Tuesday

Did lab work with EM girl, she is more comfortable around me now.

Ran at night, about an hour.

An interesting text exchange between me and AB girl:

I respond to her text from last night:

Me: Was already home and asleep... how'd it go?

Her: Haha yeah I figured. It went really well, I think 95% of the questions were on the tests that we practiced with I just didn't know how to answer the one about warm temperatures effecting lobe finned fishes to land but oh well
Her: Oh but there was a true/false that asked are all amniotes terrestrial and I feel like it could have gone either way because isn't there an exception with the marine iguana but they're both terrestrial and aquatic? I put false I figured I could argue it if I need to

Me: It's false- Dolphins and whales are amniotes

Her: Yeah idk why I wasn't thinking of just reptiles
Her: Thanks for you're help with all of it!

Me: You're welcome, you can repay me with more dining hall meals

Her: I don't know if I see that as repaying but deal

Me: How is it not

Her: Because the dining hall isn't worth it haha

Me: Free food is free food, even if the grapefruits are shitty

Her: Hey the grapefruits are the good part!
Her: 95% of the time

Me (an hour 15 min later): Only really uncool people like grapefruits

Her (6 hrs later): I guess it takes one to know one but hey what do I know

Me (10 min later): Stop flirting with me, I'm trying to do work and it's very distracting

Her (immediately after): Haha wooow
Her: Go be smart Cornell

Me:

end of interaction

I shouldn't have sent the smiley at the end probably. Any high level guys want to comment? Tight game? Loose game? Pimp? Or shitty?

We shall see. Also sent out an invite for dinner party tomorrow, bunch of people coming. Word.

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Thursday evening

I arrive at CG girl's (from OKC) house. I knew that this was gonna be all roses and peaches because of the text interaction. She initiated, I responded, there was a mutual sharing of value. I mentioned I had free time, she invited me to her house to "play games". Mmmhmmm, I think I know where this is heading. Ok, I can play games, but don't try to seduce me or anything, I know how your mind works.

I demand that she stop being rude and give me the grand tour *smirk*. She complies. She actually owns the house, kudos. She shows me the throne room in the garage with the drum set. She seems to be expecting a kiss early, which I haven't gave yet. She's only gotten a hug so far. I check out her book collection (I love doing this). We talk about a couple books. She puts an acupuncture needle in my hand. It's my first one. Interesting.

She offers me water, I accept. We sit on the couch, I smooch her. It's an innocent little smooch. We play Sorry! and by some goddamn miracle she wins. I act playfully indignant. We make out a little. The touch is getting very comfortable, we lay close on the couch draped all over each other. She gets a phone call and I answer. As I'm talking with the water contamination officer on the phone (wtf?) she slowly runs her hand in my shirt. It turns me on and I get a little hazy, trying to focus on the phone call. I hand the phone to her, and she talks while I return the favor, leaning in and kissing her neck. She hangs up and we laugh about it, cutting the tension.

We talk some more. She gets on top of me and we make out. I push her back and get on top of her, we make out some more. I had mentioned earlier than I needed to leave for Denver sometime in the night. She asks in a coy voice why I'm teasing myself if I have to go later. I tell her she's right, we should behave. I get off and we fluff some more.

We make out some more, and I ask a challenging question: how good are your massage skills? She complies, and it's not half bad. She leans close, puts her arms around me, and kisses the side of my head. I turn around and return the favor. We're talking about random bullshit the entire time, mostly wide to mid level rapport. I pull her in with her back to me, and we're laying on the couch together. She tilts her head back. We make out while I put a hand in her bra. Now she tells me why I'm teasing the both of us if I have to go later. I tell her I have to leave at 9. It's 8:30.

We basically lay in spoon massage position the rest of the time, alternating making out and talking. She's got a better body than I originally thought! The time arrives, and we make out one last time. When I go for the bra clasp, she straightens up and laughs. I laugh too, and get up. As I reach for my phone, a text message from HS girl shows up "I can't wait to see you!" Not sure if CG girl saw it or not. As I give her a hug and a smooch goodbye, her face is long. She's experiencing the loss, I think. When things are going well, there's good emotions, good emotions, good emotions, and then BOOM the emotions are gone, it instigates those feelings that make you want to chase.

