Day 26

THE BORING BIT DO NOT READ

Yesterday I was supposed to do this either with my wing in the night or in daytime before work. Or both. So I talked as long as I could with a girl about the weather and how every man needs a good jacket before the bus arrived to the gym. After the gym I hit the city but I chickened out and felt like shit. It went to the point where I just said fuck it after and hour, took the bus back home and listened to some blues music. When I was at work my wing texted me he was too tired to go out in the night. So thats all that happened yesterday. No day 26 but just a 1 minute text with a girl.

THE COOL PART

Met up with my wing in the city centre. Don't remember why but it was his turn to start somehow. I explained todays challenge:

-Approach someone not being direct "hi you are adorable" or using a canned opener
-Dont use any DHV stories, or if you do use stories from your past don't use them in a DHV manner
-Dont say hi either

Just make small talk about anything. Be an AFC. Chode out. The point of this exercise is probably to realize how annoying you can be with AFC style small talk or how brilliant small talk/awkwardness can be if you do it right.

So he had major issues for it while I had a blast instructing him. I took him to a library where he failed do do anything properly, had him try this in bus stops. Finally he got his first one correct inside H&M where he asked this woman who wasn't working there if they had a mens section. He had an earphone in his head where I told him what to say just for practice. So I told him to talk about his organic cotton shirt. How it made him feel well hahaha. The conversation was ridiculous and she left him after a minute or two of creeping her out.

Anyways. Enough about him. Here are my approaches:

1

Was inside a grocery store and it was my turn to talk to someone for 10 minutes. I saw an Asian girl standing holding some baking powder in her hands. I, totally unsmoothly, walked over to her, bent my body and then pointed to her saying what is that she is holding. I asked her if that was some Asian product because she is from asia or if she is chinese. Then she asked me what is this product and I explained to her what it is and what it is from. Man, at this point its such an awkward conversation. So I stood there for a few seconds. Then SHE left because I creeped her out haha. OK that was awkward.

2

There was a girl sitting towards the railing in a shopping mall looking down at all the shoppers. My wing spotter her first and told me to go over to her. Then we stood there discussing if I should approach her or not. It was very interesting how we discussed this. Normally when you have this approach or not discussion in your head you are battling with your approach anxiety. But in my brain there was some sort of logical discussion without any anxiety feelings. Cool.

So I decided to approach her. Walked up to the railing, looking the direction she was looking and said "I wish there were more chairs here". From there I started some very situational thoughts of mine, how this live piano music in the mall reminded me of bla bla bla. Spoke to her about the mobile phone store and what that reminded me of. About the asshole who used to run this mobile phone shop in my home town and his hair styles. From this point the conversation got a bit more groove in it. She was laughing a bit to what I was talking about and I spoke to her about my night shifts watching The Sopranos at work, my current work and stuff like that. It lasted for nearly 10 minutes. She left when she finished her lunch and headed back to work. Good job, me.

3

Headed up to a toys store and walked around until I saw someone. First one I saw was looking like a hot Asian standing in the end of the store. I walked up to her and had to say the first thing that popped to my head. I said hey are you chinese or something. She replied in Norwegian and I told her something like "Oh you are Norwegian. I just wanted to see if you are Chinese to see if you are happy that everything here is made in China" hahaha, what a ridiculous comment that was, it could have been in a hidden camera show. But thats what happens when I can't use a canned opener. But I said it with a straight face so she actually continued to talk to me. She told me about how she had grown up in Oslo, how she was visiting her parents in this city and stuff like that. I spoke to her about the weather and the freezing winter. How iPads would cost a shitload of money if the workers had decent wages.. . Why she was in the store and why I was in the store. Not sure how long. Then eventually she had to leave after 5-6 minutes. Not sure if she was creeped our or not lol.

OK that is that! After that we decided to do some approaches try to get some #s. Its a beautiful weather. I am wearing my purple leather jacket, fake Ray Ban glasses, white V-shirt and just feeling good. No AA.

1

Approached a blonde who was standing outside a hotel. Walked past her, turned my head and asked in Norwegian where the nearest second hand shop was. She didn't understand anything and I spoke to her in English. I gave her some IOIs like "oh you are from Latvia thats cool". Told her about some jokes I heard from Latvia years ago http://www.reddit.com/r/Jokes/comments/ ... ian_jokes/. Anyway this ended very poorly and she entered her hotel probably feeling like WHAT.. I didn't feel like WHAT because I have been in that situation so many times I don't feel anything.

2

Stopped some girl asking for the nearest pet store. She told me where to go and I made some small talk with her about me buying a goldfish for my buddy. She smiled and laughed, I realized she wasn't THAT hot anyway. But I couldn't move on to a different thread here. So we left each other.

3

Stopped a girl asked for a pet store. She took off her sunglasses when she spoke to me and gave me directions. She turned out to be ugly when she did it. So I thanked her and moved on. Thats the glory of being indirect, I have a great excuse to go when I realized I fuck up

4 HOT HOT HOT HOT

I was walking around in a mall looking for a good target. Finally spotted one. Smoking hot asian. But I was behind her for a bit and realized I couldn't approach her from behind. Luckily she never saw me. She headed down an escalator so I saw my opportunity. I ran towards the escalator, and jumped down 2 steps below her. Then I stopped, looked around the mall stroking my chin. Then I asked her if there is a pet store in here. She didn't understand Norwegian and I asked her in English. It turned out she was an Asian looking New Zealander. Some sort of mixture. And MAN WAS SHE HOT. So the AFC I am I IODed her asking like "really, New Zealand? And you have that Asian look also?" with a grin on my face because I thought it was so cool. Then when the escalator reached the end I spoke to her a bit about the pet store. Then she told me I should go to some of her friends who worked in a store there (ugly Norwegians). I didn't think of anything to say except alright. So I was lead to her friends and they gave me directions to a pet store and I had to speak bullshit to them with a smile on my face. I thanked them then went on my way.

