discussed that I told her to have a nice day and we departed.

Body language/geometry was very nice on this one. Probably didn't reach hook point but we were smiling alright.

Half successful approach #2

Opened two girls and asked them about the Beatles. Then in the middle of that I asked them why they were wearing sunglasses in the shadows, and returned to the opener. It was a very short condo but it counts as two threads.

What have we learned? Our male brains really aren't evolved for keeping track of all these conversations at once. Its not natural, but not impossible. Might be useful to reach hook point with many cool conversations at once. Also I think girls like men who think like them in the sense that they multitrack.

Day 19 - seeding day

Seed three conversations today with an event from your calendar.

Two of these conversations can be with people you already know. One, however, has to be with a woman you’ve approached using one of your Stylelife openers.

The goal of today’s exercise is not to get a phone number or a date – if that does happen, great! The goal of the exercise is to practice seeding a casual conversation for a future meeting.


Actually, yesterday me and Itsmyway attempted this. But after a couple of approaches we realized we were both dead tired on a Sunday even though it was a beautiful day. Maybe it had something to do with me having worked the past 5 days, awoken at 6AM and walked 1 hour in the freezing cold to work. So we took it off. And it was great. But I used my brain to think for the next day.

So today I decided to approach them with the man bag opener, say that I was asking because I have a cool upcoming event…. Multitrack with telling them I am a sports freak.. How I bring a friend to teach him how to work out.. (Leader of men DHV) Then back to the man bag if that is ok in that kind of environment

Successful approach #1

Haha, I actually forgot it even though its a couple of hours ago.

Successful approach #2

A cute woman, maybe 25 years old. Great fashion on her. Told her over my shoulder in the street I had to ask her. Didn't say it perfectly, and kind of told her may times why I had to ask her. But I spoke about the event with her and a bit about man bags. Nothing else. But we had a couple of smiles and some laughs. So that it good.

Successful approach #3

Approached a girl. She had glasses but was pretty cute. Asked her about the man bags. Told her about the cool event. Made some small talk about House M.D because I want a leather jacket like foreman. I think she IOId when I spoke about the T.V show, I didn't notice but Itsmyway who was watching from a distance (we are getting good at spying on each other) told me she was throwing her hair back at me. Had some laughs with her, then said goodbye.

Bonuses:

Was in the grocery line today and this cute girl had a funny piercing in her lip. So I jokingly said to her why she wasn't in the fresh food section, and pointed at her piercing.. Because you look like a fish. She laughed at this. I am happy I have the confidence to do that neg.

Day 20 - mission unsuccessful (for the moment)

Mission: Approach minimum 8 girls and try to get their number.

Approach #1 - hot asian girl

Approached the first girl who I wanted to date. She was a hottie of an asian girl with a Norwegian accent. Great fashion on her. Good eyebrows. So I asked her about the man bags. She asked if I meant fag bags to which I laughed at. I immediately told her about the event in the gym and how I am an exercise freak. Then I went back to talking about the man bags. And we spoke a bit about fashion. She asked me what I do and I told her I was following my dream to become a comedian. Multi-tracking. Then I said she should come along to learn to workout. I think she was a little baffled at this.. She asked about what kind of event it was (IOI?) again, and I explained it but not as good as I could have. Then eventually she told me she had a membership at another gym. I think this was rejection unless she forgot the event was free. Then I spoke to her a bit about that gym. Talked a little bit more about fashion. Also told her a story from my travels in Romania. Then eventually we shook hands, smiled and said goodbye to each other.

During the time I thought I could neg her but somehow I couldn't find anything. But also, I didn't make a lot of eyestalk. I was mostly looking somewhere else during the interation. Maybe that is why.

BUT overall this was a great achievement for me. I have never talked so long or made proper small talk with real hot babes in the street before. But I have a lot of inner game and shit to work on.

After this everything went downhill speaking of the mission. It was itsmyways turn and he chickened out on a lot of opportunities. Myself I chickened out I think on the first 2-3 girls that passed my me in the streets, some I didn't approach because I would have to walk across the street to meet them. It would not seem spontaneous, but more direct - not how I am taught the game right now. But I didn't have any huge problems approaching the first hot girl I saw after that with the good geometry to approach her. So I did. But Itsmyway had problems not only using the 3 second rule but after that also finding a single target proved almost impossible. This went on for 1-2 hours with no successful approaches for him. After that I told him its cool, we will do the mission another day and no more game today.

So we went to an event, a TED-talk. At this place I realized I was a shitload more confident than the people there. I am beginning to feel ready to be the man, the spotlight in an area. I noticed people there were fidgeting a lot, not knowing what to do, who to speak to. But me I felt relaxed, I stood with a nice straight back and planted feet. Things will be good in the future.

We will continue the 1 number or 8 tries on thursday, I can't tomorrow due to work. Because the events I wanted to seed with don't exist after tomorrow, I have decided to tell the girls there is a super special haircutter my friends know. And he is opening a salon next week. I will tell them what a special haircutter he is, you can't select your own haircut - you just have to trust his ini tuition. And the haricuts will be free. I hope to get some #s this way. I don't need to call them for a fake event. The only point for the moment is to be able to comfortably seed an event and get a phone number and I think faking it till I am making it will be ok.

