This is going to be a long post, but I promise at least a chuckle or two. So sit back and enjoy. I promise this is the longest one I will make, though. I just want to start off right.

As many of you, I discovered the game through Neil's book "The Game" a couple of months ago.

At first I couldn't believe it. I mean I didn't question the truth of his stories, but somehow my mind wouldn't accept the fact that it was so..."doable". I've always been social and funny, but terrible with girls. I was blown off.

Since then, I've been checking forums and videos, absorbing everything I could and checking stuff from different "schools", telling myself everyday "today is the day, go ahead and try it" but not having the balls to pull anything off and always making excuses to myself ("it's too loud here", "she's in a hurry", "you're gonna look like a fucking retard" and so on). Well, yesterday was the day. I plan on keeping this journal weekly, but before I start, here's my introduction post: getting-on-board-vt178221.html

If you want, you can skip to "AT THE PARTY" part. This is just the intro of the night.

So yesterday was the day. First thing that evening was a dinner with 4 friends. They are all female (I mostly hang out with girl friends since my MSc is crowded with them and I've always had more girls than guys through my studies), but I wouldn't try to play game with them. I've tried some routines to see how they worked, but nothing serious.

There was a party at a club which seemed to be promising, and I had recently been watching some PUA in field videos (RSD Infield), so I was more than eager to try stuff. Let me tell you that, after reading "The Game", I wasn’t really sure about Tyler’s stuff. But man…that guy’s good. Check some videos if you haven’t yet.

Anyway, I really wanted to go so I called a friend that was kind of getting into the game as well (we’ll call him JB). He was as eager as me to try stuff so he called some girlfriends and we ended up pre-drinking at this gorgeous girl’s place (we’ll call her Jas) with 3 of her female friends. That was a good start. We really loved RSD’s game, so we took it from there: first 2 hours are just for fun.

I didn’t know any of the other 3 girls so it was a good warm-up. During that time I just focused on having fun, but always trying to keep a good body language, strong eye-contact and trying some C&F stuff. That worked out great. I started by completely ignoring Jas. She was sitting next to me, so I just turned a bit to the opposite side and crossed legs “blocking” her, all while we were playing some drinking games. When I finished my first beer and was just standing to get another one, she quickly stood up and got it for me. Strong eye-contact. After that I relaxed on my body language and gave her a little bit more attention. She kept eye-contact all night long.

Let me make something clear here before I go on: Yesterday’s three goals were:

1. Opening;
2. Opening; and
3. Opening.

We were looking to open every single set we saw with anything that popped out in our heads (I opened a girl by telling her I had just jerked off in the bathroom. I’ll get there.) and then see how we managed from there. No canned openers, not in a loud club. Just open, calibrate and push further when we didn’t know what to do anymore. We weren’t looking to F-close, K-close or #close. Just open, have fun, and win over that damn FMR we’ve always had. Win over the excuses by being faster than them and open the set before we could even think of an excuse.

After the drinking games it was on. JB and I were warmed up and these girls were loving it. We weren’t going to stick with them for the night, but it was a good mood booster. So we all headed to the party.

AT THE PARTY.

An HB9 and an HB7 were selling the tickets (it was a student’s party). That was a good start. We chatted with them for a while (I don’t remember about what, but they were pretty receptive) and after a couple of minutes we just went in. Not before asking them for a kiss-goodbye, though. It was a neon party and they were wearing glowing lipstick, so it was pretty cool.

We went to the dance floor and as soon as we got there I saw this rather young-looking HB8 with an HB6 and a guy. I didn’t even count to 3. “Go”. -I loved Tyler’s way of kino escalating right from the beginning, and after tonight I strongly believe that’s the best way to approach kino at a loud club-like party.- So anyway: eye-contact, smile, give hand, she takes it, pull her and grab her. “Hi. Who are you?”. To my surprise, she’s receptive to it and grabs me back. After a minute in I realize her friend is looking up her shoulder (I placed her so her friend would be on her back) so I jokingly told the HB8 that her friend was worried, took her back and introduced myself to the friend and the guy. The HB8 was still grabbing me. We talked a bit, I didn’t quite win over the friend, and she ended up going away with the HB8. “Cool, let’s keep it up”.

