09/25/14

Im in Tel Aviv, Israel.
Went to a club where I was invited by a friend of mine who's BF celebrated birthday there.
Did drink that night due to the birthday party.

This is literally the starting out all over again, as I've had a rough time with depression the weeks before. But lets not get into that, its a different issue.
Point is, that I feel like starting from 0. I literally lost my skill, knowledge, intuitions that I had before.
So fuck it. Leave all the negativity behind and start over. I am so committed to getting this down, if starting over is what needs to be done, then I start all over.

I loaded myself with Julien wisdom before I left. This guy knows whats up.
On the way there I thought I better snap myself out of my head early, like im supposed to. So I took the cold action and approached two girls coming my way. Asked them for directions. Pushed myself to hold them a little bit longer, even though I saw that they wanted to keep moving. Asked them about what theyre doing and tried to bring out wittiness, until they said they wish me great fun, etc. and moved on.
So tap on my shoulder, acted against emotions with willpower.

Did the same with 2 other 2 sets. Great. More out of my head, higher energy now.
Entered the club, failed to open the first, as I should, but realized that and succeeded in approaching the second. Great!
That was a older but hot girl stting at the bar, looking aimlessly. Went in without thought and said "whats up?". From there I didnt know what else, "ran out of things to say" so to say ^^. Few seconds later the guy to her right turns out to be her company buying drinks. I eject on that. Its ok I guess. No need to crash and burn upon arrival. Time to have a good fun time in the first half. And I destroyed my self image becasue it was that kind of weird approach. So i realized the funniness and state went up.

Then second approach were girls I asked for direction outside. Talked to the one a minute about I was supposed to meet my friend here for the birthday party but shes obviously not here. Tried to be kind of non-caring, honest, self-ridicouling, self-image destroying by saying its humiliating to go somewhere and your friends dont show up without telling you. Response was ok. It made me care less, more fun, more free. Great!
Then found my friend. Shes a extremely hot fun girl. Spent the whole night around her and the birthday party, which were many big, fun, cool dudes (expected social circle of a hot girl). I didnt let that stiffle me (GREAT SHIT!) and shot the shit with my friend. Had amazing fun with her, which pumped my state more. She occasionally wanted to check on her BF, who was rocking that place, was everywhere, knew everyone, etc.
So when I was alone, back into game-focus, focused on standing there like a bitch, so approached whatever girl was in my vicinity. All approaches went kind of the same. Me walking up, saying "whats up" in hebrew and then trying to vibe, keep it fun and light, trying not to be in interview mode (which is hard for me somehow, except when im in state - when out of state i never know how to vibe when you approach a stranger). Except for one girl, who i approached and she was obviously interested in getting to know me. She was reinitiating (which is obviously a good sign) and I started vibing. The thing in this set was, that I really felt like starting from 0, becasue I couldnt tell anymore, if I should escalate now, get physical, take her hand and dance, is the window open now, or is it closed? I couldnt tell, even though just 1 month ago I was still rocking it in Barcelona. (sidenote: in between that day and barcelona was a depression that picked to pretty scary levels, but then leveld off quickly fortunately, but I know now how devastating that can be to game)
So I didnt really escalate. I "lead" her outside, but i didnt lead her by hand, which I definitely could have. (Got to do that) Outside we chatted on a bench, which I led her to sit on (Great!), vibed quite ok, BUT i felt the spinning plates falling because i wasnt physical, wasnt escalating, and vibed more in a friend to friend vibe. (MAN 2 WOMAN! Remember!)
Sure enough she LED ME into the club again and went off to her friends. [UPDATE: Damn I just remember that she said to me that her friends left her. probably the perfect invitation to take her outside, get some food, pull, etc. but I just said, oh thats not nie, cant you text them, ... OH MAAAAN ^^ i really have to get my game back together. grow some balls again.]
I think I remember (so weird that i lost my game knowledge) that I failed because i failed to escalate.
But beacuse I was focusing a lot on having fun, I was in a better state and definitely counted the whole interaction as a WIN! GreaT!

Back to my friend, having more fun. I saw that this club has amazing toilets (short way in the cabin, no cleaning staff, bigender --> perfect for toilet pulls, something i prided myself in having done a few )

Approached a 3set of 2girls and 1 guy, 1 fatty and 1 hot girl, the hot girl was taken by the guy, so I stood with the fat girl. This set was kind of hard to hook because they gave the "whos that guy" look, but i managed to persevere and show them that Im cool. Great! So I hooked the fatty and talked to her, had some good fun, and sure enough i saw that she became attracted, so I had to wind myself out of it again. Less attention to her, more attention to my friend. Funfunfun admitting the ridicoulus situation, that i first hook the fatty and then try to get rid of her.

