I've had some successes, but one thing stood really out and I need your advice on it guys: all the girls I meet have boyfriends! Haha! Literally, of all the strongest interaction and reactions I got lately, I found out one way or the other that some other guy is involved.
Let me explain:
Scenario 1. I was commuting a bit around by train, where I see cute girl (looks 20 yo). I ask her how's it going: she's instantly very open and tells me she's new in the country and is basically looking to find her way as she doesn't understand the signs and what station to take the next train. I comfort her a bit by stating its OK, "its normal to be excited when visiting a new country", etc etc, and since I'm taking nearly the same route she shouldn't worry about not finding it as I would show her. We talk about random things, and things heat up quite a bit. I was pushing it a bit more, chatting about what she liked to do on her vacation and where she where in all kinds of tourist attractions she would find that. Here she finally mentioned something about a boyfriend she didn't see for a long time and intends to visit (oops lol). Now get this, this is the part which is totally beyond me: she stated this in a tone as it was just something she would have to get over with, like: "im going to do some groceries and, oh, i must not forget to get 4 eggs". Energy just went up from here, but in my mind I felt guilty the entire time. In the end, I just let her walk away without further escalating..
(I think she was just extremely horny and took it out on the first guy that was open and approached her haha)
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Scenario 2. Was going to visit a city for the weekend with a friend of mine, at some of his friends. He went to the city upfront as he had some business to attend, but we would meet up at some friends home of his. So, whilst getting stuck in traffic, I got this call from an unknown number. Turned out it was the people I would be staying with; the girl of the house. Wanted to know when I would arrive, etc etc. I was a bit annoyed by traffic so might came of a bit harsh (or witty) (when traffic clears up!, 15 min don't worry
)
So once there, all the other guys were late, and I was the only one with the girl.. Again, a very strong interaction. She wanted to make sure everything was good and even started apologizing for every small insignificant thing (e.g. untidy kitchen..). I was like, "hey don't worry! im just here for a relaxed time
". The weird thing was that whilst she was showing huge interest in one area, i could feel there was something which she didnt tell me.
Well, 30 minutes later, the gang arrived and as turned out, she has a boyfriend for the last 2 years. He's quite the harsh-asshole type, always wants things his way, +- 10 years older than her, a total control freak.
So, nothing came out of this one, but what lingered on was a conversation we had about a business I was starting up. I frequently get messages on facebook from her with "hows it going with your business, i see you are working on it very hard, if you want i can introduce you to one of my network etc etc", thus some interest, but she completely ignores even my first response of "hey how's it going ?" and seems only to want to talk about my startup
.
(maybe she's exploring the possibilities, without coming over too needy? I have absolutely no idea...)
Scenario 3. Encounter with the dreaded escalation window and social pressure
We was at some party with a couple of my roommates, getting drunk, doing some stupid shit, etc. So I made some teasing/playful remark to one of the girls, and this other girl interfered like "ahh you are always picking on this poor woman, since you started taking your sportsteam seriously and are spending less time with us. you have become sort of an bully" (teasing me back again...).
So, I remarked back, "nooo, you've got me totally wrong, im not a bully, even you could intimidate me by your stare alone". Ofcourse, we got into a staring contest, and she won (after +- 5 minutes, a really long time). I congratulated her, but damn it was super hot and she started blushing and covering her mouth.... this entire night i could feel her looking at me wherever i went, and when i diverted my attention to her, she looked away a bit like she wasnt looking or when we locked eyes there was this twitchy/nervously movement in her eyes like she didnt know what to do.
And ofcourse, we had no way to go (moving her would mean others telling her boyfriend, which i dont want to offend by the way) and thus nothing came out of it. The next day I encountered her, she just ignored me (lol).
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Bottom line: hey, I'm not trying to get in between a girl and her boy, just sharing this as I'm trying to understand what went on and improving my game when needed! How you guys encountered similar things and handle them?
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