So, I introduced myself to the forum yesterday here:

newbie-here-vt161670.html

Basically, I think I have mild social anxiety in general, but it intensifies tremendously when I approach a HB

So my goal today was to say hello, and have short conversations with women. Not looking for phone numbers, dates etc, just would enjoy talking to some chicks.

I only had an hour and a half to get this going. My goal was to get the names and one interesting fact about 2 HB7+ I'm out of town on business and staying in a downtown environment. Since it is Sunday, not a whole lot of foot traffic, but there is some. My game was going to be to walk around the nearby mall and try to meet my daily HB quota.

Well, turns out I fucking suck. I guess that's a little harsh. I did meet my 2 girl quota, but I was uninteresting and made myself sound bad, basically I think I put the pussy on a pedestal, and took an I'm not worthy approach.

HB #1 - Probably a 6, but still pretty good looking. Was working in a drug store that I hit on the way to the mall. I asked for her help finding caffeine pills (I'm running the ECA stack to drop some lbs.) She walked me over and showed me the selection. She was drinking a sugar free Red Bull, I love that stuff, so I told her I love that stuff. She had just noticed that the tab has a little bull in it, I told her that she could use that as a straw holder. She acted like this was useful info, then I was out. Nothing left to say. I think I forgot how to speak English for a second. I just said thanks for your help, have a nice day. Kicked myself because I forgot to get her name.

HB #2 (&3) - Saw these 2 college chicks, probably 10 years younger than me, catching some sun on a grassy spot. They weren't in bikinis or anything, just enjoying the weather. I debated in my head walking up to them for several minutes. Walking up would mean they would see me coming for 10 yards, and I knew that this would make them put up a wall quick. I decided F it, YOLO, cussed under my breath, and walked over there to 2 girls who would make me blush if they even saw me looking. I waved and smiled while I was walking up. They gave me a friendly, but wtf-is-this look while I was coming up. I just said, hi, my name is JD I'm saying hi to strangers, and I thought I would stop by and say hi to you two. They said hi. I asked names, they complied and gave me their names. Then nothing, nothing left to say, but I wanted to keep going. So, I blurted....no puked....out honesty. Told them quote "I have an intense fear of talking to strangers, and I'm trying to overcome that" REALLY??? What am I, 6 years old, afraid of strangers? I'm 5'9" 200 and pretty built, strangers should be afraid of me. Convo ended pretty quick after that.

Lesson learned:

I need a better game plan. I know I can approach now, but I have to be more interesting. Maybe the glasses opener, or one I though of later....

Me: Excuse me HB, I need your help with a possibly life altering decision
HB: Me?
Me: Yes you, you look like you have a good head on your shoulders, and I really need an unbiased opinion. (really build it up like it is a huge decision, like should I quit my job and move to Tibet to be a monk.)
HB: Ok, you hot stud, lay it on me.
Me: Kino - Touch her and say thank you so much for her help
Me: Explain my dilemma, something completely minor, hope she gets the irony
Do you think my beard is too much? I'm really debating shaving it. or....
Do you think it is ok for a man to carry a bag? My wallet is a real pain in the ass. or....
Should I have the wedge salad or Cesar salad for lunch?
etc....
HB: Offers opinion
Me: Keep convo going, she likes me now (at least she doesn't think I'm too creepy). I don't have a lot of time though, but I'd like to keep the convo going, give me your email and we can do lunch sometime.

Missed opportunity

While I was at the mall, I saw a 3 set, 2 fat chicks with a hot blonde. From what I've read, this is the dream set, talk to the fatties and ignore the blonde until she begs for attention. But being the AFC I am, I let her keep on in her sex deprived life without ever meeting me.

Don't like the feeling of not trying

I'm getting to the point where the risk of feeling like I should have tried, kicking myself for not approaching, is overcoming my fear of rejection. I would rather approach than wuss out.

I think I'm making progress, just baby steps when I want to sprint.

Thanks for the info, any help is appreciated.

--jd