Mission 20 (with success)

Okey, so I met up with Itsmyway for our second attempt at this day. We had some problems finding single targets in geometrical reach. We were doing 1 approach each, but in this case 1 approach only count if you try to invite the girl to the event. And 90% of approaches don't get to that stage because they mostly leave before you reach that point. So because I reached it the last day it was his turn until he reached that point. We walked for maybe 1 hour or something while he attempted this on some girls, always failing. He took out 200 dollars in the mini bank and we made a rule I would keep it if he didn't approach anyone within 3 minutes, and reseting the timer between every approach. This rule really works. However, after maybe 1 hour and a half he told me all this approaching was mentally tireding so it was my turn. I said alright.

I tried to stop 2-3 single walking in the street. But they all walked straight past me. There must have been something wrong with my voice when I tried.

Approach 1

Stopped a girl in a shopping street and asked her about the hair. I rooted it and then I asked her if she was Swedish. Then went back to the rooting. Then I asked her if she was from X city, and she said no.. A bit more south. I couldn't find any possible way to get rapport or small talk with this girl so I was slowly walking away (but with a smile). Damn.

Then I tried to stop one or two more girls but they all walked past me. What the hell.

Third girl that came along and…..

Success!

Approached a very decent blonde in the street. She wore a headset, I said "I just gotta ask you before I go…" but she wore a headset. When she took it off I asked her(so she didn't hear that i had to go), with a turned body straight back if it was cool for guys to have long hair . She asked me how long hair. I told her longer than what I have right now, and that is not coming out of my cap. I preceded to tell her the story about the crazy nazi hairdresser that was opening a store in the city. Interacted a bit with her about nazi haircutters. Had some laughs and some smiles. Then I told her a DHV story that I rented an apartment with some buddies in Macedonia and that I visited the best haircutter in the country there but for the price of a banana. After the DHV story I told her that she should come along to this party. I explained again how there would be free hair consulting there, free samples, fruit and what not. And that me and my friends were going. She said yeah to this .. So she asked me how/when this happened. I told her in two weeks, after Easter and that I didn't know the exact date. I told her I would SMS her when I knew something more. I pulled my phone from my pocket and inside my head I thought WTF, I have never done this before… I hope she didn't notice I was baffled that I was actually getting her phone number haha. So I handed it over, called her so she had my number. We shook hands after that and introduced each other. After that I remembered I had to talk to her a bit. There was a silence after the number and so I asked her (with a grin) if she was going to cut her hair there.. She said no, and that actually she had a haircutting appointment tomorrow. I jokingly said maybe she could cancel it, but nahh… After this we ran out of things to say to each other. She walked away, and I said "By the way, I am Ktaki" and she said "I know" - I thought I only shook her hands and heard HER name. The strangest thing is that I gave her a thumbs up when I said my name is Ktaki. WTF haha.

But HOLY SHIT. Even though this wasn't perfect, we had alright rapport and I have never gotten a number from a girl in the street. Big pat on the back for me. I know it wasn't a direct phone number in the sense that I told her I wanted to date her - I wanted her to come to an awesome event with my friends, but she still typed her digits on my phone. And that is something. But its shit that this event doesn't exist! She thinks I have huge social circle and this awesome party to go to haha. But I wanna see her again, but now I can't. ^^

What did I notice here?

-I can be charming, creative, funny if I get into a certain mood… If I don't then everything goes to shit.
-She was pretty hot and I didn't make a lot of eye contact other than to look her in the eyes sometimes to gain rapport with a smile or laugh.
-Because I didn't look at her a lot I would never notice anything to tease/neg her with
-Everything is better if you manage to open it, and then root it by storytelling.. If done properly they really stop to listen to you if you do this with enthusiasm
-Proper stance is very important. Itmyway observed from far away that because I was standing almost facing away from her she was almost leaning towards me like a child looking very interested in what I have to say.
-Its much easier to ask people who can definitely see with peripheral vision that I am trying to say something to them. In a crowded streets sometimes people walk away from me either not knowing I am trying to open them or consciously ignoring me.

Day 21 failure + day 20 extra

I will be honest here so I am going to write the bad stuff as well as the good stuff.

We run a no man left behind program so the day after the last day I wrote a post and had gotten a number Itsmyway still had not. So the day after we spent approaching. Finally Itsmyway got a number from a nice russian girl using all the material we applied. Great!

Now the bad stuff. So we had day 21, which is basically to review everything, make a list of our routines and go through them all the way to the number close.

It was evening, I had been called out to work early in the morning and was just relaxing before that. We went to a gigantic shopping mall half an hours drive. Felt like Style and Mystery in The Game book when they were driving to locations just to sarge. When I entered I felt like a kid in a toystore looking at all the sets. It was my turn to make the first approach…. Then everything went to shit.

I don't know exactly what happened. But I always made an excuse not to approach. Even the smoking hot girl in the beginning. I guess once you fail the 3 second rule everything fails. And so it did. Its not that I had approach anxiety - a bad feeling inside me. But something inside me wasn't working like a PUA. After a few minutes we found out the mall was closing. So I approached what I thought was a HB, approached her with man bags but it turned out she was 40 so I left her after the opener. It still counted because I initially thought she was good. We left the mall and put the Trololol song as loud as the stereo could play, opened the windows so everybody could hear and drove back through the city. Here I was walking around and I tried to open a couple of girls. But it was freezing cold and dark outside. When I tried to speak to them they just walked past me, albeit with a headset. We were walking maybe 1 hour more in the city and I was looking for sets. But no big luck. So eventually a nice blonde passed. I opened her with the ban bags, but I didn't feel any rapport to move on. No smile, just a technical conversation about man bags. What the fuck me. After that I proposed my wing we go home, eat some chocolate and watch an episode of the pick up artist VH1 show. That was a real blast to watch. One hour later I took the train to my home town to celebrate Easter.

