| As I mentioned in my introduction this particular night spurred my interest in pua yet again.
In retrospect I probably should have remembered and applied the Anti-Manifesto but it's to late, unless you guys know how I can turn this around, doubt it though. Still weird to me that we even met but here goes: Little back story, around August 2011 I find this girl on fb, during my mass friend request phase, we had two mutual friends so I'm like why not. Request her, sent her a msg basically saying I found her attractive. We talked for a bit during August-October of that year with the heaviest exchanges during August(Also in retrospect should have gotten her number during this period). After that she went mia until May of 2012 then went mia again until July of 2013(where the story begins). At some point I should have moved on, yearly gaps, this is ridiculous. In the context of our interactions though, this would have been fine except that at sporadic moments(yet enough to cause me concern) during her absence I was still trying to contact her so while I re-read our msgs, it gives off the impression that I was obsessed with her or at least couldnt move on but w/e.
July 2013, I re initiate convo with her, she's responding and we're having a nice back and forth. I get her number(In September, I know) and I stopped fb'n her. We're strictly text now, she's more consistent in her response time but there are still some gaps, not yearly though thank god. Throughout our interactions I push for a meetup since I'm leaving in November for basic training. She's down and we eventually set a meet(Wasn't as easy as I'm making it sound yet weirdly enough the actual planning was in fact easy), I made mistakes with our banter, she thought I called her a whore, she didn't respond for a week, just the myriad of things I had to go through to make this work, albeit most of it was my doing or undoing depending on how you think of it.
Below is where the title comes from, everything at this point was in my favor, only I could and DID fuck it up. whether you want to believe in luck, karma, stars aligning, god himself intervening in my affairs, whatever you say I have to agree, my skillset sure as hell didn't do this. She was practically gift-wrapped for me; I should've came here before and/or after the events surpassed.
The actual day: Most likely the 21th of September. It's Saturday and I'm on campus, watching Breaking Bad or something. Remember, she hasn't texted in about a week: Dont remember the times, ballpark,
400Her: Hey
415Me: Yeah
520Her: Nvm
530Me: What
600Me: Are you serious, what are you up to?
615Her: You said yeah when I said hey
616Me: And?
617Her: Why'd you say yeah?
630Me: You can't be mad at that hb7
630Her: I'm not mad, I just said why
730Me: Tonite?
730Her: What about tonight
731Me: Lets get together
731Her: And do what
732Me: Wherever the night takes us
732Her: Sure!
732Her: What time?
The rest of the texts was logistics oriented, and somewhat of the plan that night, as I don't have a car, she had to pick me up and take us back to her crib. I was to buy liquor and get chinese food. She picks me up in front of a liquor store in North Mpls. Kinda felt bad since she didn't really live that close but w/e. On the way back to her crib and vice versa, she constantly talked. I honestly didn't do anything besides ask questions, she had a motormouth for some reason. She talked about her life, her goals, ambitions, etc heavy comfort type of shit. I was happy because I was like I don't have to do anything.
We're at her place, talking a bit more, didn't kino if I remember correctly, many chances to also, when she was in front of the refrigerator, oven, when we were putting cables into her TV, a multitude of chances. She had a couple of movies that I didn't want to see so I was like lets redbox. She was like cool and we left to cub foods and mcdonalds, cub foods for a pizza(didnt get chinese food) and mcdonalds for redbox. First kino of the night was while walking to cub foods, did an elbow jab when she said a funny joke. Nothing after that until later. We grab Iceman and insidious and the pizza, good conversation I think, I still ask open ended questions and she yaps on, now when I think about it, I said quite a bit about myself too, idk if it was to much though. For those of you thinking about what we were saying, honestly it was like we were friends, nothing special, nothing sexual, nothing you couldn't do on your own, just a little bit more than generic chitchat.
Back at her place she heats the pizza and we start watching Iceman, shes to scared of horror flicks(the primary reason why I got it of course lol). We're on her couch, she covers us in her pink blanket, she rests her head on my shoulder and my arm/hand is on her side. Believe it or not, I don't do anything, I'm just watching this fucking movie. This is where it goes downhill if it didn't already. At various moments during the film, I recognize she tries to initiate kino such as saying that her hands are cold, or maybe I asked that, don't remember but I do know that she was receptive and said yeah a bit. I think I remember holding her hand during some parts, I'm not sure, lets' say I didn't, even if I did, nothing came of it. I'm smelling her hair and I'm trying to go in for a kiss, but I'm fighting myself, it's that fear that I couldn't get over, idk, my friends tell me after I relay this story that I made many bitch moves and did things only rookies would do. Another reason why I never made a move was because I thought it was to weird of a situation to have sex the first time you see someone, fucked up reasoning I know.
Back to the story, end of the movie, still nothing happens, I go take a piss then she takes one. Out of the blue she says that she has to wake up in the morning to meet her grandparents. Obviously I get whats happening but I still don't do anything, so I chalk it up to a failure. I have all this time to make a move but still don't do it, she wasn't particularly in a rush to get us out the door but w/e we put on our shoes and head out. We're outside walking to her car and she's like its cold, I'm like come on its not that cold outside and bring her over to me, I would love to take credit for this part but all I was gonna do was hug her or something, she came face to face to me so I was like fuck it and kissed her. We kissed for a bit, it was kinda cold so we didn't do it for long. Went to the drivers door of her car and kissed again, w/e I enjoyed it. She drives me back and we set a day to watch insidious the following day. Should have ended it there but I went for f-close right then and there, we're kissing, I'm making my hand maneuvers over her sensitive areas, of course shes resisting and saying we cant, Im saying I know but keep going. I can't really take off her pants plus she keeps stopping so I eventually stop and leave her car, I even felt the change in her mood but I didn't really think much of it.
That's really the end of the story especially since that's the last I've heard from her, shes giving me the silent SPAM or something. Before the 180 in mood we agreed to contact each other the next morning, I did( about the meetup and saying I would get liq on the real) but she didn't respond. I texted that monday(referencing her fin tattoo) and wednesday(I don't remember what this text was) no respond, friend told me to be a man and call her, so I did on friday but she ended the call, texted(I was hitting up the movies). I texted that following sunday/monday(I was in ws and was asking how her dog was doing) its been sporadic since then, I smoke a bit and was telling her we'll do it sometime, I moved and told her we're throwin a party before the party. Oh yeah, a catalyst for our future meeting was a party my roommate and I were throwing to celebrate a housewarming and she was keen on coming. Last text was on the 10th about that little party before the party.
I know you guys might say this is like a bizzarro 1itus but idgaf, I still want to smash even if history says otherwise. I was planning on keeping this on pause until the party comes then txt her again. Any ideas I'm all ears. Feel free to tell me what else I did wrong, that I'm not aware of. _________________ Black Passenger Yellow Cabs: Korea Version lol
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