I do actually have to go though, and I drive to Denver, crash on CS girl's couch, and then wake up goddamn early (3 am) to catch a flight to Buffalo, NY to see HS girl. In the airport now. Stay tuned for the weekend report!

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The weekend!

Friday

On my connecting flight from Detroit to Buffalo, I catch the cute flight stewardess eyeing me. We exchange smiles. She asks, "Heading home?" I answer, "Heading away from home" She starts giggling. I ask her where she's from: Atlanta. She giggles some more. I tell her to have a good flight. She tells me the same. Nothing fancy here, just solid nonverbals. I arrive, and HS girl picks me up. We hug at the car, I pick her up and twirl her, a girl that's standing next to us couldn't help but smile. We go back to her place, she shows me around, we kiss and smooch, and we go out to an Indian place. HS girl is not in the greatest mood, although she is happy to see me. She had just taken an 8 hour medical school exam and is operating on little sleep.

We eat food, roam the streets a bit, and grab bubble tea. I bust out some slick cold approach skills (it was actually a warm approach) and chat up the bubble tea people, making them laugh their heads off.

We head back to the apartment, start watching Castaway, switch to 50 shades of grey. She models her matching underwear for me. We start fooling around and bone in her room on the floor. We take it easy for the rest of the night, just cuddling and watching movies.

Next morning we get up, run 7 miles together, make omelets, play Fruit Ninja. I'm still practicing escalation, so while we're playing, I come up behind her, and start getting touchy. Two steps forward, one step back. Pretty soon I'm fingering her, and when she starts getting really into it I suddenly take it away and play Fruit Ninja. After a couple cycles she's pretty horny. We go to the bedroom and the rest is history.

She asks me how I'm so good and jokingly tell me not to use my skills when I'm with other girls. I laugh and say alright. We head to the botanical gardens and cruise around. It's fun, couple-y stuff. We head to Michael's and get accessories for me (got a sick bracelet and materials to make two sick necklaces). The fashion thing is really coming together.

Afterwards, we dress up and head to her friend J girl's house for a potluck, where I get to meet her friends. When we arrive, the dinner conversation is slow and awkward and quiet. What do you expect, with a bunch of medical students? Me being the attention whore that I am, get in, start cracking jokes with everyone, and pretty soon the energy is all over the room and everyone's having a good time. I am so generous with my good vibes. We get home and pass out for the night.

I get 12 hours of sleep, holy shit. She wakes up two hours before me and goes to run 14 miles. Jesus girl, you crazy. She gets back and I'm grading papers and watching Into the Woods (meh). We eat food and blob on the couch for most of the afternoon. She is getting needy and asking me all sorts of questions about what we're doing. She starts getting frustrated and in a foul mood. Somehow we wind up in the bedroom having sex again. We get up from our post-coitus nap and head to Coldstone, and then another Indian restaurant.

Interesting things happen here. Up until this point, HS girl has been in a pretty neutral mood, not super happy because she's upset with how we're so far apart and how it's hard to do long distance. I'm pretty much in a killer state the whole time. The waitress comes over, and she's cute. I'm just doing my thing, self amusing and being high status, and this little waitress starts flirting with me! I give her a good, emotionally packed line back, and she leaves. HS girl's mood instantly changes. Uh huh, girl don't pretend like you don't flirt with other guys in front of me, my ego's just not as fragile as yours! We talk about it, and she feels better once reassured that I think she's special. Girls are so hilariously predictable. Waitress girl comes over again, still flirty, qualifies herself some, and brings our food. She brought us extra food, and told us that "she's the best at making mango lassie". lol. HS girl is shaking her head, peepin' mad game. I'm not even doing anything! lol. HS girl tells me she's impressed, and she's not quite sure the waitress didn't spit in her food. Waitress girl comes over a few more times than is necessary, asking if everything's fine and attempting to flirt, only making eye contact with me and not HS girl. I keep my responses a little more neutral. The whole scenario is cracking me up, and HS girl is way more into me now that she sees how much value I have. Nothing gets a girl wetter than seeing another girl tripping over herself to get you. Waitress comes over another time, and this time I give her more positive responses and she goes back to being bubbly and flirty. The last time, I hand her my phone and tell her to take a picture of me and HS girl, she happily obliges. HS girl thinks I'm cruel to play with girls' emotions like that. I agree, but it's all in good fun.

