| Street Pickups is actually my bread & butter game. I started doing pickup seriously in the Summer of 2014, starting with street daygame. I didn't start doing nightgame until about 3 to 4 months later. This field report is a street daygame pickup.
The Approach On The Street
It was around 9:00 in the morning on Thursday October 13, 2016, and i had just been dropped off downtown..coming from spending the night with a girl who's currently a fuck buddy. I was not in a mental frame to do a cold approach session (not until later on that day). My apartment is within walking distance from downtown. I was tired and all i wanted to do was go straight home. I walked up to a point where there was a street crosswalk. The light was green and cars were passing as i waited for the light to turn red, and the crosswalk hand to change from red to white. As i waited there..at the corner of my eye, the cutest girl (HB8 Brunette Cutie) stepped up right next to me, to my left side at the crosswalk and waited there. She was SUPER CUTE!, and wearing a primarily white and blue flowery dress, and cute tan boots. Remember..i didn't want to talk to anybody, i just wanted to go home. But when i saw her..the voice in my head was like "Holy Shit! This Girl Is Sooooo Cute, I Can't Pass This Up!". My pickup muscle memory immediately kicked in. LOL
Since she was already to my side and waiting at the crosswalk..i didn't have to stop her at all, and since i was already in an active-disinterest body language position (i would later find out that this was the best approach that i could possibly do for this specific type of girl, even though it happened here just by coincidence, because of the situation that i was in) that made it even easier for me. Although my body position to her was indirect..what i said to her was direct.
Me: "Excuse me..that's a really cute dress that you have on" (Direct Compliment)
HB: "Thank you! That was a very sweet thing to say." (She immediately had the Bambi Eyes, Smiles Huge, & Blushes)
At this point..the crosswalk hand turns white. I realize that this girl is the shy introverted type, that probably isn't used to getting random compliments from a cool guy on the street. She begins to cross the street, so i cross too. While we're both crossing the street side-by-side to each other, i'm still talking to her.
Me: "I just saw you at the corner of my eyes, and was like - she's standing there looking so cute - I just have to talk to this girl or i will kick myself later if i don't" (Improvised Routine, Direct Compliment Continuation)
HB: "LOL So what made me stand out from all the other girls in the streets of downtown?" (Shit Test/Investment - Hook Point!)
Me: "I think it's the dress that compliments your eyes and other features. And those boots look cute on you too. LOl"
HB: (Smiling & Blushing)
We reach the side-walk on the other side of the street. She stops and slightly turns to the left like she might cross the street again. The way to my house was to go straight down the street, and not to the left to cross the street again with her..which seems like what she was about to do. But i know that she doesn't know that. Again..i don't stop talking to her, because if i do..things between me and her may get really awkward really fast, i'll probably get Blown Out, and risk losing this high quality girl. My anxiety does kick up a bit at this point. Even though this is a shy introverted girl that i was dealing with, i was probably more nervous than she was at this particular moment. I feel the awkwardness..knowing that she might cross the street again, and i will have to follow her. Most guys would get really anxious at this point, which i was..and would just keep walking down the street and let her go on her merry way for fear of creeping the girl out. But i ignored the anxiety that i was feeling. I bottled it up. I also have alot of reference experiences with many girls similar to this situation. So i know how to deal with the anxiety that i was feeling in this situation. She was crossing the street again afterall..so i made the quick decision to "walk with" her.
Me: "So you're on your way to work right?"
HB: "Yes"
Me: "Are you going this way?"
HB: "Yes"
Me: "Okay, i know you're in a hurry to go to work. So i'll just walk and talk with you for just a minute, if that's okay" (Statement of Empathy/False Time Constraint - to build trust & comfort with the girl)
HB: "It's okay, i don't have a problem with it".
She kinda slowed her pace to a stop, as i realized that she was going into the 7 Eleven, which was a little unexpected, because i thought that she was on her way to work (which is not at the 7 Eleven). My first thought was that maybe she was trying to get rid of me by going into the 7 Eleven. Sometimes pickups are awkward because random things come up all the time with the girl that you are trying to pursue. And then you think in your head that she is purposely trying to do all of these things to get rid of you. The trick is to accept the awkwardness and be congruent with it. While at the same time assuming attraction (that she is actually not trying to get rid of you) and plow through sudden obstacles. So i decide to go into the 7 Eleven with her anyway.
Me: "You're going into the 7 Eleven?"
HB: "Yes. I'm going in to buy something" (to eat or drink, i can't remember what it was that she went in to buy)
Me: "Okay, i'll go in with you just for a minute" (false time constraint, - to build trust & comfort)
We both go into the 7 Eleven. And i stop her after a few steps inside, because i didn't want to start chasing her around the store, coming off stalker-ish. This is a sticking point that i seriously used to struggle with not too long ago, always at this type of critical moment. Lead mutherfuckers! And if at some point she starts leading you..adjust to the situation, and once again regain the leading frame. This is called Frame Control.
Me: "Hey, Hold up for a second!" (I stopped her so i wouldn't be chasing her around the 7 Eleven - Leading Frame)
Me: "What do you do for fun?" (now i'm screening for a fun activity that me and her can enjoy together)
HB: "I don't do anything fun, i'm pretty boring. I just study all the time. LOL" (She's also a college student)
Me: "I don't believe that. Everyone does something that they enjoy doing that's fun to them"
Me: "Do you drink coffee?"
HB: "I don't like coffee, i drink tea"
Me: "Tea it is! We can hangout and go for tea sometime"
Me: Let me get your number and i can text you later on today. If you don't want to respond to my text, that'll be fine"
HB: "Okay" (She gives me her number, as i type it into my phone)
Give her an exit alternative, so the girl won't feel any pressure about giving you her phone number. Most times she will give you her number anyway..just because you gave her the option to not respond to your text if she doesn't feel comfortable responding to them. Hopefully you built up enough attraction and comfort in the interaction, so much so that she will still respond when you text her later on (not flake). In my case..this was no more than a 10 minute interaction/pickup.
HB: (Smiling & Blushing)
Me: "What? You're blushing! LOL" (Neg/teasing)
HB: "Haha. This doesn't really happen to me that often. I rarely give out my phone number to anyone, let alone some random guy"
Me: "I promise, i'm a nice guy. You can trust me" (reassuring her that her decision to give me her phone number was a good one)
HB: "I believe you"
Me: "Okay cool. Okay, i'll text you later on today okay"
HB: "Okay. I'll be looking forward to it" (ioi)
Me: "Alright, i'll talk to you later. Bye" (I leave her with a hug & 2 kisses on both sides of her cheek - I reward her with kino for giving me her phone number)
- I'll post my Day-2 results with this girl in a separate field report
-G
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LEARNING GAME IS LAME!..Right up until the point when you will eventually see a hot girl standing or sitting right in front of you. In that moment..you will wish that you had learned game!
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