The other sets were all sets where I jumped in and tried not to think too much, but couldnt hook beyond "hey whats up, yes im german, my hebrew is not good, etc." so it always turned out that they felt uncomfortabe with me standing there and talkig to them. Well fuck it, appraoch = success, all i wanted. and the fact that im weird = funny, destroys self image. Great!

At around 3am I left the club. I have to admit i was tired from pushing myself and probably getting the somewhat indifferent, rejecting responses. But fuck that. I did everything right in the book of how to get good, I was out of my comfort zone and I had fun. GreaT! Its a muscle which needs to be built.
When I went outside I first thought of going home, but there are many sets on the street and I made myself stay and go back. Great! My willpower was burned out though, so i couldnt make myself approach anymore. Thats the situation where I need to admit that I need a wing, so we can push each other and make it fun, rather than a cruel task.
I said to myself, one more approach, just one more, then i can go home. Took me about 20mins, then I walked up behind on the probably hottest girl of the night wtih a ugly fatty. Turned out the ugly fatty acted as bodyguard for the hot one who didnt even react. Well my performance was defintiteyl nothing to talk about, but i did the approach. GREAT! Acted against my emotions. Awesome.

So first night out approaching again.

I have to get back in there now. I dont have time for more than 2 nights a week in Israel, but at least that.
I commit to writing field reports to every night, to rethink what happened, something ive never really done before. I want to get really good at this, not jsut the fantasy of it.

09/26/14

This night was a blast.

I started off ALONE (damn, need a wingman), walking to the beach where I agreed to meet up with a guy from the Inner Circle Tel Aviv.
On the way saw an unspectacular looking clubdoor close to my apartment. It got my attention because only mega hot women were swarming towards it.
So... got in line, forced my dominant loud voice out of myself to persuade the bouncer that im cool and that i actually have friends inside waiting for me (damn i wasnt even dressed well enough for that kind of club). 10€ cover though. But ok. Amps up the commitment.

So I walk in and instantly Im amazed by the sheer amount of abundance of Hot hot hot girls in there. No mediocre ones, only hotties i swear. turned out it was some kind of a business-high society-kind of party.
I really had to keep my nerves together on this one. The club wasnt too big, which means you can burn through pretty quickly if you dont hook anything and your mood is not stable. I started off approaching small groups of girls, but nothing really hooked and most of the groups were very standoffish rejecting. It makes sense since im some lonley dude walking up, who wants something from them, while they already have lots of high value guys around. A good wingman would have definitely been helpful.
In my head I was like: "OK, so be it. Challenge accepted."

Because of several blowouts and little space to go where i havent been blown out yet, I had to come up with a new mindset. It was taff to maintain a good mood and not get stiffled in and do nothing. A very uncomfortable situation with no escape basically.

I shifted my focus on: You are enough, because the last night (see last FR) there was a very hot girl who loved my personality, so I definitely I dont have to change my personality to project value. This is a extraordinarely taff situation (alone in a high value venue) where you cant really win. Dont expect anything. What I can do though is, to train my willpower, my emotional muscle and my creativity of building sth out of nothing. Process orientation: take the references

With that newly strengthened mindset I started approaching again. Same results, but now I could reframe it quite well. I did hook a 3-set eventually and the one cute fattie got to like me. I thought about taking the fatty girl (she was cool) but I think I couldnt have done it in between these hoardes of beautiful women. I approached another really hot chick who hooked kind of, but in retrospect I think I let the spinning plates fall, because I was too stiffled in to push forward and escalate. Of course she lost any attraction she had pretty quickly.
I saw another 3set of little hot girls and one gave me several eye contacts while i walked by. I opened (snap reaction from the momentum i already had going for me) and I think there was a great deal of attraction going on in her eyes. Her friends were cool, except for one dude who suddenly came in (also a little one) and went pretty aggressive verbally and physical on me, trying to mock and break me. I was pretty stable though (the only thing I hate is that my voice is always so shaky when the adrenaline rushes through) and I didnt let myself get bullshitted. Instead of reacting, I pulled this guy in and told him straight away that I do not appreciate his bullshit and he should get the fuck out of my face. I saw that he got more respect through that, but that didnt mean that he leaves me alone now. Instead he kept on going, but a little bit more frightened that I kick his ass. His friends were cool though and dissolved the situation by excusing their friend. I reapproached the little girl again (sometimes you have to act like a boss) but this guy came back and same again. I ejected then. From my experience it gets really messy if you keep on pushing then. The friends will back their friend at some point if you dont leave and the girls are indifferent or biased towards their group anyway. But to be honest I maybe should have not ejected at that point and pushed a little bit further. You never know when you leave.