We head home, have sex again, and then pass out. Wake up at 4 am to head to the airport, and now here I am. Good weekend, practiced good escalation, and had a lot of sex. What else could I ask for? My new commandment: At a high point (sexually or in conversation) do a TAKEAWAY, it will initiate all those chase-y type feelings and the girl will start working harder for you.

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I just finished reading your whole journal, amazing stuff man!

I'm still in high school (Average Game) and very new to pickup, but reading your journal has inspired me to get better.

Good luck!

Glad to hear it man, you're starting pretty early if you're in high school. If you practice and get better your college life is going to be insane. So please, practice, find out how to get better, keep pushing and improving, surround yourself with dudes with better game than you so you can learn from them, and you will be handsomely rewarded.

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A weekend of no work rejuvenated me, and I'm finding it easier to concentrate and motivate throughout the day.

Monday night I get hit up by my boys MC bro and B bro. We hit up Road 34 for greasy ass food and the NCAA championship. I grade, open like two sets that were next to me just with observational small talk bullshit, but nothing too crazy.

RW girl is hitting me up more, and being a little extra flirty. In class on Tuesday she sits down next to me, and makes faces at me a couple times in class. Girl behave! RW girl is cute and fun, and wearing her hair down that day unlike most days, where she's usually decked out in gym gear. She's got on a plaid red checkered shirt and jeans, and is lookin' stylish. She asks me to study with her that night at the Wild Boar Cafe. I tell her I'm going to be running right before with a club, and her eyes light up. I let her know she should come, it's 5 miles and the speeds are all varied, but she says she would like to but she has to study for a practical (for the class I'm TA'ing her in). She gives me a death stare for fun. I laugh. We agree on studying that night.

CG girl hits me up over text, invites me to a folk music thingy at some cafe for Wednesday. I let her know I have a test to study for on Thursday, but I'll try and get studying out of the way to go to that.

I go to running club, only to realize that I'm missing 1!!!! running shoe. Apparently it slipped off my backpack sometime throughout the day. No running club for me. I drive back to school, retrace my steps, and to my jubilant delight I find it in a room on the floor. It wasn't too hard to spot (bright orange).

I run, do pull ups at a park, push ups at the end of the run, and go to the cafe slightly late. RW girl calls me to make sure I'm going. I tell her I'm 5 min away. I get there, sit down, and she tells me she's already been studying for 5 hours. Yikes. We start studying, but we banter and flirt while we do. We start laughing and having a fun time. I get food. She teases me about eating non-healthy after I decline her mac n cheese. I tell her I'm getting ready for bikini season. She's training for a half marathon. I ask her about that. Neglect to tell her that I've run several marathons and 2 50's. No need to brag and seek validation, fools. She already knows I'm a runner, so we've got the rapport there.

She shows me 2 tattoos (lifting up her shirt to show me one of them). I approve of them. Her bf texts her. I can tell she's the one with the power in the interaction, that he's a "nice guy" boyfriend who's needy for her. Perfect. We talk about calling people "babe" and "honey" in relationships. I tell her about my ex HR girl. I show her a pic of her. She makes fun of the hat I'm wearing in there. The fun, flirty vibe is definitely there. We share chocolate cake. The next step is getting this girl to chase harder. I'm studying again with her later today. Soon enough it's closing time and we call it quits.