But I don't feel bad about taking a vacation now. The past 3-4 weeks we have gone from feeling awkward making small talk to strangers to each getting a number. There is still a lot of work but I will be away from the sarge city for 2 weeks. Meanwhile I will spend some time with family in the Norwegian mountains celebrating easter

Will see you all in a week or two for mission 21.

Okey dokey folks. We are still alive and going mediocre trying to be strong.

Day 21 redo. Failiure - another way that doesn't work.

We both have a feeling of recklessness for not having completed this mission yet. This is the thoughts I wrote down for today.

Wrote myself an open letter why I want to push myself today.

Thoughts for Monday, April 8, 2013






Life is short. We are not here to make money but to make enough money to stay alive in this city. The purpose of our project is to push our mental boundaries with what we can do with the girls in the street. We will feel so good about ourselves as we possibly can. We wanna be, although I hate using the word, as alpha as we can. As of now we earn enough money to survive. In theory that is all that is required.



The way things are now we have done really good compared to what the average man can do, but we have come down to a miserable level compared to how we were before. We have already had well-earned breaks. But now it's game time. Today we will be like Bruce Willis, Viggo Mortensen in Lord of the Rings, Jackie Chan or other awesome men who I am sure have had a showdown with themselves at some point in their lives. Today we will now make another attempt on everything we've learned. To get a phone number. We will open. Pretend that we are about to go. Open a new thread. Disqualify ourselves. Mention a place we like to hang out. Everything we learned.

Todays opener will be this:

OPEN - should guys have long hair or short hair. ROOT with the story of my life why I dont want to spend money cutting my hair and instead live like a struggling artist. THEREFORE I want you to cut my hair in the street (DATE). DHV with stories of former live living in eastern europe.

Notable Approach #1

Saw two black immigrant chicks who were walking, one of them with a baby. I went direct this time and I told her she had a really awesome her. Then I somehow went about telling them about my hair, and I said because she had such a cool hair she should cut my hair. I told them I would go to buy a haircutting machine one of these days and that I would call her later to cut me. Her friend said to me she doesn't speak Norwegian. I said no problem I have google translate. I then handed her my phone as they were starting to walk away, and she entered her #. Texted her later "Hello haircutter" - no reply. Not a great approach, I was pushy, maybe needy but i think its funny I have the ability to walk up to someone and do what I just did.

Notable Approach #2

Stopped a girl in the street asked if guys could have long or short hair. She called me out and asked if I was the guy who asked about the man bags some other day. I said yes and she walked away. I should have tried to initiate a conversation about the game and my journey or something but I didn't think of it in the moment. Haha, this is a small city indeed.

Notable Approach #3

Approached some girl outside a gym. Told her I had to go to my friends but asked her about having long hair or short hair. I proceeded to have mostly a monologue where I went through my routine , showed her my hair, discussed hair and told her about the time I had the best haircutter in all of Macedonia and how I ended up in this city trying to be a comedian. She said I should have long hair and SHIT there goes my excuse to get her number. So she was standing there really smiling at me, probably being baffled my my approach. I felt it was a little awkward but because I was so reckless I decided to push this as far as I could instead of leaving. So I stood there while she was smiling at me and I asked her what she did. She said she was going to the gym, so I said what do you do in life. Skiing, dancing and working out - I joked not at the same time. I told her a story when I was in the mountains in the north of Norway. Just blabbing on really. Then I said to her I wanted to take her out for coffee. She said "I don't know…." as she was holding her phone out. I said I understood and told her to have a nice day.

What am I happy with? I find rejection interesting or funny. I don't know when it happened but I have developed some sort of rejection shield. Thats pretty cool.

Will post a new log tomorrow for another try of day 21.

This happened today. Another whine to myself-post but I am going to write it because I am dedicated to this quest.

Another day 21. 21 tomorrow will also be a day 21.

Met up with with my wing early in the morning to sarge 1,5 hours before his work. Somehow I wasn't in "the game" in the first 5 minutes of walking in the street when it was crawling with targets. I don't know what the fuck happened inside my head. But after I could not find anyone really. I always found an excuse. If I would have to approach her I would have to make a bad geometry approach. If I had to approach her I would have to have that person listen to it. If bla bla bla the geometry isn't right I wasn't going to approach. Lesson learned? IF I DONT APPROACH I NEVER KNOW. But I already know this. I already know this. I already know this.

Afterwards I hit the gym had a great workout. After the gym I went back to the city and I spent 3-4 hours walking around doing some other business I had. Inside my head I thought if I should use some direct game by simply walking up to girls saying they are beautiful. I nearly did this a thousand times today. I noticed so many hot babes walking around. But it never happened. I never made the actual approach. But despite of this I feel I am closer to doing it than I was yesterday or any day before. The game consists of a thousand micro steps before you become the ideal self.

