Unable to find wings and struggling to get the ball rolling we are solo sarging and holding each other accountable on this thread. Basically winging each other through the internet.

We are dedicated and really want this thing. We go out every weekend and report on this thread.

Nice man! Looking forward to hearing more about it!

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Last night started rough and ended great. A video I watched from RSD Tyler said the three places you can start are hard case newbie, intermediate and advanced. I am starting to learn this on advanced. It means I've had success with women but don't know any cold approach methods. My learning curve is going quite well as a result. I see this process almost as having very little to do with the actual sex gained from it. I'm doing it for myself and my life.

Walking into the first venue I literally walked straight through the entire bar self conscious, anxious and incapable of any good approach. I walked all the way through and then pretended to be on my phone. I was even embarrassed for the bouncers to see me walk out again within 5 min. It helped me again to change into very mundane clothing that I feel safe in although it still looks sharp enough. There is a very target poor bar with older people, country music and pool tables that I went in to get in state a little bit. I saw a girl I knew there and talked with her for a second then left.

I am a white man who was living in Compton and other such environments for the last year I have a protective instinct from living a life where the men around me may actually be a physical threat. I was also assaulted last year so I kind of have "the yard" mentality like "were you talking to my woman!? Did you snitch!? blah blah blah." I didn't approach mixed sets last night.

The approaches became a blur and I just did one after the other. I walked away from sets that were already hooked just to spend time practicing approaches and nothing else. Its still kind of bizarre and a little disturbing to me how much women LOVE this stuff no matter how stupid and counterintuitive it seems to me. After reading theory for quite a while and processing it a lot of it came out naturally and I can see the next steps.

At the end of the night I ran into a cute black girl I had gamed earlier. I isolated and number closed. Texted her that it was nice to meet her after I got home and she texted back to ask if I was still there.

I thoroughly enjoyed the whole process and felt great that someone with my temperament and social tendencies had the balls to go out alone like that.

Yea man for me its actually about learning to see women for human beings. Once you get good with women, that is what naturally happens. You begin to see their flaws, as opposed to when you're coming from a place of scarcity - where the tendency is to worship women.
I would get this too. The way I see it is those guys who look all tough and cool, most of them don't have the balls to cold approach, unless they're doing it in packs, like wolves.
I can't wait to join you starting next week.

I went out Thursday 3-18-16. The long and short of it is that I ended up approaching zero chicks. I sort of predicted this might happen. That is why I chose to go out Thursday, so I could have Friday as my backup. So I will be going out again tomorrow.

I went out and ended up just walking all over the streets waiting for courage to come to me. It wasn't coming. However, what I noticed different about tonight was I wasn't feeling insecure. In the past, when I've went out I've been very self conscious. Just insecure about being out alone. So what I felt tonight was awesome for me. That's what self esteem is.

Later on, I ran into a "friend" and he introduced me to his friends. These guys are all naturals when it comes to socializing. I was like "aaa, how do I keep up?" I love it when that happens, because it tells me my brain is getting whipped into shape. Years of not socializing has literally shriveled up my brain. These guys were awesome for letting me hang around with them. They're doing me a big favor. So my advice is, if you're in school for example, always be around out with the social kids. Get away from the lame kids, as there is nothing to gained from them.

Anyway, so comfort level at this point in the night is getting deeper and deeper. Then I left those guys and tried to approach but felt exhausted. And that was my night.

Summary: I went out, while most people stayed home. I could write more details about subtle realizations that I had (particularly about self esteem), but I'm heading to sleep.

3-18-16

Once again, I could not open any girls to save my life for like an hour. So I met up with some friends and I got one drink, which I hate to use, and hit up a place with a dance floor. This place was crowded. As I mentioned before, I have become less self conscious and now I can focus on what's outside of my head more. I shifted my awareness outside. So I was just being very observational and seeing what everyone was doing and listening in on what they were talking about - like walking through the matrix. Previously, I would have thought "this is embarrassing, I need to be doing something at all times".

Most of the time, friends would not let me talk to their friends. I saw this guy trying to get this girl's attention and she did not turn around for him, he walked off. He was doing it in a kind of "permission seeking" way. I thought "let me see if I can get her attention" as an experiment. I walked up, tapped her on the shoulder. I had it in my mind that it was going to work no matter what, my belief was stronger than her belief. Instead of "tap, tap --> wait for response --> leave", it was more like "tap, tap --> wedge myself into her field of vision, and point to my beer with a thumbs up" . Don't let the "tap, tap" be where you stop. That is reactive as opposed to leading. The response was that she smiled and let me take her hand but her friend stripped her away.

A couple of girls got into dancing with me, but in these situations I end up just keep dancing with her and looking like one of her girl friends. I need to be always moving the interaction forward, even if she is genuinely enjoying dancing and would rather do that instead of being extracted for a conversation with a guy, for the sake of experiment. I guess if you want it enough, then she'll go through with it.

For next week
- enter straight into the first set as a self shock method
- use eye contact to show you mean it - this is a big problem of mine but one of the easily fixable ones. I feel like eye contact alone can pretty much do 50% of the work for you. It's not about the eye contact itself, it's about the inner game that let's you have that eye contact.
- stop wasting time opening easy girls (girls I'm not attracted to) just to say "I'm practicing pick up"
- Practice physically leading girls around so we're not stuck in one place

In my experience bars and clubs are just about the most intimidating environment and an extremely difficult place to convey your personality so props for having the courage to approach at least a little bit.

My first two sarges I had the same experience. In a good book I read they talked about the reptilian brain and how it seeks to protect us. It ties into evolutionary psychology and how men experience approach anxiety because it used to benefit us in hunter gatherer days. It is obsolete nowadays. It helps me to realize that this ancient part of the brain is causing and how its wired is causing me more pain. I used affirmations I wrote down for myself: "my reptilian brain seeks change", "Staying the same causes me more pain", "People are friendly" etc. In my mind crashing and burning on a set is such a good experience because you can desensitize yourself to this and internalize this behavior. Essentially rewiring your brain.

Thursday and Friday for me were somewhat of a distraction because two girls wanted to meet up with me both nights and I did not practice cold approach. One of the girls I am completely in with but very ambivalent on whether to take it further. This is what RSD Tyler calls "quality problems".

On Thursday the girls were having that attention deficit towards me and kind of tooling me and talking to other guys even though they invited me out. I responded by slipping away since they wouldn't notice anyway. I found some guys to talk to and even a few girls joined the conversation. This whole thing was a DHV. It was very predictable that the girls I met there texted me and looked for me and the dynamic was back where I wanted it to be. We bounced to get some food and in the car and one of them rested her head on my shoulder claiming it was because she was so tired. I took her hand and and we held hands and cuddled the rest of the night.

Friday was stupid these girls and there guy friend they brought along were not the caliber of people I like to associate with. It was comfort building with the girl but she is very awkward and nervous around men. They dropped me off at a bar and I told them I was going in no matter what. She called me several times when I was in a set and then texted to apologize. There was an obnoxiously forward drunk girl that introduced herself to me, got my number, introduced me to her friends who sensed that I wasn't in state at all and promptly ignored me. I think It was 1:00 at that point so I left.

The thing that helped me so much last week, where I had some very good cold approaches, was being "in state". I committed to three nights a week so I will be going out again and be able to post more about how I'm building a skill set.