Wednesday is double lab day, and the students are taking practicals. In the first one, KH girl, a student, and I have a very short but flirty interaction. KF girl comes up very close and flirts a little bit. I'm pimped out in jeans, a grey short sleeve, and my feather necklace, and lookin' pimp as fuck. We'll see what the rest of the day has to offer. Keep playin', gangstas. Unfazed out

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The second practical involves AB girl staying behind an hour to finish while everyone else left. Things pick back up, and she's still giggling at everything I say, although we haven't communicated much since I sent her that crazy text last week. Think I need to show more interest on this one, she's still pretty nervous around me.

Afterwards, I meet RW girl at the library. We study together. She buys me a chai tea. We start interspersing small talk in to the studying. We compare music tastes and show each other youTube videos. She takes a picture of us together and sends it to her bf. Her bf asks her if I like him. Lol, don't seek validation, bro! I take a picture of us together. We head to the review session together. Along the way, she asks me about my past relationships, and I give her the cliff notes on the saga that is HS girl. I let her know that she squashed my heart, and now my heart has been rebuilt into a titanium steel cage that no girl can access. She mentions how that's sad. I let her know I'm seeing different girls and that I'm happy, I just don't let anyone in anymore. Girls will love this, and will see it as a challenge to open you up.

We talk about how awful long distance is, and she reveals that her bf is in Iowa, 10 hrs away. We get to the review session. We whisper to each other during it, leaning closer each time. However, each time we make incidental contact, she flinches and backs away a bit. It means she just needs more comfort before bridging the physical gap. She mentions that I should head to her house that night after the downtown artery to study more. I agree.

After the review session, we get to her car and for funsies and use a line I've heard RSD tyler and SquattinCassanova use. She mentions how her car is messy, and I say, "Drive me in a messy car? Show some respect!" She laughs and then retorts that I should just walk.

I grab some Chipotle noms and head to the Downtown Artery. There's some folk music show going on inside, and I sit down and watch hipsters sing songs while I eat my meal. CG girl arrives and sits down next to me. Our legs are touching. I lean in and whisper, she does the same. We get up and walk around to check out the art. Along the way, I put my arm around her a couple times and then take it away, and lean close to talk. She mentions my breath smells (onions from Chipotle). I say cool, wanna make out? She laughs. I meet some of her friends, make them laugh. We start having a more flirty, fun conversation. She gets beer and gives me sips. We watch more performers. I get up behind her and start massaging her shoulders. She leans back into me. We interlace fingers and hold hands. We sit down, I drape my arm around her and take some pictures of us. We hold hands a bit more. Eventually it's 9 and I have to go and head to RW girl's house. CG girl walks me outside and we smooch briefly. I head to my car and drive.

RW girl texts me, "Where for art thou Romeo?" I text back, "On yonder Elizabeth way" (it's a street). I arrive, and her little dog is going crazy. I game the dog by assuming friendly body language and slowly feeding the dog a treat bit by bit. Soon the dog starts loving me and licking me. Damn, my dog #game is on point!

Unfortunately I can't sit on the same couch right next to her because my cpu needs charging and I need to sit next to the charger. She hands me a beer and we study and chat. Eventually I am teaching her some of the material, and we make some pretty good eye contact, although we are at friend proximity distance on separate couches. She is initiating high fives and friendly contact, and her vibe tells me she's interested and attracted, just hesitant because of the barriers. She does something that I've noticed other girls do when they are attracted: they drop validation bait. She'll say something like, "Maybe if I eat more vegetables I'll be hot." This is obviously her little bait for you to give her validation, but in the past I haven't really been capitalizing. I think the right move for the future is to reward her: Hey, you are totally hot, but you know what, that's not really that important to me. There are plenty of hot girls here, but you have a great attitude and personality, which is what counts. What would be gold is if I followed that up with a takeaway or a challenge, like, "it's really too bad you and I would never work out." She might ask why, and I would bring up the fact that I'm her TA and maybe that she has a bf, and that we couldn't do that to her bf. Good #game?

Eventually it's sleep time and I head home.

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Ok, I've identified another area I'm going to concentrate on improving. Verbal escalation for sure. Basically misinterpreting things sexually. I'm good at this when I'm already comfortable with a girl, and I do it naturally there, but need to be able to pull the same trigger with girls I haven't necessarily hooked up with yet. Will work on this.