Zoom forward a couple of hours and I met my wing for our second attempt of the day of the god knows how many attempts we had of another number close day. It was my turn to start. I approached a red head in the street and I was called out for using the same opener. It turned out it was the same chick that I approached with the exact same opener at the same time of the day. It was funny, we both laughed. She must have thought I was retarded or something but I approach so many people I forget their faces and more than often I open the same persons two times.

The second approach was a girl and I asked her about my hair being long or not. I managed to speak to her one or two minutes. But I was always pushing the conversation as she tried to leave and we were nothing standing with the "I gotta leave stance" holding a conversation for an astonishingly long time as I tried to multitrack everything I could into the conversation. But no, she did not want to cut my hair and she left (with a smile).



The next approaches for the night are not worthy of mentioning. They were shit. I wasn't engaging, didn't reach any hook points. Nothing that allowed me to get a phone number. This is because I wasn't in the right state - I wasn't FULL of energy, I wasn't SMILING RADIATING SUPER CHARISMA (not that I wasn't smiling), I wasn't perhaps making enough eye contact and everything else I learned in the 30 day challenge so far. Something wasn't right.

I made one direct approach to an indian girl for the first time. I literally ran up to her and said "I just had to approach you when I saw you". She gave me something like a "You are a half AFC" look and I shook her hand said my name and she walked along. I REALLY didn't do this in a smooth James Bond style, I was probably mumbling a bit but what the fuck I did it for the first time so I give myself some credits.

Do I feel ashamed of this progress/stagnation? Kind of yes, kind of not.
Do I care about rejection? Not really.
What is wrong? Everything and nothing.
What am I doing? Trying to fix my life. THis is ALL I have to do in my life before I do anything else.
What will I do tomorrow? Try to fix it again.

TOMORROW IS

10 direct approaches. Walking up to a girl saying she was so beautiful I just had to say hi. Or something like that. 10 times. Hot babes. If no number try again after that. No giving up.

This is my question to you brothers. Will a direct approach with a number close count as a complete day 21 on DAY TIME? Or am I obliged to use indirect game for this mission to be completed?

Direct game for the # in the morning

Man I could feel my whole body saying no no stay in bed rest your muscles eat your proteins, whatever you do don't go approaching direct. But my mind said you are here for a reason and this is your job in life now. So I hopped on the bus and listened to The Beatles for some get in the mood music.

Approach 1 - actually two HBs walked past but my went went BLLBLLBLHUUUU and I didn't approach.

A cute girl was walking on the center square. I walked straight to her and said I thought she was really cute so I had to walk over to her. Shook hands with her and then I said I didn't really think of anything else to say. She then said thats cool she had to go to school anyway. She walked off. I felt amazing after stating my true intention.

I probably said the "I didn't actually think what to say next" line wrong because she walked off. I saw this in a video and the girl laughed and got the conversation on from there.

Approach 2

Saw a girl who was putting the clothes on for sale in the morning. Really fit body and blonde hair. At first I thought hell no I can't approach her. And now the 3 seconds had gone .Fuck. I walked further down the street for 2 seconds then I thought fuck it. I walked into the store and I said to her she was the most beautiful girl I had seen today although its only 9 AM. And that I wanted to take her for coffee or something. She laughed at this and smiled and gave me the "You are an AFC" look.. Said something like "awww, but I have a boyfriend". I took my hand on my chest in an AFC manner and said "well at least I said it".

Hate to be treated that way, I like to be more cocky but it was alright to push my boundaries again.

Approach 3

Saw an asian girl walking fast for the bus stop. I walked in front of her and stopped her as she pulled her earbuds out. I pointed to where she was 5 seconds ago, told her I saw her over there and she was really cute so I had to come over. I did this with a smile. She smiled/laughed or something and said she had to reach the bus. As she was walking away I said thats cool, give me your number then and we will talk later. She hesitated a bit and said alright. I handed her my phone. I noticed it looked like she was fidgeting/thinking a bit when she entered the digits.

Turned out she gave me a fake number though, this is the number of some guy who lives hundreds of kilometers away. I know because I texted the number with a funny "I was just thinking, are you confused when kids call for their mothers in the streets? But I guess you hear that all the time…" - her name was Ma. But the reply I got was confused, so I looked it up and its some doughebag who lives hundreds of miles from here.

Approach 4

An indian girl was walking with shopping bags in her hands. At first I was thinking shit is that the girl from the first direct approach yesterday? I couldn't see because she had sunglasses. I said something like "Hey wait, I HAVE to talk to you". I just saw you and you are really beautiful. And that I didn't actually have anything else to say. She smiled and this and seemed pleased to be in the interaction. My memory is blank for the next few seconds of the conversation. But somehow I managed to say to her that we should go out and do something. Told her I was on my way to the store to buy a hair cutting machine and that she should cut it. Or go for coffee with me. I got her number and joked that I wasn't gonna save her by name because of her long name. As she ran off to the buss I yelled at her that I would call her and THEN next her. Why the hell did I do that I don't know, it seems desperate. But ok.

A couple of hours later as I was stuck in a bus I texted her "hello".

Thats it for the morning sarge. I was thinking of sagging alone without my wing for some hours while he was at work, but I didn't because my energy disappeared. Still have 6 direct approaches to go before my own mission is complete for today.