I started opening every girl I found. Just eye-contact, smile and: “Hi. Who are you?”. I couldn’t fucking believe it. I was in a really high party-mood (and tipsy), and I think that had a lot to do. I was on fire, I wouldn’t run out of stuff to talk about (I did twice and lost them). They were all so receptive. Some of them I opened while they were walking somewhere with their friends and they just fucking stayed while the friends kept walking. At some point in the interaction I was like “I think your friends just left. Sorry (I know, I know…), I didn’t mean to hold you back. Go get them if you want”. None did.

Once every some time JB and I would just meet and give feedback. He was having more troubles with FMR. I pushed him; I threw him into sets or forced him to open. That was funny. It’s easier when you have a friend in the game. In one of these brief meet-ups, he was having some FMR and I started telling him that he shouldn’t give a fuck. “Forget about anything anyone may think about you. We’re here to have fun, to improve. We’re basically here to fuck up as much as we can tonight, to get dumped, ignored or whatever. To calibrate. It doesn’t fucking matter what they’re going to think about you. As long as you’re having fun and opening, it’s allright. Look, to push it further, we’re going to open a girl telling her that we had just masturbated in the bathroom.” An HB7 happened to walk by at that moment, so I opened her. Eye-contact, smile, party-mood: “Hey, what would you think if I told you that I just masturbated in the bathroom?”. She laughed. She said something like “That that’s cool!”, can’t remember. “Well, I just did. Hi, who are you?”. She laughs, I give hand, she shakes it and tells me her name, and immediately realizes she just shook hands with a guy that told her he had just masturbated. She takes it back, laughing. “Oh, it’s okay, don’t worry, I’m foot-handed”. I do like if I was jerking off with my feet. She laughs more “Oh my god, you’re so talented!” Some chit-chat and I left her (“kiss-goodbye”). That was a very fun one.

At some point I was walking next to the bar, looking for a set to open. I look to my left and I see this HB8 with her friend HB6. The HB8 is having a tequila shot, so she’s licking her hand to pour the salt, but like in a REALLY hot way. I look at her, half worried half impressed. They see me, they realize, they laugh. I go in “Oh my God you’re naughty!”. More laughing. I ask her “Who are you?”. She asks back “Who are YOU?”. “I asked first”. “Haha I’m Anuca”. Shake hands, don’t say my name, do the same with her friend. This next part was pretty fun: She (HB8) asks “Well, who are you?”, “I won’t tell you”, “Haha why?”, “Because if I get you pregnant you won’t be able to find me” (I saw this little piece of gold in one of Tyler’s infield reports. He did it so natural and it seemed so fun that I decided I had to use it. All credit to him). She loves it and laughs. Her friend goes all “Haha you won’t get her pregnant”, “Well you don’t know that yet”. Laughs. “Oh yes I do”. I face her, kind of giving my back to the HB8 and go C&F “Well, I was telling HER, so she’ll deal with that”. HB8 goes “Haha you won’t”, I go “Excuse me but I was talking to your friend about getting you pregnant or not, not to you. Don’t be rude”. They love it, she laughs. I’m grabbing her. She still had some tequila, shows me the back of her hand and asks me “Do you want some?”. What the fuck. Sure. She licks her hand, pours the salt, gives me the shot and offers it. I can’t fucking believe this. I do it. Fucking fun. This little “not telling you my name” went on for some time, “make up a name for me” and shit like that. This piece was gold. After leaving the set and all night long, everytime I would pop up with these two girls they would go crazy, shout, laugh and ask me my name. Hell, at some point another friend of theirs (HB7) just joined them in this shouting and asking me my name without me knowing her.

Allow me to point something out here. I’m a 1,68m Spanish guy living in the Netherlands (the country with the highest average height in Europe, around 1,80m for men and 1,75m for women!). It wouldn’t surprise me if I was the shortest guy in the club, and certainly half the girls I approached were at least as tall as me. And after 1 hour in, most guys were either looking at me talking and having fun with every single girl in the club, seeing me open whoever passed by or high-fiving me for the last 2 reasons. I feel the need to point this out because I’ve always been self-conscious about my height and kind of thrown back by taller girls, seeing all of them as “completely out of my league”. Well, fuck that.

Yesterday night I probably opened around 20-30 girls/sets. I only remember 2 girls keeping on walking while trying to open them, so that was a good fucking start.

I didn’t run many routines. Actually, I just ran Style’s ESP (which turned out to nail it 90% of the times, either the 1 to 4, the 1 to 10 or both in the same set) which blew them off and made them want to stay and talk while it allowed me to kino.