Also, kino and physical escalation. Proximity. Showing interest. Gonna work on all of this.

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This is game. Pure and simple. All game is escalation. Be a dirtbag.

And I mean that. This is really what separates the men from the boys... but more importantly, it's what separates the guys who want to get props for being "tight PUAs" and "having sick approach game" from the players that are out there because they love getting nasty and reigning dominance over hot young women.

You must fully embrace your inner dirtbag. No shame. No hiding it. No letting any one, guy or girl, knock you off your frame of pure sexual dominance and desire.

That doesn't mean you are just telling every chick you find that you want to pin her to the ground and drill her, but it means that you should never be hiding your interest. If the girl suspects it, good. When she starts showing interest, you go hard. Tell her you can't stop staring at her lips. Or that the thought of what you're going to do to her once you get her alone is making it hard for you to focus on anything else.

Basically, you'll get to a point where all of your interactions have this subtle undercurrent where the girl recognizes that you're a fucking dirtball and it's taking every ounce of self-control you have to not rip her clothes off and bend her over the table right there in the middle of Starbucks. And that will drive her wild.

I have a lot of posts about this. Many of them in the private area of this site. A lot of them have to do with some of the physical and verbal techniques and what not, but the real essence of it is just being proud of the fact that you want to fuck every hot girl under the Sun and being confident you will change their lives within 5 minutes of them hitting your bed.

Thursday

What an epic day of classes, schoolwork, and lab work. I proctored for another practical, with a cute girl that I've met before and that I knew was attracted, MM girl. We interact a little bit and I give her the piercing eye contact I'm so known for. She had offered to sew up a jacket that I had, so afterwards I Facebook her and we make plans to meet so that I can give her the jacket. She mentions she'll be at the library later, and that she'll text me. I give her my number and she does.

Like a gangster, I drive home and do an hour run up and down a mountain. I then head to the library to drop off the jacket. MM girl is sitting in the cafe, and immediately flips her hair when I engage her. We make some small talk. More eye contact. She asks me what I'm doing that night. I mention I'm going to trivia with friends. She's grabbing Margaritas with friends. My next move with her is to reward her sewing up the jacket with lunch or dinner.

I then pick up JS girl, and we head to trivia. Things are light and fun, and we talk about her Florida trip. She's looking classy, dressing in more conventional clothes and growing her hair out a bit. We start joking about sexual things. The place we're going to is called big beaver brewing company, so insert your own jokes there. We arrive, and there's a bunch of people I know.

MC bro brought a pretty brunette and a shyer, average looking blonde. It looks like him and the brunette are involved. I sit at that table with those three and B bro. JS girl sits at another table. I'm already in a good mood so I start self amusing hard. Brunette girl (S girl) starts laughing at everything I say, while I just smirk and look away. Everyone is getting into a good energy. S girl engages me and we start singing along to songs. She's a nurse at some hospital. A girl (the blonde) is a phlebotomist.

We eat sausages. I engage with pretty much everyone, and JS girl and I start making more intimate physical contact. I go up to get food, and open the two girls text to the cashier. They're sisters, and cute, and slightly older. I ask them if they're in line, no they're just standing there acting cool. I ask them if this is the cool spot where all the cool people go. They giggle and say yes. I disengage and engage someone else for a little bit. Then I comment on the cuter one's drink, saying it looks like cider and not beer. She enthusiastically pushes it at me for me to try it. It's spicy! We laugh about that. I tell her that her butt hole's not gonna like her tomorrow. They laugh hysterically. They tell me they're sisters, which I didn't believe. They show me their licenses as proof. Their last name is Steel. I tell them one of them should be named Anastasia (50 shades reference). They laugh and say no! I say they should name their daughter that. More laughter. I tell them it's nice meeting them and disengage. The cute cashier is smiling and giving me eye contact.

