Armed with a not so original pen name, I've decided to start a PU journal here.

Since I had no sex for two months now, I'll aim to stick here and keep my advice for myself.

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Timeline: about two weeks ago

I went out to drink a cup of coffee, at Starbucks to be more precise. I've sat down on a bench in front of the shopping mall, next to a beautiful girl. My estimation may be biased but she was a solid 8.

She asks for a lighter. I help you while keeping quiet. About 30 seconds passes and I start a conversation with her...

"Hey, I'm new in this town. What's awesome to visit here?"

A bit surprised that I've opened the conversation, she replies, explains a lot of things. I try some C&F; it didn't really hit the mark. After five minutes of conversation, I ask for her phone number.

She gives it to me. I call her to check the number and about 2 minutes later, she leaves.

Two days later I text her (yes, I know, I should have called) something around the lines of...

"Hey. It was nice meeting you. You've told me of a great place when we've last talked, I'd love if you can show it to me in person".

Of course, I have received no reply. For all intents and purposes, I guess she even forgot who I was. Haven't called her since then"

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What do you consider I could have done better?

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Timeline: about one month ago

On a train ride, I've meet a girl. I know cliché. Doesn't matter.

Since I'm an entrepreneur and the other guy was an entrepreneur too, we struck an interesting conversation. I've ignored her for about one hour then she starts a conversation with me.

She was married, a mother. Long term relationship (different countries).

She was in the country for only one week.

I build rapport with her (this is one of my better examples), make her laugh, touch her. I've isolated her five or six times under the pretense to go smoke in the bathroom.

Huge rapport. She touches me back. Tells me something like "you are awesome".

I try to isolate her even more and tell her to go down with me at my station. I fail.

I've took her phone #. She was a solid nine. Maybe the best I've hit on in my life.

Two days later I call her. Somebody else answers - a girl. The next day she calls me. We talk for an hour or so. She started telling me about her awful relationship, bla bla bla. I've sensed that I'm getting pulled into her frame so I've told her to stop, that I don't care.

I use my best persuasion tactics and finally she says something like...

"Look, my situation is complicated. Really complicated. I like you. But the best we can be are fuck buddies"

This leaves me a bit unprepared. I tell her "ok, but don't fall in-love with me". She laughs.

We talk again until I finally drop the call and I let her understand that she bores me. That worked.

Two days later we meet at a coffee as she stopped in my new town. Amazing rapport, amazing attraction. I've asked her straight "do you want to have an affair with me or not? I don't like wasting time". She answers yes.

The idea was for her to go to take care of some things and then return and crash the night at me. It was set. I haven't kissed her until this point in time.

She leaves. She gets there, we talk for a few minutes on the phone and then ... BLACKOUT!

She doesn't answer my calls. After three calls, I've sent her a text in the area of "hmm ... I don't know what's happening but I don't like to insist".

I haven't heard anything from there since. The rupture happened once she got there. It's not wishful thinking, I know, I haven't fucked her, I haven't kissed her, it was game on. But she agreed to something and then flaked, dramatically. Haven't heard from her until today.

I've even bought a new set of towels in my new home for her night in

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What the heck happened?

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Timeline: a few months ago

She was a 5, maybe six. I was desperate to get laid. Don't judge me; we all get in this point sometimes.

I was staying at somebody. She lived the next door.

We've went out a few times. After she started calling me on the street from her window I've became a lot colder to her.

One night, I was a bit upset or tired or whatever and she asked me out. I went.

We went into the park. I wanted to kiss her but I was intimidated by the prospect of a rejection. She was sitting in my lap, building rapport, etc. We've almost had a kiss close but I've sabotaged it, I was a bit too unsure on myself and she sensed this.

To be more precise, I was standing up, smoking and told her, come here, let me give you a hug. She told something like "hmm ... I need to get on my toes" as I'm very tall. It may be wishful thinking but you don't need to get on your toes to hug someone.

I've messed up then by not taking the initiative. I was waiting for her to kiss me and it did not happen

Later I've received something like "hmm ... you are a nice guy and everything but you're just not my type". LJBF in other words.

The thing is that my spidey sense told me that everything was going fine until that moment. A lot of cocky and funny, a bit of sexual tension, ok, and a bit more (me: invite me inside. I'll let you prepare me breakfast and coffee. She: hmmm ... will you dress me in my pajamas too? me: no, do it yourself, I'm not your mom ... she: well, I'd like that, maybe when I'm alone) but I've ruined it there with the kiss#.

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Any advice, appreciated.

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And an older one since I really need to understand what happened ...

I've first meet her in a formal business meeting. Similar age. The meeting was actually was at a nice coffee shop.

I was cold and business like. Talking about numbers, methods, marketing, etc.

Kept it cold and cool.

Two hours later, I've sent her a text "come to my place tonight"

She answered ... ok. Where do you live?

I explain her where. "

She "Hmm ... come pick me up".
Me: Why?
She: Because I don't know exactly where this is.

BS. She could simply get a cab.

I call a cab and stop at a store to buy some champagne. Pick her up. She was dressed up like a doll. I liked it. Very different compared to earlier.

Some light rapport in the cab. We get home. The guy at the reception desk helped me a bit with some role-playing around "I need to see your ID card in order to let you in. Me: It's ok, she's with me. Him: OK, if you are with Mr XYZ, go along".

We get up. She sits down, very relaxed.

I kiss her. She kissed damn good. It got intense so intense we've fallen both down".

But for whatever reason, I couldn't get her to have sex with me. She said something like "I don't feel like doing this". She slept at my place that night but I couldn't fuck close her.

In the morning, I pick up my blazer from the floor, call a cab and took her home.

She: want to go up at my place?
Me: No.
She: Ok.

End of story. I was pissed off and operating from an ego based point.

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I think I've failed to create enough of a sexual attraction but ... why? How? Damn, I have so many things to learn.

At some point in time, I was close to a PUA / GPUA. I could approach with ease and I felt comfortable doing it. This was years ago. Since then I've got into a serious relationship (engagement type), been dumped and I'm kind of afraid of girls now