I just got rejected hard. But it's been awhile since I approached a girl and tried to make a move on her. I have been in a relationship for the past 8 months. She was an HB 9, problem was, I didn't know if she was serious at times or not. She threw out IOI's but then threw out hard negs. It was tough to keep up since being back in the field. Apparently, "walk me to my car, I might get lost around the neighborhood" was not codeword for make a move on her lol. I walked her to her car, got in the car, smirked, told her to come here, and she said no. Lol. Maybe I missed a few steps. I probably need to reread love systems or some PUA material but she got irritated. She told me her deal after being persistence in trying to get the makeout (me thinking it was bs) she told she had to get a UHAUL to move her stuff out of her boyfriends apartment since they broke up two weeks ago. She was serious. I believed her because she mentioned a few days ago that she was moving into a new apartment. She was even more irritated that she thought she would be late, she gave me a stern reprimand. I was unfazed, but she just wanted me out of the car at this point. I am in damage control I believe...or I might have just lost her.

Earlier in the day she was telling about how one of the students tried to get her and another colleague of mine to hook up. I probably failed this shit test because I didn't know what to say (I have been out the game!) . Probably should have said something along the lines "you guys would be cute together". And maybe I would have been okay during the walk to the car.

I think she was making up her mind of who she should go for between my colleague and I, and at the last minute she chose my colleague. Maybe I was overthinking it. I don't know you guys tell me.


I really did some major AFC moves in this field report, I will summarize them for you,

I negged...too much
I failed some shit tests
I lacked full confidence
I fumbled a bit
Made her a bit umcomfortable (I know, big no no)
I asked her out wrong (Said, when are you coming over, instead of if you care to come over some time, when finals are done, blah blah dates).
I DID NOT READ CUES VERY WELL.

Do you guys have tips to help me get back in the game. Even being in a relationship I lost a bit of game....2014 will be a tough year.

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Hey man, here's where I think you did wrong:

- there's no mention of kino escalation; you can go straight for the kiss if she's very attracted to you, but in this situation you should have prepared her with KE before the kiss

- you persisted in getting the kiss after making mistake number one; you should be able to tell apart BS refusals from real ones

- when she had to ask you to leave her car, you pretty much blew the last drop of goodwill she may have had for you

- the colleague trying to hook her up story may have been a shit test or just her being friendly (as in LJBF) the impact of a funny answer to the story would have been minimal

- yes, you are over-thinking it, for all you know she may not even be attracted to the colleague, or you for that matter...

- out of the AFC moves, numbers 1&2 can be cured through more hours in the field and paying attention to calibration, numbers 3&4 will as well improve with time (and successes), number 5 is indeed, a big NO NO - keep the interaction fun and pleasant at all times for BOTH parties, number 6, you need to improve first your attitude towards dating: you do not invite a girl to a date, you are doing something fun and exciting and she's welcomed to join; regardless of she says yes or no, you are still doing it and enjoying every moment of it... this is a pressure-free NON-DATE...

hope this helps, good luck!