I go back and flirt with everyone around my table, just having a blast. Trivia ends, I drive JS girl home. We make out in the car, but I wasn't in the boning mood, so I kick her out, go home, and catch some Z's.

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Friday

Exercise Physiology lab in the morning- I get there, say wuttup to CH girl. Get there, sit down, immediately engage M girl (ultra marathon runner girl) in conversation. I say some funny shit and the whole class laughs. While we're doing the experiments, another girl in the class smiles at me and waves from across the room. Lol.

In the afternoon, I head to the health center to get tested (discharge from my penis, plus burning and itching). I pee in two cups and get blood drawn, and apparently I have chlamydia. No matter, I take 4 pills and wait a week and it's gone. I text HS girl, she's pretty upset cuz we raw dogged, and I'm just like wutevs. I probably got it from JS girl.

I meet up with MC bro and he tells me an epic story about this last infatuation. I go running while he rollerblades along. When I get back, I go in the door of my building and who is it but none other than AB girl sitting there studying. I sit down and chat a bit, she starts giggling at everything. I get up, leave, and go upstairs to change and grab my shit. On my way out, I randomly get a thought, re-engage her, and ask her if she's eaten yet.

We head to the dining hall, and she guest swipes me in (free food yeah!). We grab food, start engaging in fun, flirty conversation. She's giggling and laughing and everything, I make sure to space it out a bit, and she is doing her part in keeping the conversation going (I purposefully leave silences). She starts teasing me back. We watch some YouTube videos on my computer so we sit closer, but I didn't escalate any more (in a dining hall). Afterwards, I head home, meet up with MC bro and two girls. H girl is hot, dressed up, and brunette. It's apparently her birthday. A girl is cute, quiet, and red headed. They're both from Trivia last night.

We go to the CSU rodeo competition, where EVERYONE is white. Like, we played a game where we tried to spot another non-white person. We sit and watch the competition, I'm spouting nonsense. An old geezer turns around me and tells me to watch my language. It affects my state a little bit, and I have to consciously use mental exercises to re-engage my high state. Thank you for the practice! We eventually leave, and the ethnic diversity of that place plummeted.

The four of us hit MC bro's house to pre-game. We wine it up, and get pizza. I'm still self amusing hard and the energy of the group is high. MC bro is designated driver for the night. We go to Lucky Joe's and get more alcohol. I'm starting to get fucked up. I'm really high energy, and we dance. CY girl, R girl, and a couple more girls show up.

Shit, I have to cut this short cuz apparently I'm headed to Breckenridge today with CY girl and R girl. Stay tuned, I will update later!

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The rest of Friday night involved lots of dancing, sometimes with 2 girls, a little bit of kissing with H girl, a failed kiss attempt on CY girl, opening two girls and then ejecting when the cuter one of them told me she was from a different town, opening a 31 year old hot mom, and plenty of ass grabbing and dirty dancing. MC bro and H girl were getting it on, and H girl would be all over me when I saw her too.

MC bro's got game. I am SO glad that I finally have someone around me who is better than me with women so I can freaking learn. The biggest thing I'm picking up from him is that he's a lot more comfortable with kino and touching girls. I'm trying to emulate him, as he's much quicker at getting into physical rapport with girls and that's probably my weakest point right now. I basically watched a bunch of stuff all weekend and am focusing solely on this part of my game from now on.

I got dropped off at home at the end of the night, and then woke up at 8 to drive to Breckenridge with CY girl and R girl. Apparently in my drunken stupor the night before I had told CY girl that I'm in love with her (half-jokingly, but sort of just to show interest). She's a lot more forward with her flirting now, but I can tell that she's in the driver seat, and not as easy with my physical escalation. We go to the beer festival and sing karaoke together. I'm still escalating physically, but I can tell she's not as attracted as before. The three of us soak in some hot springs and drive back to FoCo, arriving at 2 am.