So I got one real number from a girl from a direct approach. Is day 21 complete then? I don't know. The point of the mission is to get a number by going through everything you have learned and skip as much as possible. I basically skipped everything when I got the number by not going indirect, multi tracking and everything.

Direct game in day game (evening day game)

Woah. What a high!

All about the China girl:

I will start with what is most fresh in memory. I saw a woman who was walking in basically a huge floor carpet right around her. This got me really interested, and since it was my turn to make the direct approach I walked up as she crossed the street and asked what its all about. She didn't reply properly, so I turned and walked with her for 2 seconds as she crossed the street. I asked if she spoke Norwegian and she didn't. Spoke to her in English and explained that I had to ask what its all about with her and that I had to approach her when I saw her. As she spoke whatever I asked where she got that accent from - was she Spanish? She said no, she is Chinese. Then I did an AFC-maneuver and said something like I wanted to take her out somewhere (after all, it IS experimental direct game)… I don't remember what she said. But I ended up speaking to her about traveling and something. When I said I wanted to take her out to a date, I think I did say that, she said no she wasn't available friday or not saturday because bla bla bla and I just said whatever some day. She said I should have come to her bar instead. She described this to be a really cool bar repeatedly. But I just stood there with a straight back not moving a muscle and said no I want to go eat strawberries with you in the square of the city and exchange travel stories. She said she liked this idea but I should go to the bar instead. I kind of tried to hand her my phone again or something. Eventually it was like this - I didn't want to go to her bar because (DHV story - work 1 day a week to pay for food, nothing more, ambition become comedian become struggling artist with lots of free time) and she didn't want me to call her for whatever reason.

The good stuff I learned

-I become fucking high when I see a girl I REALLY like. This one qualified almost everything I want in a girl. I actually never met someone so beautiful on the outside and inside.
-I learned how I behave around HB8-9s
-I realized she WAS an HB9
-I probably won't be as desperate
-I actually fucking approached her
-Every girl I meet now will be compared to her and I think I will have a better qualifying attitude "are you as good as her" attitude when I screen them

The bad stuff

-I probably over imagine how good she was after speaking to her 3 minutes
-I went AFC on her partly and almost qualified myself to her (BUT I WANTED TO QUALIFY BECAUSE SHE IS TOTALLY LIKE ME)
-I was needy with the phone number
-I realized how many opportunities I lost like this in life by never approaching casually and this happened on the second day of approaching directly the HBs
-I wont meet her again like ever and she was soooo adorable… But then I probably will because of the new lifestyle I want to adapt. I will meet cooler girls even. I had my wing yell this to my face that I would.
-Could have nagged her or screened her more. I let this slide in reverse because she was so cool.

WHen Don Diego Garcia said "approach every girl. period" in a FlashChat to me I know what he meant now. Just that. Approach every hot girl. Period. Approach every girl. Period. I need to memorize this.

Okey. Now all the other shitty approaches:

5 direct approaches I did

Ran across the street to some blonde and said "I just had to run over here because you looked so beautiful… probably because you are blonde". Maybe I didn't have the perfect delivery but she replied with a sarcastic "oh, okay".. Maybe she had a bad day, maybe she was something like a bitch. Who knows, I just ran off again not really caring about it but more annoyed of my delivery.

Spoke to a girl who came out of gym, approached her from behind. Said I had to run over here. She wasn't super beautiful and had an awkward conversation with her in total AFC mode. Asked her out for the fuck of it and she said "I don't know…" I said thats ok and left.

Approached a girl from behind said I had to come over… But I said I didn't know what to say after. She said she had to run off. Okey.

Approached a girl and said I had to come over and say hello. Shook hands and then awkwardly said her gloves were cool - they are the same as my (fucking awesome leather jacket from 1970) jacket. I said I didn't plan what to say after. And she said she had a boyfriend for 7 years. I just stood there kind of smiling thinking of what to say. I told her that was very cool, and that I had read in a book a long time ago most relationships last 1,5 years (I made that number up, forgot the real number). And then I congratulated her, smoothly leaving and saying bye.

Walked into a shopping mall and the first person I see is a blonde working in a retail store selling clothes. I told her she was cute and walked up to her. Didn't know what to say so I made a comment about her tattoos, and how she had worked so long they would fade away with all the stress. Not great but better than nothing. Asked what they were about and all that. Talked about my tattoos asked if she wanted to see them. She did. Then I spoke about something else. I told her a story when I was picked up by a gay guy in Barcelona and how he saw my tattoo in the picasso museum and they threw me out of there because of it. She asked what I was doing right now and I said I had a walk with my buddy (my wing). Yada yada talk. I said something like I wanted to talk to you later some day and talk about tattoos. She said her boyfriend wouldn't like that. So she suggested Facebook for whatever reason she didn't want to give the phone number. We had some problems adding her on Facebook because of my keyboard on the phone and I suggested texting her my name so she would add me, then delete the MSG so I don't have the number but nah. Anyways she was finally added and I left some time after that. Again I asked her if she remembered my name and that it was Ktaki. I wrote this in my posts WTF why do I do that after some approaches? I don't understand this behavior of mine.

