Ok so, a few weeks ago one of my girlmates introduced me to a real nice shy 20yo brunette called Emily who was recently left by her boyfriend.

I guess I played things a little wrong as I missed the opportunity to break rapport and sexually escalate on the first night but there was a great connection and we texted and spoke online regularly since. After about a week Emily went back to her ex and since then we met a few times with other friends and continued to talk (I rarely initiate the conversation). It was a hot day on Sunday and me and some friends went to the beach for a BBQ and Emily showed unexpectedly, she has broke up with her ex again and this time tells me it is for good but she was upset and once again I failed to escalate.

I see this very quickly becoming a "lets just be friends" situation, Emily is going on holiday for two weeks and then when she returns I will be going away for a week. What is my move do I freeze her out until I come back and attempt to arrange a date or, do I see her in the meantime and attempt to escalate to test the water?

Well she'll be fucking the ex again soon enough.

I wouldn't leave it 3 weeks, if you want to jump on an opportunity. Start texting... but beware not to be her emotional tampon.

If she starts telling you about how fucking sad she is or distraught about the breakup, you, sir, have just grown a vagina and are no longer a sexual option to her.

ok dude thanks i have been clear with her from the start i don't want to hear about the ex current or whatever she still seems keen no emotional tampon ness i was worried i was the pickme up we will see.