On Sunday JS girl and I study, and then exercise together. I run and she bikes along. We go to see "It Follows" which was awesome! Seeing a scary movie and sharing strong emotions with her put us in better rapport, and we have more physical rapport (not that we didn't before). I'm practicing escalation moves on all the girls that I hang out with now, but I think building tension for making a move really comes down to:

1. Friendly physical rapport (touch that's friendly and not super sexy, or that's sexier but done in a nonchalant way)
2. Proximity of the body and the face / triangulation / eye contact
3. Phase shifting from high energy to low energy and to sexier, slower talk with pauses. slower body movements
4. Sexier touch
5. Building that anticipation for the "What's gonna happen next?" feeling

All stuff that I've studied up on more and am working on.

Today I'm hanging out with CG girl tonight, having a picnic at her house. Logistics are already solved, and all I need to do is go practice good escalation. If anyone's got thoughts on that critical phase shift necessary for making a good strong move, or any good video / reading material, please let me know so I can figure out how to get this down. I've been practicing my phase shift in the mirror every morning and randomly throughout the day, and will post the results as they come.

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I arrive at CG girl's house. She's in a pretty dress with a turquoise necklace, looking great. I compliment her on her dress, she smiles and says thanks. I hug her, we make some small chit chat, and she makes me dinner. The menu includes salad, a veggie burger, and corn on the cob. We make some chit chat while we eat, and she tells me about her day.

I make a small boo boo: I say something along the lines of: If I had met you in a bar and talked to you for like 10 minutes, I wouldn't have guessed you were a veterinarian. I think my brain was trying to do some sort of cold read or telling her about herself or something, but I kind of fucked it up and it came off like I was saying she doesn't seem as smart as she is. Lol. I backtrack a bit, she seems slightly miffed, and I have to do some damage control. I change the subject and get her laughing again.

I do (or attempt to do) a phase shift. We make solid eye contact and don't speak for several seconds. I start talking slower. There's some point in the conversation where I joke that I have something in my pockets, something random, and she doesn't believe me (which she shouldn't, I was bullshitting) and I challenge her to check my pockets. She rubs my legs around my pockets sensually. We laugh and the energy goes back up and the tension is gone.

We play corn hole after, and there are some good emotions pumped. We laugh and get competitive, I slap her butt (good game) and she hands me some chewing gum to freshen up onion breath (she said it wasn't an offer, it was a demand lol).

She royally demolishes me at corn hole, embarrassingly. I mention that I read somewhere in the rule book that the winner is supposed to get spanked by the loser. She laughs and says, "Is that supposed to be a bad thing?" I slow the energy down again, walk up to her, and we make out in the yard a bit.

We go inside, and I wash the dishes. I push her against the table and make out with her again. I spank her lightly and she raises an eyebrow. "That's it?" I spank her harder. "That's more like it." We head to the couch, and make out some more. I pull her dress up and run my hands over her legs and butt. She mentions she's not ready for that yet. I put on a quizzical look: "Ready for what?" She laughs and says, "You know..." I laugh and say, "Oh of course, I'm not ready for that either." She laughs. We cuddle, make out some more, and then she tells me I need to behave. I tell her it's difficult to behave around her. We cuddle some more. I say, "How is it that you turn me on so much?" In the middle of a makeout I grab her hand, but before I can put it on my boner she pulls her hand away. Lol. Girl knew what was up.

We eventually decide to battle it out over Mario Kart. Since she's a white girl and I'm an Asian guy, I thought this wasn't even going to be a challenge. I thought it was gonna be like Kobe vs quadriplegic idiot from high school. In fact, it was like that, except I was the quadriplegic idiot. I have no idea how she's so good at that game, but I got wrecked. Dang girl, props. Afterwards, she mentions she has to go to sleep around 9:30. I peace out, but not before making out a little bit more.

Analysis

Good practice phase shifting, escalating. I don't think I maintained the frame of her wanting to do me more than me wanting to do her all that well, but I didn't mess that up at all either. It's going to be good practice escalating on this girl, practicing more phase shifting and building tension. Good verbal escalation practice as well.

The next day during class RW girl is still doing little flirty things like kicking my foot before sitting down, sending me a Snapchat in the middle of class. It's fun, and if we get in isolation again, I'll practice phase shifting and proximity on her (but probably not before building some more physical rapport) even though she's got a boyfriend off in Iowa (aka corn land). We shall see!

