Nights like tonight remind me just how far I need to go to become the type of person I want to be. I'm still reeling from this horrible experience... so I must share it with you all.

There's a girl who I was talking to on the Tinder app. She had very nice, tan body but kind of a long face and a bit of a gap tooth. Still, totally someone I would put in some effort to sleep with. We had been trying to make plans for a few days now and finally tonight decided we would see each other. She was already going out with her friends and I was out elsewhere. She started texting me around midnight begging me to meet her at this certain bar. My crew was ready to call it a night so I decided to meet her.

I show up at the bar within about a half hour and to my surprise she isn't there. She texts me and says she's ten minutes away so I decided to go inside and have a drink and wait for her. There was a ten dollar cover charge which I didn't expect. The place is absolutely packed... to the point where it would take about fifteen minutes to walk fifty feet because of all the bodies. So i trudge through a bunch of wild partiers to find a spot at the bar and order a drink.

About fifteen minutes pass and she texts me saying she's ten minutes away. All right... I didn't get flustered and instead tried to smile and be social with the people around me. Everyone gave me the cold shoulder, and so I stood crammed at the bar staring at my watch waiting for her. After I had been standing there for a good forty minutes, she finally texts me and says she has arrived. I felt a little better. I could still salvage the night by gaming her.

I give her my location and she refuses to come to me, instead telling me to come see her in the back by the restrooms. I reluctantly shuffle my way back towards her and finally spot her... in some other guy's arms. The guy is clearly pretty drunk and keeps sloppily making out with her. She is somewhat resisting but also smiling and keeps whispering in his ear. There I am, standing off to the side looking like a total tool. Before I could turn away, she spots me we lock eyes. She says something to the guy she's with and reluctantly comes over and hugs me.

We say hello, and I try to be cheerful and upbeat. I totally ignored the guy she was with and just tried to start up a conversation. I told her we should go get a drink and she's like "I don't know about that, I'm driving." I teased her a little about that and then she interrupted me and mentioned "I'm doing some volunteer work tomorrow. I have to be up super early. I think I'm leaving soon." I just kind of laughed, not really sure if she was seriously going to end our chat thirty seconds in. "It was nice meeting you though!" She said... as if to make sure I got the hint that she wanted me gone.

At that moment the guy from before furiously grabbed her and resumed running his tongue up and down her face. I was left stunned. I turned around and shamefully squirmed out of the bar and out to my car. To add insult to injury, as I was trying to pull out of the parking lot, her and the guy ran out in front of me and they both made eye contact with me, as if the make sure I fully realized what a chump I am.

So now while the two of them are probably banging like no tomorrow, I'm writing on this message board about how crappy I feel. It just motivates me more to better myself and refine my game so this sort of thing doesn't happen to me. I must be giving off some crazy beta vibe for her to feel justified treating me this way.

Ok, well I'm assuming you're here because you've read something about pickup.

Almost any pickup material will tell you, this is precisely why you don't focus on one woman. Sounds like you had a brief 'oneitis'

Go out there and just talk to 5 other women you think are attractive and I promise you you will forget this whole experience.