Late in the night, when the club was much less crowded and I was maybe too confident seeing my results, I opened this girl in the dance floor with the bitchshield totally up. “Good, let’s see how you deal with this” I thought. I don’t exactly know how it all went, but she was totally teasing me, kept eye contact but bitchy as fuck. At one point, the image of Mystery saying that he opened girls by flipping off popped into my mind, so I thought “What better way to learn to calibrate than by going way too far?” so I just did it. I flipped off and calmly said “Well, fuck you”. She stared at me, with a mix of madness and whatthefuckness, pushed me (I almost end up on the floor lol) and left. JB was next to me so we couldn’t stop laughing. I could see where the girl had gone in the dance floor, she was with some girl friends looking at me. I started talking with JB, and at some point she came back. Again, I can’t remember how, but we ended up talking. This time it was worse. The bitchshield was even stronger. At some point I actually told her “Why are you acting like a bitch?”, “Are you calling me a bitch?!”, “No, I’m saying that you’re acting like a bitch. I know you’re not a bitch. No girl is a bitch. I understand you have to have your bitchshield sometimes, and I admire that from girls, I really do, but you can put it down already”. For the first time and for just one second, she laughed -honestly-. She nodded, staring at me, kind of “approving”. Then she went back to bitchy. I don’t know what the fuck I did next, but we kept talking and things got heat up. She ended up really mad shouting in my ear (it was loud) “You’re fucking ugly! and you’re short! and bla bla bla” (note: she was shorter than me). She kept saying that, I just smiled and nodded, looked at her and said “and still, you’ve been here losing your time with the ugliest and shortest guy around for the last like 10 minutes”. I loved the look in her eyes. She couldn’t fucking believe it. I think I took C&F to the fucking extreme, because she got super mad, pushed me a couple more times, and she left. After this, the club was almost empty so JB and I took our stuff and headed home.

In overall, that was the funniest party I’ve been to in a VERY long time. I do like partying, but this was just too good to be true. This fucking works.

Take-home messages I got:

- You are the buyer. Even if you’re the one opening, let them sell to you.
- Don’t put them in a pedestal, they are having more fun with you than without you, so they are the lucky ones.
- Opening is easy as fuck. Although it might be fun and probably useful in other interactions rather than a loud party, you DON’T NEED canned openers. “Hi. Who are you?” is as good as anything else as long as you have a good body language.
- “Being one” with the environment of the social interaction is probably one of the biggest keys to success. Not faking it, not trying hard. Embracing it. If you’re out at a party, you’re there to party and have fun. Gaming is just part of the fun, not the event of the night. I do believe that’s the main reason most girls loved the interaction; I was sweating party-mood.
- Pushing it further is the way to learn. It’s also fun as fuck.
- If I’m doing good with a normal, plain, opener, try new (crazy) stuff and see how it works. Things like the “Hi. I just masturbated in the bathroom” or “You look like a stripper” are pretty fun to pull off, and as for yesterday’s night we just got fun reactions out of it. Of course, calibrated with body language. Don’t be a creep.

- DO NOT GIVE A FUCK. Don’t care what people might think, get that shit out of your mind. It shouldn’t matter what others think. It just doesn’t make sense. I have one life, and I’m not going to limit my fun, my experiences, my happiness, my desires, by the “what if”, "what are they going to think?", "I'm gonna look like a creep". Fuck that. Fuck what others think.

I think this last thing has been the hardest for me to embrace. It has also been the most rewarding. As said, I’ve been reading stuff around here for a couple of months, and as much as I would read it, watch it, reason it and say it to myself, as much sense as it would make in my mind, I would always find an excuse not to approach a girl. That’s fucking over.

If you made it here, I’m proud of you haha. I will appreciate and embrace any feedback, any tip or, basically, anything at all you can contribute to my game.

As I said, I plan on keeping this journal at least a weekly thing. Further posts will be much shorter (I hope) and direct, but I wanted to set a good first picture of the start.

A friend’s band is playing at a pub tonight so let’s see how that goes.

Friday 30th

There's a concert at a café in the center. A friend's band is playing, and this city is small, so quite some people will be there. I meet with three friends at a bar before going to the concert, just to have a drink. None of them is in the game and JB is not coming with me tonight, so I'm a bit worried I'll let myself make up excuses not to open. Fuck. I've just slept 6 hours, so although the night looks good, I'm not really feeling it.