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This is good escalation game. You are already more forward than most guys, which will take you far.

On most girls you would have had it. With this one, you were on the cusp, but didn't quite go hard enough.

There were a couple of golden opportunities that I think you missed. The main reason is your frame wasn't strong enough. Steady and stalwart... that's what your frame needs to be. Absolutely unshakeable.

Before I point out those particular moments, I want to comment on what exactly that frame should be.

You said this: I don't think I maintained the frame of her wanting to do me more than me wanting to do her all that well.

I think, in a very nuanced way, you are slightly off with this. It's not about you wanting her less. That's stupid PUA bullshit. The disinterested game is whack. It can work but it isn't genuine, it reeks of being a fake, and it will get you all sorts of resistance and unsatisfying sex. It also tends to work only on insecure, immature, emotionally manipulative girls, which in general you should try to avoid.

A better mindset for this is as follows. It will get you laid more consistently and it will lead to super fun, highly charged sexual experiences. At it's best, it will get girls home to your place without you even having to ask and it will get them in your bed literally begging "Please, please, please" to be fucked. That's how my Saturday went this past weekend and it could be how things for for you very soon too.

So let's look at how to view things:

A) She wants you and it's obvious. In turn you reward her for feeling that way. You like that about her. Girls who are sexual and into you are awesome. Here's a great line that you can use on a date that fully encapsulates this side of the coin, growled in her ear while you pull her hair or pin her to a wall or something: "I know you want me. You can pretend to be a nice little girl for everyone else but I've got you figured out. I know the dirty things that go through that mind of yours. I bet you were fantasizing about me in class today. Probably getting wet, sitting right there in lecture. You bad girl. Then you can bite her ear or spank the hell out of her or something similarly awesome.

Make sense?

Good.

But let's not forget about the second part of this, and that's you, and it's actually more important.

B) You want her. Bad. And you are on the verge of losing control. This is why I say fuck the disinterested game. You don't want her to think you want her less. You want her to think that you want her so fucking bad that it's taking every ounce of strength in your body to literally NOT tear the t-shirt right off her body. You already started down this road when you told her it was difficult to behave around her. That's golden. More of that, but be consistent with it. Now the caveat here, and I think this is what you may have been implying, is that if you don't actually get to bang her, it's water off your back. Not a big deal. She needs to know that you are not going to get mad if she doesn't bang you and also that you aren't a desperate creep.

Still making sense? OK then, let's move to the specific instances where I think you could have turned this around...
You can play dumb with your words here, and still say "Ready for what?" but keep going physically. So when she says "I'm not ready for that" you say something like "I... have... no... idea... what... you're... talking... about..." and during each of those little pauses, you are kissing her neck or even better, slowly moving down her body until you are basically licking her legs while saying that.

In the second part of that exchange "Oh of course, I'm not ready for that either." You could do that in the exact same way I just described above. Or you could get very dominant about it and pull her hair and growl in her ear "Are you sure? I don't believe you. I think you've been waiting for this since the moment we met."

Or you could even pull all the way back and say "Look, we're just enjoying ourselves, but I would never make you do something you don't want to do." This is precisely what you should do if she is maybe being a bit more serious in her concerns... and YOU SHOULD MEAN IT.

But in any case, "Oh of course, I'm not ready for that either" is inauthentic, untrue, and manipulative and unless you say it in a way that's it's clear that you are ready for that (i.e. while simultaneously physically escalating), it'll set off her red flags that you're being a weasel. You are definitely ready for it. She knows it. You know it. So just be honest and forthright about it by continuing to escalate or by completely backing off it that's what she really needs.

I hope this makes sense and I hope it helps. I'm not trying to be tough on you or anything like that but I see you are right on the brink of putting this all together and I want you to succeed, and to succeed in a way that's genuine and feels good for both of you.

Cheers!

Hey man, thanks for the tips, I really appreciate the feedback. I will use this and apply it and report on the results.

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