I left the club shortly after, because I wanted to meet up with the IC dude and frankly I didnt see myself pulling from that club except the fatty. The last approach might have sounded cool and in state, but in reality I was shit scared and stiffled in that club. But again, who knows?, I usually do pretty well in taff situations and have good results in 'em every now and then.

I met up with 3 other guys from Tel Aviv and we went to a Beachclub which was pretty cool. Another cover fee, but hey, momentum is money. The guys I met up with didnt enter because they didnt want to pay. So i was alone again. I felt the urge to become result oriented now. That happens when you got into good momentum and you feel strong (I did after having survived and thrived in the club before).
With this realization I started to throw myself in sets again without thinking too much and just try to vibe basically. In contrary to daygame I have it as habit to approach groups of girls in a club (after years of doing this) and not be overly outcome dependent doing it.
I approached one hot latina who sat next to the dancefloor and I saw attraction sparking up in her eyes. I was in a good vibe and I started to escalate. I tried to pull her somewhere fairly quickly (few minutes in), but she didnt comply (not beach, not couch). I brang in the friend of her who was dancing with some guy, and she approved of the idea to go with me. Of course to get the right logistics for herself (girl code example), but interestingly enough my girl didnt comply (which I thought she would now). She left with some excuse of her BF being on the dancefloor or sth like that. I didnt understand it, but I also dont have to. Too many outside factors going on.

I kept going and I walked up to 2 fatties and 1 pretty girl. The pretty girl turned out to be from Munich and she had those flickering eyes of sparkling attraction. I sat down next to her and we vibed very well. We had a great time. I even blew off some big, very aggressive player type dude. Unfortunately she was not the girl thats going to be pulled tonight. (At least my perception. Again I could be wrong and I should've pushed more to test it.) I made a KC attempt but she turned away. I shook it off and kept on vibing. Definitely only a plus point, because I showed her that I have a dick, too. In the end I took her number. She lives in Jerusalem, so it will be interesting if there will be a date.


That was that night.

A big big success for me at that point as I really hit rock bottom with game the last days and weeks. Finally I approached again and found back to my strengths and bits of my game knowledge. and I got a pretty girl very attracted to me again. Big tap on my shoulder for that.


3 things I did great:
1. I survived interacting in a very taff environment, kept my cool, my mood and didn't eject from that situation too early.
2. Came into process orientation again, dropped the outcome and focused on fun and letting go.
3. Didnt react to 2 aggressive guys and closed a solid number on a cute pretty girl, as well as tried to close a hot latina girl.

3 things I need to work on:
1. Stay even longer. Be even more persistent. Poke the harsh rejection out of her. Don't give up a little bit too early and then stand wondering.
2. Be more process oriented again liked you used to be after the Miami Bootcamp. Today was great, but I remember that I've been more into it already.
3. Killerinstinct! Goes hand in hand with (1), but also with the one set in the first club, where I was too stiffled to escalate. Be awkward, but try to close.

09/27/14

I was at the beach and a shopping mall today and I wanted to go home but I had the nagging feeling in the back of my head that I must do some appraoches.
I wandered around endlessly again, getting more in my head by the minute. I dont want to go into detail, I will make it very quick.
Daygame/Streetgame is my biggest fear in game. It is crazy, but it is what it is.

After being kicked down to the curb by my own self talk I felt like the biggest piece of shit on earth. And I am. I watched Fight club the night before and this movie is so inspirational, I couldnt deny that I am 100% the fucked up human mind that wants life to be orderly and is kind of entitled to shit, that you have some kind of value because you comply with societal standards, etc. (Fight Club's message is to go against that).

It was a really fucked up thing but I said to myself that I wouldnt go home tonight until Ive done that one approach. Night was closing in and I was already 2 hours into my challenge.
It was so pathetic, my wish to not have to expose myself and my intentions to the world, but rather get value for nothing, that I made myself enjoy an expensive cup of icecream. This was punishment (like in Full Metal Jacket where Private Paula has to eat the donut for punishment)
usually wouldnt buy that, but I was so fed up with myself, that I said:"Here you go, you little bitch, enjoy your luxury ice cream. Eat it bitch. Enjoy your lottory win of life."

