Hello all!
The objective of this topic it's to improve my life as a PUA and take it as motivation to keep getting better everyday. I'm here to receive advice from every expertise or anyone who's trying to become better on this art. Read the first paragraph and the bolds for a short resume of who I am and what I'm willing to become if you don't want to see this as a tl;dr! I'm not trying to prove anything to anyone here with the things I will say about myself, but I think that if I talk a bit about who I am it'll be easier for every of you to see things from my point of view in life.
I'm 20 years old, 3rd grade on college without a missing year and basically consider myself as a guy who can take care of my body and mind, have a balanced life and set priorities (my biggest lack it's the capacity of starting things at time since, you know school and some works but hey I've made it through here so it's something I want to improve but not the reason I'm on this forum.) I do sports (love radical sports!), enjoy partying (a lot!), have lots of friends, love music in general (particullary drum n bass and hiphop), partys, hanging out, meeting new people who I can identify with (boys or girls). I do drink and smoke weed (not a pothead) and find important to say this since I've met lots of great people from drinking and/or smoking, it's definitely a great way to make people more confortable and get to know them better; and that INCLUDES girls.
So what brings me here? I've never been bad with girls but far from as good as I want to be!
When did it all started? At my 18's I've had some girls in my life but never anyone who I could say I really loved. A girl appeared when I was this age and changed it, since the beginning we connected very well and she was with a girl from my friends group so I was with her lots of days. We started getting closer but I realized she had a 4 year relationship with a guy which she was still in love. Big fuck. At time I had never been in such a situation so I decided to give it a shot and for almost a year we never had something I can call a relationship. We could be together one day and the other without almost talking. We kissed, we cuddled, we fucked, we did lots of thing together but I loved her and she didn't love me...always trying to get her love after like 9 months I decided it was enough. We are still friends but today she means nothing to me in "the love way" (thank god!)
OK! So at this time I got my lesson (at least i guessed) and it took me a while to get along with another girl but she eventually appeared. Jesus! She was gorgeous! Fucking gorgeous! One of the most beautifull girls I've seen in my entire life (for sure this helped me to get in love easier, men are so visual!). She was on my college (how could I never noticed her!) and I started talking to her by facebook. Since the beggining I found on her someone who I could identify in so much things, from music to lifestyle, thoughts and feelings. Well we started to be together, everything was going really well but I was always thinking "I need to go slower", "I need to don't get this close to this girl"...well...after sometime her ex-boyfriend appeared in her life again and consequently in mine too. FUCK! How can this be possible? It went bad! I never thought it could happen again or at least so early again! Well we kept hanging out but it was not the same, she was confused and I was playing like the goofy in the whole story, having her still liking him and me (can this even be possible?) so it got courage and walked away from the whole situation with a broken heart.
And after this I've never been the same when it's about girls. Before the first love I can say that i maybe had an average of 2 girls a year since my 13/14's. I don't consider it bad for a guy who was not aware of "the game"; i didn't know it even existed. I haven't started yet to take it as a game already, but i consider the creation of this thread the beginning of it!
Just this year I've had 5 girls (far away from a PUA but a good score for me in comparison to before).
For one side I'm happy that i could avoid to get unwanted feelings with them, for another I'm a bit afraid to become a cold motherfucker...not in the way to disrespect them but afraid to become too cold and not being able to fall in the further time to come. Don't get me wrong, I enjoyed the time with them all but there was never that "click", that chemistry with any of them.
Enough of my life story, I'm here to learn to approach girls, learn techniques, find what works, what doesn't work, what can work, whatever can improve my life as a PUA! That's what i want now from my life, that's what i will practise to be!
I already started reading some books of personal improvement and confidence gain. I saw 2 days ago the Pick Up Artist movie and that inspired me in the next day to try a couple approaches (none of both went with a phone number, neither a rejection at the end but both helped me to start realising that it's really worth trying and you got nothing to loose, only to win).
The movie also gave me the desire to get more and more, so at night when I got home i talked to a girl I met in summer (we just made out back then) and invited her to come with me to the beach (which happened today). The result? Ended up in the car and just didn't fucked since she was on her period. I also got an invitation to go to her house in a few days so we can finish what was started!
List of objectives (for now):
There are 2 girls in my college that I want to meet, as soon as I see them alones or with just a couple friends i need to approach
I got to organize my time better, more efficiency doing things means more time for me and more time for picking up
Finish reading one of the books I'm into now
I'm not a native english speaker so sorry if I've made some mistakes! Sorry also for this big thread, tried to sum it all up!
Any tips for a beginner and what to do next are welcome
CHAT