I tell myself getting a bit tipsy will help, so we have some beers. We get to the concert on time but they are still sound-testing and almost none is there, so we just wait outside with some beers. Some people start arriving and join us outside. At this point we're like 3-4 small groups outside. Everyone pretty much knows eachother. Just chit-chat jumping from one group to another. I stick to the "the first 2 hours are just for fun".

AT THE CONCERT

We finally get in. The place is pretty full, but I'm still kind of in a low gaming-mood. I go to the bar to get myself a beer, next to this HB7 and a middle-aged woman with her. After a minute waiting for the waiter, I ask them if they are also waiting, joke around a bit and tell them that we are ordering together. The middle-aged woman ends up paying my beer. Well, at least you've got a free beer. I go back to the concert.
Other than greeting friends (not many new faces around), dancing and jumping, I don't really open any set. We're in the front, so we're pretty much just enjoying the music. There's this girl I had already met before (HB7) that somehow ended up dancing next to me all the time. I know she noticed me before, but I don't know why neither of us said hello (although I had met with some mutual friends with her in there). I take too long to realize about this and at this point I just tell myself that it'd be awkward to go and notice her. I know, I know, I shouldn't have listened.
I bump with the HB7 that was at the bar before on my way to the bathroom and she stops me to ask if I had seen her friend (the middle-aged woman). No idea. I keep eye contact and smile and all, but I don't even try to keep up the conversation. I'm really not feeling it today.

The concert ends and I chat a bit here and there, see what's the plan. There's really only one club to go at this point of the night, and I despise it. But well, there's nothing to lose, and I want to go somewhere with unknown faces and see if I can push myself to open. So we head there.

AT THE CLUB

Just being there again makes me want to call it a night, but this friend of mine is having a really good time and he won't let me go. We have a shot. We dance a bit, chat and so. He wants to have another one. We go to the bar and I wait at the bar next to this HB8. Still not feeling it, but what the fuck. Look at her, she looks back, smile. "Hey, who are you?" "Hi, I'm -blank-. Who are you?". I introduce myself, and ask her where she's from. Mexico. Fuck. (note: I don't know why, but I don't like talking in spanish when I can talk in english. I like even less the idea of gaming in spanish). But it's too late and I've already told her where I'm from. She's kind of receptive, smiling and keeping eye contact, but I'm tired as fuck. I somehow end up hugging her and after that I kept talking to her while taking her by the hip. I'm not conveying shit, I'm losing it. That contagious party-mood I had the day before is taking a fucking siesta. At some point her body language shows she's not really comfortable with me grabbing her, so I let go, "nice meeting you" and go. I forgot the kiss-goodbye. Whatever.

I'm about to call it a night, go to the bathroom and on the way back I meet this chinese girl (HB6) I had already k-closed before but left it there. She's kind of hot, but I remember when I k-closed her like 2 months ago she was the most awful kisser I had ever been with, and it turned me off so much that I just left the place. I know she's still into me. We chat for 30 seconds and I end up going in. I don't know why the fuck I did this, maybe I just wanted to feel good with myself after such a low night. Probably that's it. Anyway, we kiss for a bit and I leave her (I KNOW!). I'm just too fucking tired, so I take my things and call it a night.

Take-home messages:

- I don't have the same motivation when alone/not-in-the-game friends than with a friend in. JB and I need to go out more, and that's the first thing on the list for next week.

- If I'm not having fun in overall, gaming becomes a must do, and that hasn't worked for me. I know I have to push myself a bit more in the beginning, set myself in the mood, but I can't do it if I'm not in a good mood to start with. Focus on having fun along the night instead of only on getting the girls.

- Don't try to reward yourself with a cookie just because you're not feeling it. It didn't work, and it's just lame. If you k-close, you've got to want to k-close for the girl, not for the damn reward-need.

- The good parties are on weekdays. I never go out on weekdays, only fridays and saturdays, and it's always the same. This place is small. I don't want to see known faces, it stops me from trying stuff. Until I can totally ignore this, I'll have to start going out to either a different city or during weekdays (which is going to be hard since I wake up at 7am every day).

QUESTIONS

- Have you ever been in this situation where you just had a great night the day before, but you're totally off the mood the day after? Have you come to a way to overcome this?

- Any tips on going out alone / with not-in-the-game friends? I have the greatest time going out with JB, but it's not always possible. How to set myself in the mood?

- What about going out to places where you know or recognize most of the people around? What do you do? How do you approach your game in this places?

Again, any help here, tips, etc. will be appreciated!

A new post is coming in a bit.