I'm 37 years old. I've had probably 6 - 8 sex partners in the past (I can't be bothered to try to remember the details, right now.) Anyway, of all of them, only the first was good. I was with her for quite a while and then I broke things off. I've had several opportunities to have sex and I've turned them down, either for religious reasons, because I was in love, or because too much fapping left me disinterested.

I keep telling myself that some day I'm going to be rich and then I'll date and sleep with 10/10, 18 year old chicks. Well, being 37 years old, I'm getting worried that I better get on these goals ASAP or I'm going to be too old to start a family by the time I've reached my goal.

I'm going to use this thread to document my journey from EFC = "Extremely Frustrated Chump" to PUA.

Over the past 2 weeks, I have done the following:

I've been trying to say hello to women that I come across, either at work or while running errands. In the past I avoided talking to attractive women a lot, but have been trying hard. I've been getting positive reactions too.

I modified my POF profile. This resulted in 2 girls expressing interest by "Favouriting" my profile.

I failed with the 1 girl online (I rejected myself first and then got rejected by her, so no surprise at her reaction.)

I met with the other girl for coffee, but I failed to carry the excitement I generated online into our date. I was a PUA on POF but an AFC on our date. The reason why I failed though is because I didn't have a gameplan and I didn't educate myself on how to handle the date. It was my first date in 2+ years though and I felt very confident throughout, so overall it was very positive. I know that I let her down though by not making her fantasies come true. She wanted to see a player and I ended up sitting on the sidelines throughout the game.

On the way home from the date I tried to speak with a random girl on the bus. Her reaction was negative and people saw my fail, but it didn't kill me. I'm proud of myself for trying.

I succeeded in these respects:
-I made both ladies LoL by taking information from their profiles and using it to show that I was both interested and witty.
-I didn't give too much information away about me. I was mysterious and this made the ladies interested in meeting with me.
-I moved quickly to asking if the ladies wanted to meet up. This was good.
-I rejected myself with the first girl, but I refused to do so with the second girl.

I failed in these respects:
-I felt inadequate with one girl because I don't own a car, and she lives so far away. I just told her: "Forget about it," and I regret saying that. Women seem to assume that you have a car, even if your profile says that you don't.
-I went into the date unprepared. While I'm pleased that I felt confident enough to go in without thinking everything through, the lack of knowledge on how to point this girl in the direction I wanted resulted in me leaving disappointed.
-Spilling my seed is a problem that I need to fix. I've got to bring this to a conclusion. Not having an intense sex drive prevents my animal instincts from helping me out.
-I have a habit of mimicing facial expressions and whatnot, in order to show people I'm listening. So, if this girl said something she thought was funny, I'd mimic her response to show that I was listening, even if I didn't think it was funny or didn't understand her.

Goals, November 2nd to 8th:
-Don't Fap.
-Approach 3 women in person.
-Approach 5 women online.
-Educate myself on how to turn a first date into a lay.

I just want to make a point to tell myself that I failed the woman that I dated. I failed her by not carrying forth the fantasty I created online into the date. I failed her by not asking for the sex that we both wanted. I failed her by not learning how to ask for the sex that we both want.

I need to realize that I'm not just failing to give myself what I want, I'm also failing women, too. Not approaching women is also failing them, just as much as it's failing myself.

I have to understand that women want sex just as much as I do. If they took the time to chat with me and meet up with me, then they want the sex just as bad, or possibly worse than me. I need to focus on giving them what they want just as much as focusing on giving myself what I want.

Giving women what they want doesn't mean kissing ass, either. It means creating attraction, asking for sex, making it happen, etc..

Keep going man. The only way to succeed is to fail. I know a very successful business man who fails and falls on his ass dozens of times per month. That's more than most people "fail" in business or work in their entire lives.

Process vs. result.

The average person sees someone successful and doesn't see ALL the work and blood/sweat/tears it took to get there.

I appreciate the kind words. I'll probably get discouraged at times, but I'll never quit!

I have a few questions: What religious reasons don't allow you to have sex? Why only approach 3 women? Have you read/watched any pickup material?

As I learned, getting in the game is more than just practice. You can't learn calculus just by doing the problems, you have to either be taught or read tutorials. It's the same with pickup. Otherwise there's just too much trial and error. Building on other peoples mistakes and failures will make you get a lot better a hell of a lot faster.

Mystery is good for newbies but should only be used as an introduction. For clubs Gambler's stuff is great. I personally follow RSD.

Why don't you daygame/nightgame at all? I can see you have apprach 3 girls as one of your goals but you have no Field reports. Anyway, good luck!

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My PUA Journey (2014): http://bit.ly/1yYjtSV
MY PUA Journey (2015): the-342-journal-vol-2-rugby7-vt187356.html
My Workout (Read this): http://bit.ly/1zIQncY

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I really think you need to get out and talk to real, actual people... Get off the Internet.

You may be getting better at digital game... texting and messaging, but you'll never defeat AA by POF'ing.