| Fast background: I'm a foreigner in Taiwan, this is approach #67 or so for me. Thus far my results are:
40 no english
27 numbers
0 dates
0 lays
I'm approaching strictly girls 18-24 or so, 8+'s. (by my personal standards which are a bit different than most guys possibly..)
I'd say this is one of my worst sets. But it's also the first one I've written down and submitted for critique, should've been doing this long ago, as my results obviously demonstrate. This is what happens after I get contact details:
A: zero response 5%, very low.
B: friendly chatty back and forth, I suggest a date-she vanishes-60%ish
C: friendly chatty back and forth, I suggest a date, she says she has a BF or other excuse-40%ish
Note, I always ask these girls to go out with me and usually agree on a specific day, time, and venue before saying goodbye, and they never say they have a BF in the approach. I have good reason to believe this is a cultural phenomenon, but outside theories are also welcome.
In the gym, see the hottest girl I've seen in a LONG time. So there is one guy constantly with her who is "teaching her how to work out" presumably, and quite a lot of orbiters.
I considered going super direct, walking up to her and asking her "is this your boyfriend?", but as I really am there to work out, and she was pretty regularly engaged with one guy or another I decided to keep an eye on her and wait.
The gym closes, she heads off to the changing room. There is a unisex storage area, so I just take my time with my stuff until she comes out.
"Hey there, can I ask you something?"
'Ok'
"Is that your boyfriend?"
"oh! no." (holding up both hands palm out)
"Are you single?"
"Yes, for about three months now." (sad face)
(slight smirk, teasing tone) "Huh, that's surprising. I thought you looked like a really sweet girl."
"I am! It wasn't my fault, I think I was good to him."
"Well, my ex girlfriend wasn't very good to me. I've been single around five months."
"Oh, that's a really long time!"
"Yeah I've been thinking about dating again if I meet the right girl."
"I hope you can find her. That's why I started working out, so I can find myself."
"I have to say, that's not a common sentence for a Taiwanese girl to know. Your English is really good."
"Well, I lived in Canada one year when I was really young."
"Is that why you have this little stuffed bear? Did you keep it since you were a little girl?" (she has a pink and blue stuffed bear)
"No, my mom took me to the night market and bought it for me."
"Aw, that was sweet of her. So let me guess....(give her a good long look from head to toe, studying her body) you're an engineering student?"
(laughing) "No!" (she poses her body towards me and has a big smile, as though challenging me to get it right)
"No, but you seem kind of smart, and a little dorky. Ok let me look again....Oh I know. You're studying fashion".
"How did you know that?!"
"We're in the gym, we just worked out, and you not only changed all your clothes, you even changed your earrings. Who does that? And you even matched both pairs of shoes to both pairs of earrings."
"Wow you're right. My friends think I'm a little crazy but I think it's very fun. But actually, I need to go, I'm supposed to wait for my friend. It's nice to meet you." (she holds out her hand and I take it like as though I were going to kiss it, if you know what I mean? So it's not so formal/masculine feeling) She turns around 75% to leave.
"Wait a minute, I'm not finished with you."
"Oh, sorry!" (she turns back around)
"Do you like coffee or tea?"
"I like coffee."
"Me too!"(wow)"I just found this really cool and different coffee shop recently, it's got a whole garden inside of glass walls inside. Do you like gardens?"
"Yeah"
"Great, well I'll take you there sometime next week then."
"Ok, I'll give you my LINE, my name is ....." (exchange line info)
"Cool. I'll give you a call Monday or Tuesday. What's your schedule?"
"What's a schedule?"
"It means when are you available to go out with me?"
"Oh, every day after 7pm."
"Cool, nice to meet you, I'll see you then."
"Ok, nice to meet you too!"
(holds out her hand for another weird handshake) (should I have kino'd here? Actually kissed her hand maybe?)
Looking back on it, I see that I missed a lot of great opportunities to dive into some more meaningful conversation. Basically, she was incredibly nervous and kept on gesturing like she needed to go, which I admit, causes me to panic a little that I'm going to run out of things to say to keep her put.
I sent her this text, two hours later: "Cool meeting you, I'm curious to talk to you more later, enjoy your weekend."
48 hours later, no response, I'll try again on Sunday night, but looks like one of the rare zero response results. Not that any of the ones that responded, even enthusiastically, got me any more laid! : p
Anyway, there it is. Feedback please!
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