I don't know if it had an effect on my willpower, but I was sitting in front of the ice cream shop and "made myself eat the icecream", when a pretty hot blonde walked up to buy icecream. I sat there looking and kind of made the decision in my head to go approach her when she has her icecream.
Then I did. I walked up and I showed my intentions. (It doesnt matter that she excused herself because she's a fiancé).

All that mattered to me in that moment was, that I woke up to life at that moment. I could finally go home and I could be proud of myself. I was at rock bottom and this action was way out of my reality. That's why it took me 2 hours.
In my head I thought this is the start of a long process. How long will I need the next time?

(Interestingly enough 2 girls at the bus sparked up an interaction with me and I took the number of the hotter one. Now Im texting with her. It is a complete freebie that I kind of dont deserve, but OTOH maybe I did deserve because I jumped over my shadow eventually that night and did something taff&extraodinary)

10/01/14

I moved to my new flat today, in a great location of Tel Aviv. Right next to bars and clubs.
At night I met up with my buddy X Ive been out the night before. He knows the place and takes the lead to check out some places. I dont want to stay long again because of work in the morning.
We walk to the first club but dont go in because of too much coverfee, not worth it tonight. On the way to the next bar there are 4 hot girls walking in front of us. I go in and the girls all are hyper startled even though I said a nice "excuse me" to open them. Somehow too threatening.
After the initial shock the girls open up and stop for a long time to talk with us. It was quite a learning experience for me. First of all the approach. I dont really know why but somehow I am threatening sometimes on my approach. It happened this night with another girl that I had to run up from far behind to catch up with her. Even though I go in with "excuse me". They freak out on that, but I could have also just asked for direction/help whatever. But I learned the lesson. Get enough in front of them that they can see you in their peripherals and then really smoothly excuse yourself into the set.
Secondly I was too much trying. I tried to get some result out of it. I was nervous, thus made many cocky funny comments and tried to get physical. It was all too much though and came of as inappropriate and as if I am not enough. I should've just chilled, non-trying and be sincere. On reflection it must have come across as a inexperienced boy trying to make his moves with girls (baby tiger syndrom), acting weird because of nervousness. X was pretty laid back and chatted with one of them. Seemed solid. I took that girls number in the end, but I never got an answer on my texts, as expected.

Another approach was me being called out by X. He saw that a girl at an outside bar's table checked me out and I walked past. He said I should go in and I "did it for the reference". Walked in, hyper afraid, and didnt know how to better handle the weird looks of the girl and her friends than by just be honest and show my intentions. It was weird and hard to endure for the first few seconds, but then they were nice. I ejected shortly after that anyways. Im just glad that I did it. Should have been non-caring, try to have fun with it and see where the set is at. Is there actually a possibility to get something out of there? You dont have to be direct there. Rather vibe with the group, see how the target reacts, then decide to stick in there or not. Again it was like the boy who pulled up enough courage to tell the girl he likes her. Probably that was the reason why they were nice and excused themselves to get me nicely out of the interaction. Still glad that I did it of course, otherwise I wouldnt have the reference that I get stiffled into a little boy when I go in high-risk challenging sets. And of course it was kind of an act of willpower, even though X gave me the initial motivation. Here lies another very disturbing truth about me. I dont have enough authority over myself to push my boundaries, to push beyond my comfort zone. I need sb else to give me permission, to push me. Thats of course the reason why I need a wing, and probably most guys have the same issue, but it makes me sad when I think about all those years where I went out alone and I must have skipped on countless opportunities, stripping me of the needed references to get good at game fast. I dont want that anymore.


Things I did great:
- 3 taff streetsets, good for willpower


Things I have to work on:
- Be a man, not a boy. Be proactive, not reactive. Push the boundaries. . Dont diverse the sets into different categories, where you play it safe here, go hardcore there... Go for the kill, get the reference. You are enough. Be assertive, but not in a needy inexperienced way. Make it discrete and take your time.
- Opener on the street. Come more from the front+side, be even more low key.
- become less and less emotionally influenced by your actions

10/02/14

Next night.