Tomorrow is another day of day 21. But I got it confirmed from MrMemphis today that SLA challenge is ALL about indirect game. So we will try everything we learned. Again. Until we get a fucking number. None the less today was amazing going direct because we get a great energy from it and are more confident than we were yesterday.

Also, yeah. One phone number was a fake I think I wrote that. The other is real. Texted her if she wants to cut my hair or eat strawberries with me but no replies yet. I know because I search up the number to see if its in the right area of Norway, but thats the end of my stalking because I don't want to be a fucking stalker but I also need to learn if they faked it on me so I know what I did wrong.

Day 21 finally complete for me. But my wing hasn't yet so I won't move on until he is done. But I think we finally got a strategy that worked. For indirect game in the day, today we tried this: Talk slowly, be casual.

Fuck the get the girl to cut my hair routine. Although it gave me one number its not solid. So I read through the basic opening PDF for the style life challenge. And because this is ALL indirect I wasn't sure how to close or how to open, so I looked through the opening PDF for the Challenge. The solution was this say/imply anything other than "I wanna put my penis into you" if you aren't going direct. So todays interpretation of the Challenge is to cut whatever you can to get to the number (e.g cold reading) and be indirect.

Approach #1

Couldn't really find any girls in the street that day so I saw the face of a blonde sitting in a travel agency. I walked in and told her I wasn't going to ask her a question about traveling ("I will waste your time"), so I asked her where to find a Chinese haircutter. At this point she looked a bit pissed off at me but I decided to see what I could make of the situation. She asked me why I wanted to see a Chinese haircutter… And I explained to her it didn't have to be a Chinese per se, but like an immigrant haircutter.. A cheap one. She told me about some haircutters or something.. I pretended to leave and then I turned my back and said "Hey, you know the last time I cut my hair…" bla bla bla best haircutter in Macedonia + DHV ambition to become comedian. She told me she guess she would see me at that stage in the city. I asked her which stage is that and spoke to her about another stage.

But then I exited smoothly. Why? I figured something like this. I had actually done a decent approach so far, she was much more happy and kind of smiling than when I approached her initially. I was relaxed. But I felt if I had done ONE more move I would loose my attitude as non-needy and cool.

Approach #2

Approached a blonde, maybe 27 with looooong blonde hair working in some shop. I asked her if there were any Chinese haircutters around. Or some immigrant ones or whatever. Proceeded to talk about hair, asking questions about her hair, DHV about Macedonia, talk a LOT about wanting to become a comedian. I think it took around 5-6 minutes for the whole interaction. We just stood there making small talk, smiling a bit. Holding multiple threads going. For the number close I told her she should come to my first show and bring a couple of friends of her (VERY INDIRECT). She said I should just pop by the stage but I said nah I would send her a text. Asked whats her name then entered her name and handed her my phone for the digits. Told her I would text her in two months and she had to remember who I was by then. Made some small talk about her name, and how its hard to pronounce it. Shook hands with her and told her of my name and what friends call me.

It was all very casual and the number went smooth.

It may be efficient to close in this way because the number is no big deal. But I don't think its cool! But I guess I will find a way to make it cool some day.



Day 22

MIssion: Read a very long text about framing, then go convince somebody the opposite of something which has a consensus. Then, after that introduce somebody to somebody and claim that person has won the lottery.

The PDF was very interesting but I am too lazy to write what I learned in this as I am already procrastinating while enjoying my cup of tea as I am writing this. Anyway day 22 was a real easy mission. Today the weather was really shit, its cloudy, a bit cold, windy and rainy. So I would go out and about convince somebody that the weather is great, and introduce them to my wing who just won the lottery. Sounds easy? Yep

The approach. I hit the downtown city centre streets and had a walk until someone popped by.

Saw two girls about my age. Average looks. Asked them where the nearest restaurant was. They gave me two options and I told them yeah that one is awesome, because thats a really expensive one right? Yeah I am here because I meet my buddy here every sunday. He just won a lot of money on a scratch card so we are eating steaks. Then I transitioned somehow to talking about the weather. I told them I actually loved this weather… Because it reminds me of summer coming… And I got myself a summer haircut yesterday… She told me she didn't like what it did to her hair but I said you know what, I love how your hair looks now in this wind. Asked her friend "don't you think so as well"? Then after that my wing dropped in on the 1-2 minute timer. I introduced him as my good friend, and then told them "you know what I was just joking about the lottery." But we go for coffee every Sunday. I told them it was real nice to meet them, they should have a nice day. Shook their hands.

I spoke very confidently, approach was great. Good stance. Easy mission.

DAY 23

Posture 6
- I have a great posture when I have a great posture. The question is if I always have it - I don't always have it if I am nervous or something. But when its great its fucking awesome.

Vocal projection 6,5
-My wing says sometimes I don't get the message through

Grooming 7
I have an awesome sense of fashion and decent grooming. No problems here.

Eye contact 4
Sometimes, especially if she is hot, I tend to not look her in the eyes as well as I should. I know how much rapport you can get from decent eye contact. Its an oxytoxin pumper.

Energy/positivity 8
Wing says this is FANTASTIC when its FANTASTIC. But sometimes it is shit also.

Small talk 8
When I actually do small talk to strangers its great small talk. Crazy.

Using openers 7
Becuase I always stick to openers.

