Hey guys, getting back in the game and wanna do it right this time. This is gonna be my journal so any advice, tips or critiques will be greatly appreciated. Here's alittle background.

I'm in my early 30's and was trapped in a unhappy marriage for years. I finally pulled the trigger and left her, only to fall for another 2 months later. (Hb8, hot tall blonde w/blues eyes). She was a party girl who I wasted another 2 years on. This is what I don't want to happen again.

We split up and I took about 6 months off to get over her and get my mind right. Which I did.

First girl was an 18 yr old hb8, who was a neighbor while I was married. She hit me up on fcbk when she hit 18, almost exactly at the 6 month mark. We did our thing for about a month when she started the "I love you's", so I broke this off. She was hot, fun and a confidence builder but very immature. She went back to her ex and I moved on.

About 2 weeks later I met a 23yr hb8 hot Mexican girl who was a cashier at a gas station I had to do some work at. She was flirty but I chickened out from getting her number. Had to go back 2 weeks later and we were talking and she said I had pretty eyes. So of course I asked and she gave it to me.

We've been texting for a couple weeks but haven't met up yet cause she says she has a medical problem but some text are dirty and she tells me she's so into me and soon as she's better we def are going too. Would like advice on this one, should I keep up the texting or back it off to every few days?

While texting her I met a hot hb8, tall, blonde hair, blue eye country girl at the local bar. We exchanged #'s and met the next night and have banged 4 times past 2 weeks. She's a party girl too who was texting daily and now becoming distant, although I didn't text her at all today and she hit me up w/ " hey you, you still alive", I answer and she left me hanging after 30mins. Should I just let her go or what? Would like to keep her as a fwb but not sure how to handle it.

Met another at the bar about 4 nights ago, hb7, but looks sweet and innocent, which I like, lol. Didn't text till today but we've showed up and hung out twice this week. During the text I ask here if she was coming out and she said, don't get attached cause she's trouble. Not sure how to handle that either.

I think I must be pretty decent looking cause all but the last one approached me and their all girls that all the other guys was wanting. So if I can get some game going I think I can be pretty damn good at this.

Can any of you pros give me some tips or advice? I will answer any questions and reply with what happened using this advice. Thanks very much in advance.

You don't really need any advice IMO. You are already doing well and if you move to more active game i.e. you initiating and approaching I think you could be unstoppable. The challenge is once you become aware of your capabilities how to harness it so you don't get lost in a sea of nothing but one woman after another and neglect all other areas of life. Your other challenge which you have already stated an awareness of is to not let the dopamine get to you so you end up in another pair bond which you have said you do not wish to do at this point in time.

Thanks oceanx, that is definitely what I wanna do, become more active. I still have a problem approaching, and holding a good convo unless I'm drunk, and I know that's not good.

One thing I'm trying and is helping, is getting into small convo's with customers at work. I have a job that requires me to go to business and homes, and I used to just do my work and get out as quick as possible, but trying to talk more now. Good practice.

Gonna try and write these more like some other's do theirs from now on.

UDATES ON PREVIOUSLY MENTIONED GIRLS

-Country girl has turn out to be a bit bitchy and sluty, she still text, calls, and offered to "take me home" Thursday night, but the more I see her act, the more she turns me off, so I'm trying to get away from her w/no trouble.

-Innocent girl I saw at bar Friday night, she ask why I haven't text , I ask why hasn't she, blah blah and she left w/ her girl. This one seems like if I text her from time to time, stay in touch, that we'll be in there at the right time and I'll be able to take her home.

-Mexican girl an I have been texting alot and she's saying she's gotta see me, and we gotta make this happen. We've planned to meet a couple times and they've fell thru. We got plans for me to go to her house and hang out today, will update what happens.

Will update shortly on a couple new girls I met this weekend.

Thanks guys

alright guys here's this past weekend's updates.

Thursday, St Patrick's
- go to local bar around 8 to enter pool tournament, decent crowd (Thurs usually are), talked to a few girls as night goes but no real hits or misses. Around 11pm I saw a girl I met the weekend before, (hb8, short, red head, green eyes), she stops and we talk for a few, she's just got off work so not as firey as before.

About an hour later I see her at the end of bar talking to another guy, he steps back a couple feet to say something to a buddy, so I slide in beside her real quick and say, "hey I'm fixing to leave u should give me your number", she starts saying it and I say, " hold on", and hand her my phone and she puts in name and number. I get a hug and leave.

Friday night
Same bar, I usually mingle around every time so I'm just gonna start jumping to hits or misses.

-A (hb8, short, brunette, blue eyes, very hot body), walks in that I know a little bit from the apts I lived in when married. She comes straight to me and gives me a hug and ask if I'm playing pool and says she wants to play.

I work it out w/next guy that we'd play a partner game. (Hb8 my partner), we talk during the game which takes alittle bit, cause we taking our time and talking. Her and her friends are leaving soon after so I hand her my phone and say u should give me your number and she puts in her info, hugs me and leaves.

-later that night a (hb8, tall, long curly blonde hair, blue eyes), that I had met about a month earlier, (she was with one of my buddies), came in. We made eye contact and smiled and we said hi.

She had a dude with her but about 30mins later she came back to where I was (alone), asking me if I had seen so n so, I said yea but don't see them now. Ask her what's she's been into, blah blah

Whole time we talking she's kinda pushed up against me, rubbing legs into mine, so I ask, and she gives me her number. She gotta get back and I don't see her anymore. End of night.

-country girl from before was there Thursday night saying, " I'll give u a ride home", "I'll give u a ride home".
I snuck away w/o her cause like I said, trying to get away from that one

-Mexican girl plans fell thru again. Still gonna keep that door open tho cause she's hot as hell.
She ask if I wanted to come today, so we'll see.

Feel free to critique, advice, love to interact with fellow aspiring or vet pua's