Few days ago, 09/27 (FR above) 2 girls on a bus kind of approached me and because they went off the bus I quickly asked for the number of the hotter one. She willingly gave it to me and we started texting a little bit over the last few days. I didnt really deserve it (or maybe I did) because I had spent the evening wandering around in the mall, not being able to approach any girl, but at least in the end when I was starting to beat myself up over it and make myself eat a huge cup of icecream, the little bitch that I was, I finally approached a hot older blonde woman who also had bought ice cream. So I had done it eventually and that made me happy that I at least didnt just bail out and go home. Then on the way home the 2 girls approached me by looking at me smiling. Long story short I ended up having a date with the hot one. If I deserved it or not to get this opportunity, I dont know, but I treated it as a bonus, a freebie so to say. Nothing to put too much thought or importance into it.

She texted me the day before, asking for what Im up to tonight. I said I want to go out, what is her plan? She said she's going to sit with some friends and then they go out, I should join. I dont like these type of situations when girls invite me to their social circle. It usually does not play in your advantage. But since this girl is a absolute Bonus, I didnt care and decided to just go with it and see what happens. We agreed to meet at a popular square in Tel Aviv, from where we head over to the friends. We meet and we have a good vibe going. While walking to the bar where her friends are, we come past a bar that the girl refers to as 'PickUp Bar'. Funny enough she asks me if we would maybe want to take a drink in there? I jump at the opportunity and take the lead. We go into PickUp Bar. It's a good bar, but loud. Hard to talk in there.
Anyways we get 2 beers from Munich, my hometown. Shouldnt do it though since its expensive.
We talk and vibe, she touches me when I make jokes, it is pretty on.
Eventually we leave and go join her friends who sit outside of a bar. 1 guy who keeps falling asleep, 1 russian girl who is super needy and 1 german girl who is a good friend of my girl.
It's somehow boring and weird. The needy girl wants to get fucked by the sleepy guy, german girl and my girl want to go party. At some point the russian girl gets to take the guy home with her and we depart to a club.
It is always a challenge when the girl you want to get with has a friend with her. You can't do anything than to stick it out until the friend goes home or hope for a guy to take the friend away.
The first club we go to is pretty cool. Nice setup, but very crowded on the dancefloor. I do not attempt to get too physical with my girl, since with her friend around its always weird and weird is usually not good. Oftentimes the girl is not receptive to get close on each other anyway when there is a friend around. It's super annoying to me because you cant just go and approach other chicks. So I have to dance to music that I dont like, but fuck it, stick it out.
The girls go to the bathroom at some point, which gives me room to approach some other girls and get in a better mood. It works and I feel good and having fun when they come back. Its good too because you dont make the girls feel like they are the party, which is probably the most crucial point to focus on when you are stuck with friends of your girl. Stay upbeat and a source of fun energy. That's not easy.

Eventually we bounce to another club. This club is a fucked up hipster club with strange SPAM, weird looking gay guys touching me and probably a place you'd drugs to melt into. Isnt it funny how hipster is the ultimate mainstream? They look all the same with their weird clothes, little backpacks and long socks. Looks kind of like a pickup guy from the old peacocking times ^^.
Now in this club it becomes even harder for me to stay "the party" because the girls im with start dancing the retarded left right, zoned-out boring BS dance that everybody is dancing to the SPAM. I figure if I just do the same I go so far off my intentions and start becoming the follower chode guy, that I will slowly blow myself out anyways. It's time to step a foot down, move it in the direction I want it to go and take the risk of blowing myself out. I tell my girl that this club is not for me, (my girl didnt look like she was having crazy amounts of fun either), its weird music and way too loud. I say I will leave soon . The german girl is enjoying herself somehow, but shes from Berlin, a city that is known for these kind of clubs, so Im risking that she goes against my proposal of leaving. I take the girls to a quieter area, I tell again that its not for me, that they can stay if they like but I will leave. My girl agrees and german girl complies. Great!

My girl is getting tired and she comes close and puts her head on my shoulder a few times, good signs that she'll stick with me when german girl goes home.
We still go to another club, one with better party music, but Im far beyond having fun dancing in a circle with 2 girls. At this point I kind of act like the lion waiting for his wounded prey to become too weak to resist the deathbite. I.e. my girl becoming too tired to resist me proposing to call it a night.
Waiting for the kill. Sticking around and blowing off needy guys.
I keep hoping for a guy to successfully approach the german girl, but nobody seems interested.

