Hey guys..

I already posted this next part in the "Introduce Yourself" forum, but I wanted to use it as the intro to my journal as well. Just a little background.

I found that I operate and commit to goals better when I have them written down somewhere, so what better way to to commit to something than to make a public journal out of it. Life is too short to waste one more day bullshitting around, making excuses. Just a little background..

23 year old student from the Boston area. I've been interested in self improvement in general for a few years now, and I could not be happier with how far I have come. While I'm proud of what I have done thus far, I realize how much more I am capable of and I never want to be satisfied or complacent.

However, while I've worked hard on a lot of areas of my life, the one area that I have neglected almost completely is women. The only hookups and lays that I have are girls that are within my social circle, or ones that show interest in me. This is very unfulfilling, because in the end I am not overly attracted to most of these girls and I believe that I could be doing so much better for myself. I want to be hooking up the girls that I want, and that I'm attracted to, not just the ones who are around me and simply willing.

I became aware of pick up around a year ago, but did not become interested in it until a month or two ago. I've been saturating myself in info, however, I have yet to approach a single girl (hence the title zero to hero). Now, I'm fairly decent with girls that I know, or are involved with my social circle.. It's the idea of cold approaching a girl I don't know whatsoever for the sole reason of picking her up. Each day that goes along I am making it harder on myself, and it's easier to say "oh I'll read and study some more, and I'll do some approaching in a week or two". I'm done with that bullshit, its pathetic and its time to take action. Tomorrow morning I am going to go out and make my first approach. I will take my first real step in what I hope is an enlightening self development journey, and I could not be more excited.

My goals for the next few weeks:

Approach at least once a day. Doesn't matter who or what I say. Just talk to strangers
Read Models
Go on tinder/okc dates that I already have set, even if not interested in the girl whatsoever. It will be great practice no matter what the outcome

Really looking forward to updating this and being able to reflect on my journey as I go along. Can't wait to be apart of the community.

2/15/2015:

Woke up with the goal of making my first ever cold approach, and no matter how shitty it was, at least I was going to get that first one out of the way. I had plans to go out with a group of friends to a local bar at night, so I woke up somewhat early to get some errands done. One of these errands was to stop by Barnes and Noble quick to check if they had a book that I had been looking for. I wanted this to be a quick stop and had no intention on opening a girl here.

So I walk over to the the sports section, and I'm looking for this book when I notice a guy hovering to my left. In a stern but nonchalant way, he turns to me and says "You like sports?" and in my head I'm thinking well yeah no shit I like sports, I'm browsing the sports section. However, I go along with it, and low in behold we get in a conversation about how we both used to wrestle. It was clear he had some sort of intent but he was extremely charismatic and a great conversationalist so it didn't bother me. He slowly transitioned to talking about his church and it was clear he was trying to push a bible study group on me. I politely declined, and we went our separate ways.

I looked down at my phone and realized we had been talking for 20 minutes, and it felt like 5. The conversation also put me in this super social state, and while I was already at the store for way longer than I wanted to be, I said fuck it, this is the perfect time to open a girl. So I set off in search of a girl, any girl, pretty much whoever I saw first. I walk by the Philosophy aisle and see an HB7 reading Plato's Complete Works, which was PERFECT because that is our text book in one of my classes. I was planning on using the jealous girlfriend opener, but I decided to just open by asking her about the book.

Now the past month has been a crash course for me, reading material and watching videos, learning lingo etc etc.. I felt like I had a good grasp on the general progression of a set, however the second I opened my mouth, any sort of knowledge of routines and what not went COMPLETELY out the window, and I just went with the flow.

Me: (sarcastically) Just some light sunday morning reading huh?
HB7: Haha no no, my professor chose this book as supplemental reading for class.

For the most part the rest of the conversation was a blur, but we talked a lot about plato and philosophy, I tried my hardest to not let the conversation slowly drift to basic small talk, and I threw in a time constraint early on in the conversation. Something along the lines of "I'm just popping in to check if they have a book i've been looking for, I cant talk philosphy with you all day" which to me felt like a combination of a time constraint/neg but it didn't sound natural. Instead of asking questions I tried to just make statements which I think helped a TON. I threw in some negs here and there, which I've always had a decent grasp on. Right when I felt like the conversation was going to trend towards going stale, I pulled the trigger. I said "Well I gotta run, but you seem like your capable of having a semi intelligent conversation. Put your number in my phone and we can grab a coffee later this week". I said the semi intelligent thing sarcastically and immediatly I felt like I probably came across like a huge dick, but to my surprise she smiled, and said "I'd like that". She proceeded to put her number in my phone and we went our separate ways.

Had the biggest fucking grin on my face the whole way home. Not at ALL the result I was expecting for my first approach, but I got lucky that she was reading a book that I've spent the past month studying.. I'll take it though.

Later on I went out for a few drinks with my friends, and we ended up playing pool for three and half out of the four hours we were out. Right around last call I saw a two set sitting at the corner of the bar. I knew I was going to be pissed if I didn't make a single approach all night, and I didn't want to fall back on the excuse that I already got a number on my first day and that was good enough. Being complacent is bullshit.

So I walk up and open with the jealous girlfriend opener, and I pull it off fairly well. However after that I did a horrible job transitioning to something else and I panic. Before completly blowing out I tell them I need to get back to my friends and to have a good rest of the night. Felt good to approach and blow up, and I'm glad I got to end the night with an approach.

Not how I envisioned the day going, but its that first tiny step of many. Most important thing is that I made the step. Motivated and ready to take this on 100%