| So I've been reading a lot of the theory behind this stuff, but I haven't really applied it until now. I haven't done any cold approaches besides this one. I used to be somewhat of a natural until I was forcibly removed from the game for a few years (don't ask, seriously), so this was my first go. It was kind of an accident too. I just ended up in the situation and decided to push it as far as it would go (that extra 20%, thanks Style).
So I took this greyhound bus back to visit my folks in Portland, and by sheer dumb luck this cute little red-head HB7.5 sat next to me because there were no open seats. I was thinking to myself "well, she's not going anywhere so I have some time to think about this." At the time I was actually listening to Neil Strauss on my iPod. Fate, eh?
So I gave her some neg body language, stared out the window and otherwise completely ignored her for a good 20 minutes or so, periodically busting up laughing because Style is just hilarious anyway. So she actually opened me (IOI), asked what I was listening to. I asked if she had heard of Neil Strauss (brief screening to see what I could and couldn't use), she hadn't, I talked to her for like 10 more seconds and went back to my iPod and proceded to ignore her/give negative body language (little slight DHV/neg combo).
So then I opened her back, and just winged the whole thing. I don't have any material really, just concepts. I kept good, positive body language, did a lot of pregnant pausing to keep her a little excited and anxious the whole time. She threw a few shit tests in my direction, which I either ignored and cut or reframed. I kept my reality, stayed in control, stayed playful and was definitely cocky as all hell. I actually noticed I was being too cocky and she was getting kind of pissed off at me, so I calibrated down and then we started vibing pretty well. The only routine I used was a bit of the cube, and I didn't end up finishing it because I was multiple threading like crazy to build rapport. Oh and I also used my tattoo-design DHV, which I had folded in my back pocket (it's a tattoo I'm working on that has my family crest and HONOR, LOVE, LOYALTY in Latin on it, shows I'm a good person and I love my family, basically).
As far as DHV goes I slipped in a few spikes on the fly, mostly leader of men, interesting tidbits, good storytelling, preselection (a lot of this actually). I'm amazed at how well the DHVs work. I was getting crazy IOIs, and all my kino got pinged right back at me. I didn't escalate to anything because.. I mean come on it's a greyhound bus how trashy can you get. I also did a lot of little things like making her jump through hoops for me, like I'd make her guess my name, I made her go buy me some pretzels when we stopped in Salem, etc. Little stuff, I think it helped.
I realize now that I've always used little routines and tactics to get the girls I wanted. About halfway through the interaction I played the question game, which until now I thought I developed myself, and made her start. Just questions back and forth. Baited a few so I could DHV on the fly. I number closed her about 5 minutes from Portland and continued vibing, gave her a hug before I left and told her I'd call her.
I called her about an hour after I got home just to bust her balls for about five minutes, I made her look something up on the internet for me which I already knew about and had her call me back because "I had to go real quick." Lol. This shit is so fun.
So she called me tonight about three seconds before I was about to call her. I fluffed talked her for about 20 minutes and said I had to go shopping or something, made plans to chill tomorrow. I've gotten so many god damn IOIs from this girl. It's never been more on.
I realize now that my natural game stumbling block before I discovered all this stuff was I was sort of blind to IOIs. I had an inner game problem where I would always second-guess everything and not want to screw up (thus I would drag things out and potentially lose my target). Now that I have a better understanding of the dynamics I can see what I was doing wrong.
The only problem I had was I think that I was subcommunicating a little bit of anxiety throughout the whole thing. I mean, I'm pretty in tune with what emotions I'm feeling, or what potentially unhelpful emotions are trying to break through. I was getting these little blips of AFC nervousness and unworthiness on my radar during the interaction, which I might have projected a tiny, tiny bit. Whenever I'd get one I'd immediately ignore it and recheck my body language and shit, so it never got out of control. Girls are perceptive creatures though, and I was a little worried about that until I started getting all these IOIs.
My advice? Just delude yourself into thinking it's on all the time that seems to work. lolol
I'd like to thank Mystery for that awesome dvd. If you guys are just reading the books, go get the videos because I think you get the concepts in your head quicker that way. Plus Mystery's a fun character to watch. Love that guy.
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