Time constraint 5
I am not 100% if I always say it or just use my body instead. So 5 because of 50% of time

Rooting
6,5 - I do root sometimes.

Disqualifiers/negs
6 - I don't always neg in the street, mostly when I am feeling spontaneous. But when I do neg its great.

Identity 9
This is the root of everything. I know my identity very well. Muy bien.

I met up with my wing in the centre. Just as I met him I saw an asian girl walking past him so I direct approached her for the fuck of it, told her she was cute and if she wanted to meet the day.. She didn't, my approach was fucked up and needy anyways. No worries. So as he was having dinner in a restaurant we went through all the things we should have learned and judged ourselves on them considering day game.


Anyway. So I didn't get a phone number yesterday, I didn't even attempt it. So I was supposed to approach 12 women today. Today I was feeling awesome. I walked with low shoulders, felt very relaxed about everything. My plan was to use my shoes as an opener, root them with how I just bought them and didn't feel I good with them in the jacket. Then root that to a DHV story how I had some shoes I couldn't find that looked almost the same but with the perfect color I had walked all over Europe with etc, how my loving mother had thrown away my old shoes but I wore the new ones because I love her etc. It would give me DHVs for traveling, having something of affectionate value, loving close family. Everything should be perfect.

But it wasn't! I approached I think 7 single girls. Also some sets also but just for fun. But 7 girls I opened somehow asking about the shoes. But something was wrong. Although I could get them to smile, laugh or have a good time I never managed to transiton to another routine or make small talk to invite them for tango tomorrow.

This is what I think happened. Being nervous when you approach could potentially give you an extra edge to spark your brain into making better transistional conversation. When you are totally relaxed about approaching you are not giving out the "I have to run" attitude. You don't get so "I don't really give a shit about this condo or if you reject me" so I am not going to put a lot of effort in it. Anyways, the result for every single approach today was no number, no cold read, no real DHV story apart from the opener or anything. Very bad! Man, there is a LOT of calibration in the game. First don't get nervous, then get less nervous, Then get more nervous to get more talkative.

I have 5 approahes in the end so I am doing them overtime. I did all I wrote in this post yesterday. Probably going with a fail proof opener like the man bag.


###BONUS####


I was about to approach an asian girl that was pretty hot, but then I thought she was so hot that I couldn't afford another failure with the shoes opener. So I walked up to her and said "I just saw you from over there and I was like "PAH" and I did a gesture with my arms. I think I did so VERY comfortably because I said EXACTLY how I felt and it was a great feeling. Waited a bit for her reaction, and her reaction was a little strange. She was very baffled at this and said thank you. But then she almost closed her arms and got nervous. I tried to ease her up and I was smiling standing adjacent to her with a straight back. I said I didn't really think of what to say after. So I said I am Ktaki. She said her name was XXX. She nervously said "A…Are you a student or something?" I replied with "Nah, I am kind of following my dream to become a comedian here. And I have a lot of free time. Its pretty cool". I asked her what she was doing, and she interpreted it as in the moment so she said she was meeting some friends to do some activity. I told her its alright I will go. Then I told her I am going with some friends for tango tomorrow - tomorrow she was busy so I said ok whatever (with a smile) I will think of something for another day. She was holding her cell up so I told her to text me and I told her my digits. She said she would. I spoke to her for a little more then told her I was gonna go so she could meet her friends.


^Thought everything was cool, but she flaked as I didn't receive any text. Not enough comfort/attraction I guess. Oh well. Because it is indirect it doesn't count as an approach.

Day 23 - continued alone

First of all. Yay for attempting to sarge alone. Never done that. Breakthrough. Okey.

So I headed out to the city to start getting my 5 final approaches because I didn't get a number yesterday. I would have 1 hour to do this, should be perfect…. Apart from my sticking point of not being able to transit from the opener. Ditched opening about the shoes figuring the opener was the problem. Today I was going to open them saying them I was on my way to this second hand store because my nephew had been sick and was now well so I was gonna be the good uncle and give him a present. My small talk would be either how I wasn't gonna give him presents apart from this because everybody already does it and I would instead be the cool uncle who takes care of em when they reach 14 and nobody wants them. And how I wouldn't go to Toys r Us because everything is standard and I can find cooler things in the second hand store.

This is my story from today.

Left the bus. Saw one girl who was waiting for a bus but SOMEHOW I skipped her. Somehow here means BULLSHIT. I had NO reason to do it.

A1

Anyway I proceeded, not emotionally shaken, music on my ears. I stopped a girl on a bridge. A really fucking adorable little brunette. She totally bought into my opener. Tried to build some small talk around where are these and those stores. Tried to bait her saying I haven't been in this city a long time, implying a DHV of why I am here. Tried to loosen up by changing my stance. But after we had completed the discussion of what to get/where to go we were both standing there/smiling. I looked into her eyes and thought fuck I wanna date that girl. But I couldn't think of anything to move on with. So I said it was lovely to meet you and I moved on. Note to self, next time make a story when I had my 5 year old nephew ask for Bukowski books in the library, maybe it'll be funny.

A2

On the second approach I spotted an Asian from 100M away on a bicycle. I figured I would walk past her then open her. And so I did (telling her to stop on her bicycle). The opener went alright, then she said her friends would know more and so she called out two girlfriends of hers. We discussed the opener a bit and decided I would buy a tiny book. I said goodbye to them. The 1 girl turned to a 3-set. Also, it turned out I was in a schoolyard or something the girl must have been 17-18 or something. Shit.

