i think it´s difficult, because normally i would say that you use freeze, but you sad that you already used...
you should make her clear that it´s shouldn´t depend on the friends and the sister, and it don´t have to be this way that everything changes, all these things could stay well.
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sry if my english is not the best^^
i´m from germany and i´m still a student.Anyway, i hope you understand my posts, if not contact me and i´ll try to say it in other words^^
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