Hi, great to actually post something. I never realized how bad an AFC I was till I stumbled upon the pua community. I think I'm kind of a special case, I'm a hardcore christian, absolutely crazy about God. I stumbled upon "the game" while desperately searching the internet for books on dating advice because my oneites broke my heart completely after I poured all my energy into her for a year! Anyways I was completely mesmerized by what I read, my mind was blown to bits. Neil's writing style, his sincerity and honesty amazed me. I guess I'm not in the game to see how many woman I can shag, I have no problem with guys who do, it's just a personal preference of mine. But I am interested in meeting great woman, being able to sweep them of their feet, have them hang on every word I say, truly connect with woman and of course, have some fun. Never in my life do I want to be in a onites position again where I am powerless, not in control, and doomed to be the one that gets hurt.

Anyways back to the point, my field report: After arming myself with some theory from "the game", some stealth attraction videos by gambler and other resources I felt it necessary to go out into the field. I gathered a few friends and we headed out to a local club, where you can actually dance sokkie, an informal ballroom style of dance that obviously requires 2 people to dance. I guess I was lucky because a hot 8/10 blonde who I made eye contact with a view minutes earlier approached me, and asked if I can dance. I told her no I can't, but I'm willing to learn (which was a lie, I'm great at sokkie) So on the dancefloor she quickly realized I was a good dancer, and it was a nice fun moment, she was surprised, and I told her: Hey there's nothing wrong with a little white lie now and then, and she giggled. So far so good, I think I showed her that I was fun and unpredictable. So after the dance I thanked her and delivered her back to her friends. A few minutes later I approached her and asked her if she wants to join me on the house floor. She said yes, so I leaded her by the hand (wanted to keep the kino escalation going) to the house dance floor. We danced for about 3 songs which was a bit awkward for me at times, I'm not very comfortable shaking my body around standing in one lace by myself. During the 3 songs I tried to escalate the kino, I started by complimenting her on her waist band while running my hand over it, she gave my a polite thank you. From there I took her hand and made her turn once or twice, and after the turn I would place her hand on her hip while keeping my hand on her hand. We danced for about 3 songs, after which she excused herself to go to the bathroom, and told me she would be right back. She never showed up again, and when I left the club I saw a glimpse of her dancing with her friends on another dance floor.

I'm not to sure if I freaked her out or bored her. I would please like some advice on what I could have done differently to keep her interested/not freak her out. Tnx you PUA legends, love you guys!

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Johnny Sparks
South Africa