Eventually I think its time to act and also I feel the spinning plates slowly falling because Im also not getting physical with my girl and trying something. I kept wondering if I should now make some moves, if the girls think Im a pussy because Im not making moves and that they think about getting rid of me to get some real men.
I decide not to make moves on my girl. Could have been wrong. Still not enough references to know for sure what's better. I've definitely blown myself out before by making moves where I should've just sticked it out and it would have worked out that way, but through making moves I became weird and thus needy. But I've also had times before where I just tried to stick things out until the "right time" comes around, but I waited too long, spinning plates fell, girls that were super into me before blew me off because I was not assertive enough.
It is an unclear situation and has to be considered on a moment-to-moment basis. You must stick around and not let your girl out of sight at the end of the night, because if some other cool dude comes in, maybe with a cool friend who takes the other girl, you're done. So I blew out some guys and that is very good. Then you need to be focused on when is the right time to make moves. If you fail to jump through the windows of opportunity, you're done. Happened to me many times before. Spot it when it opens and jump through it with all the risks involved. Better to fail trying than by loosing the girl beacuse of not trying.
A window opens up for example when the friend of your girl sees that her friend is into you and she decides to give you some free time by going to the toilet or for a smoke or whatever, usually accompanied by a girl-code, where the friend insists on that it is OK to go alone. That's usually a great sign for you to make moves. The german girl didnt do that though. She sticked around and tried to take my girl with her whenever she went off to the bathroom, etc. I felt like she was challenging me anyway the whole night, not being very open and friendly towards me. Sometimes you get those needy girls who are mad that no guy comes to them, so they want to destroy it for their hot friend as well. It wasn't that bad with her though. I decided to stick it out by just 'sticking around' and not let guys take over the set. Turned out to be the right course of action. I just did the same as in the club before, proposing the girls to leave. My girl was very down for that and the german girl asked for 5 minutes more. After 5 minutes we really left the club and I had already asked for logistics. German girl lives the other direction than me and my girl. So german girl says goodbye to my girl and Im finally alone with my girl again. Considering that it was on with my girl even before we met the other friends, it was a long lag time to 'stick out' until I was alone with her again. We walked up the street and kept vibing. I asked her if shes cold (she complained about that before) and thus had a perfect excuse to pull her in close. She happily complied and I knew it was on.
Not too long after that I tried to kiss her, which she turned her head away from, but as an experienced guy I handled the situation perfectly. Made some jokes about it, kept the vibe going and just new that I have her. Pulled her to a bench, we sit and vibe, she has her legs over mine, eventually I do kiss her.
We get very playful, I carry her up the road, she makes playful comments towards sex, etc. It goes down very smooth. We chill at one of the nicer places in Tel Aviv, a little garden in front of some theater.
We kiss more, I make her extremely comfortable with me, and continue to walk her to my home. She starts making comments about not going to sleep with me. I dismantle by saying it wouldnt happen anyways because Im gay. I just want to drink coffee with her (she told me earlier that she loves to drink coffee in the morning) cause its getting morning again. She happily plays into that, no resistence when we walked into my apartment.
We go to bed very fast, no resistance about sleeping in my bed. But she wouldnt let me fuck her...
She even resists me touching or fingering her, letting herself get turned on overall. At some point I do get far enough with my hands and I feel 'the thing', 'the gamebreaker'. She's on her period... oh no...............

Well, I could accept that, but I couldnt accept that she also just wouldnt give me at least hand. Tried that the whole night. Got naked in front of her, had my dick out, put her hand on it, but she wouldnt do it. Thats the most annoying thing there is when you have a hot girl lying next to you, but you know you won't get off. Even started masturbating next to her (sth that Julien suggests as last possible way of turning her around, since it might convince her to just join in since he's not backing down), but no go. Started to get highly annoyed. Went to the bathroom to ease myself.

Fair enough. Another solid pull. Funny enough with a girl that approached me and I asked for the number in a matter of seconds.
Sex will come.

Things I did great:
- committed to the right course of action, sticked it out, but made the right moves when it counted
- did not let myself get pulled into the girls and her friends reality. Stayed in my power.
- pulled very solidly, pushed for sex as far as possible

Things I have to work on:
- develop a tight set of intuition of what to do when, in sets that have interfering external influences (e.g. german girl), so that you dont have to wonder what you should do and just hope for it to play out right in unclear situations. This time I got lucky, but I will loose many more girls in the future because of this. This is one of these flowchart analysis I have to make to learn how to do this smoothly.
- be the party on your own termns, not get stiffled by cold friends or when your girl is cold.