A3

I saw a hot blonde jogging by. Somehow I rationalized myself unconsciously that she wore headphones BLABLABLA bullshit so I didn't stop her. Come on Ktaki you have stopped joggers before. Also as I was making notes on my phone what I was thinking at the time for this report there was another decent blonde standing not so far from me but didn't approach her either because of my typing.

So the next blonde I approached was outside a library. Totally average one, would not asks for a date outside the challenge. She had NO idea what to buy and was confused but I made good eye contact with her so she was smiling a bit. I played the pussy card I hate playing where I say I am a man so I don't know what to do (which is bulllshit thats why I don't like to say it).

At this point I remembered Mystery writing his comedian routine where you can say a joke 10 times and nobody will laugh it could still be funny on average. But right now I have 10 approaches with no good transition after the opener. Muy tal.

A4

First I skipped another because I though she was ugly but I realized just before she passed me she wasn't at all and at that point I had been staring too long at her. Which isn't an excuse not to approach. Never play, never win.

Opened an adorably cute li´l brunette outside a bus stop. Asked around for second hand store I wanted to go to then said "Hey by the way, what would you buy a six year old"? Had some fun with the opener….. BUT thats it. I did tell her a story when my parents gave me a N64 when I was six and how awesome I felt. But that didn't help with the transition. Comfortable goodbye. Again.

A5

Asked another girl for directions to the second hand store but it ended with the directions. My fault, I did this with as little enthusiasm. At this point though I think "man, I have become an opening machine. a direction machine". My morale was going down.

Next I saw an Asian girl walking down the street. Opened her asking for directions to the store even though it was just 100M away from me in the very street. She actually gave me the wrong directions to it, and as I was pretend walking there I asked her what to get to a six year old. She didn't really give me a good answer to this. So I hinted at it a couple of times in the interaction. She did give me the right directions to the store though. Could not move on in the condo. She left eventually.

OOOOOKEY. I have a sticking point.

Went down to the docks to look at the ocean and relax before I would meet my wingman to discuss the party for day 24 challenge.

Met up with him. Had a chat about everything that is wrong and right with me. Yesterday I had been arrogant and not taking his advice about opening with shoes. I was overanalyzing everything and that was ruining my game. I should focus more on talking about bullshit, about the weather, until I reach something I can DHV with. So my plan would be to open with the nephew/directions as usual then speak about bullshit.

Also, we decided for our party we would collaborate being "the man". We wanna organize a storytelling event with free coffee and fruits in a public park when its sunshine. Here we have one person with the spotlight telling everybody a story. Sounds like a cool party to me

A1

Asked a girl about to cross the street where to find children's stores around here. Told her about my nephew and what I wanted to buy. She didn't speak Norwegian so I asked her if she spoke English which she did. I asked the same thing again without giving her interest aboutt why I had to speak English. She suggested I bought him some video games and stuff. Then I told her nah I didn't wanna do that because I want something that he can remember in 10 years. I then leant my back relaxed against the stake you push the button to cross the street. I told her how my uncle
bought me one of those wooden planes and I pointed towards the sky as we were both visualizing this. Very good rapport so far. Then as my wing told me I asked her where she was from. She was from Iran and I was like really? That is awesome, I IOIed her because I really was interested in that. I love foreign girls. She asked me if I studied. I told her no I don't study, I follow my dream bla bla only work 1 day a week and I like it. I told her a long and grim joke about current events in the news (I will not write it here because I would be banned from the forum for it) and she laughed at this. I then described the event where I would call a bunch of friends for storytelling with coffee, fruits etc and I wanted to call her for this later. I asked what her name was and we had some fun when I pronounced it. As I called her the name popped up on my autolookupwhoisthenewnumber app and I promised her I would text her the name of that app later. She then said she really had to go to and I said it was cool. So --I-- didn't leave right after the phone number, she did. Very good.

That was the smoothest # close I have done so far. When I was walking in the streets listening to that good Beach Boys - California Girls with my fake Ray Ban and great attire I couldn't help just feeling good and comfortable about myself before the approach.


Afterwards I just walked around feeling awesome. I didn't make any more attempts at # closes today because I wanted to leave at a high. I did have some cool conversations with strangers later though.

For example:

Me and my wing were talking about the South Park episode where they call MC guys faggots and were laughing about yelling faggots to the guys who were making all the noise in the street. So I saw a mediocre faceable girl sitting on a bench over there. I walked up over there, looking great feeling great, and asked if she saw South Park and then that episode. She did not but I explained this to her with enthusiasm. I had a grim on my face. Stood there with a straight back. Then I talked to her about Sons of Anarchy and what I thought of that show. She really enjoyed this interaction and so did I. I didn't have a purpose walking up to her I just felt like it because I could do it. Afterwards I left having brightened her day and mine.

Day 25

Called up the girl from last approach. Said it was me Ktaki, couldn't really think of a story to tell her. I wasn't super nervous but not as calm as I should be either. I think I did OK. Made some small talk about my name (she lead this though) and agreed for her to pop by this sunday.

Not writing more because today and yesterday wasn't so to say amazing but thats life. Will have days with more testosterone.