Shit shit shit. She was such a hot girl. I realized after I should not have agreed to go to her friends. Should have opened a new thread on her or gone direct "actually I just had to say something to you when I saw you because you are adorable".

4

Spoke to a couple of employees in the food court as I bought fruit for tomorrows Stylelife party. Couldn't make enough small talk with any of them (two separate girls giving out free sample food) and one girl who was just cleaning the shelves there. I asked her if she had tried the free fried corns there. I told her how they reminded me of Eastern Europe. And lead her over there so she could try one. But no # or # attempts.

5

On my way home I bought a 50% dark chocolate because its saturday and relax my diet day. As I was eating some of it I opened some woman on the bus stop "this is so tasty". She lit up and was so happy when I talked to her about chocolate, taste buds and the sex differences in taste buds. Just to round up my mission by doing the mission over again

First of all, I fucked up with the girl I was taking to the Stylelife party. I was dead tired in the morning lying in bed and I realized I should call her to say where the party was gonna be tonight. I realized I was nervous and sleepy at the same time. But I thought if I don't call now and say "I will do it later" I will be more nervous. So I searched up how to say hello and some other stuff in Farsi or what the language in Iran is called. Gahh, I am nervous but I called her. Then I said "Hi, this is Ktaki" and she said "Hello?" and I said "Hello this is Ktaki" and then I said something in half Farsi and she said "Hello?" again and I said "Hello this is Ktaki" *CLICK*. Shit, if I was feeling cool I could have laughed it off and made a smooth conversation. But I didn't.

So I called her up again thinking I will be less nervous this time and I have nothing to loose but she must have turned off her phone because it was busy. Must have been that bad. So I texted her explaining about the party and the Farsi. She replied to this and we spoke for 2-3 minutes. She used some smileys and had positive language but said she had to prepare a presentation for tomorrow and that she might come to the party. Which his probably bullshit. So I wrote her something in Serbian with a happy face, a huge bait but she didn't bite. Thats annoying, now there is a lot of work to do next week getting a new number and arranging a new party.

Day 27 - kino

Even though I just had a huge kino day in night game a few hours before this I realized touching girls without using a routine felt very unnatural for me. When I got on the bus to downtown I imagined I would open so gracefully like in game and tease touch everybody, give them high fives, hugs and what not.

…Then I started approaching and realized I was in no mood to be smiling saying "Hey I have to ask you REAL quick because me and my friends were discussing this" after coming home at 5 AM last night and missing some sleep.

So what I instead did was simply ask someone where the Starbucks is (there is no Starbucks here). My plan was to simply touch their elbow when I did this like a natural kino guy would do. What I noticed the first 2-3 approaches is I stopped myself doing this exactly like them moved hands do. So I realized I got a new sticking point.

1

Finally got my first touch when I stopped a girl on a bicycle asking where the Starbucks was. When she didn't know I tapped her shoulder like a bro "thanks for replying anyway".

2

I walked up to a huge group of people who were gathered for some reason. They all had the same clothes. So I put my right hand on some girls upper back and directed a question to her and her male friend on my left side. Asked what they were doing over there. Afterwards I told them to keep it up (they were doing a music video).

3

Asked a group of girls where the nearest Starbucks is. Tapped the elbow of the nearest girl.

Nobody had any problems with the touch today. But will have to work on this a lot as it didn't feel natural.

Day 28 (yesterday)

Read a bunch of cool stuff then approach 5 women or get 1 number - all of these in the street.

A1

Asked her for another pet store. Had a laugh or two then she had to leave. Damn. No transition again.

A2

Ran up to her and I asked her where I could find a toilet around here because I just came from a dinner party. Realized she was wrinkled and I should leave. Also realized it made it sound like I had diarrhea so I laughed.

A3

As my wing was approaching some girl in the street (#close, hot cheerleader btw) I decided to enter a food store to see if I could find anyone to approach.

I entered the store and I saw a hot girl and I thought "hmm, maaaaaybe I know her". So I put a grin on my face and I gave her eye contact. She smiled back and (because yesterday was kino day) I walked up to her smiling and I gave her a hug. Still had no idea who she was. Then I had a 2-3 minute fun conversation with her about who I was and who she was. The conversation had two threads with "what we do", "where we are from", "cell phones", "school", "graduation" and stuff. It turned out when I was like 7 years old she was in my parallel class. No idea who she was. I think she was impressed when I told her I wanted to be a comedian because she was like "How DO you become a comedian?". I seeded it a bit and I told her she should come to the first show. Put up my phone and got her to enter the digits. Negged her a bit when I entered her name on the contact and saved her as whatever the autocorrect wrote instead of her name. Spoke to her a minute or something after and said goodbye.

The only bad thing from this conversation is that when she entered her digits the AFC awoke in me and asked her "what do you do" and turned out she was a medicine student. I said something like that is cool, but I said it in a very boring/shit way.

Sent her a text "by the way before I forget it. You should come with a selected few friends of mine for (stylelife storytelling event)"." and a new text "Bring your Dr. House friends".

Was a pretty smooth opening and close overall though. I still count it as a cold approach because I just barely remembered her face from somewhere. Probably just seen it in my home town of 20.000 citizens and in that city it would definitely be a cold approach.

Day 30 - looks like I am gonna be here a long while.

Story so far. Have completed all the missions. I use the 30 day challenge mainly for my goal to be THE FUCKING MAN whenever I am alive and awake in day time. I will be obligated to take chances, say stupid or cool things every time my brain says I wanna go talk to that girl cus she looks interesting or my penis wants to say hello. Whichever.

But I still haven't been on a date. No day 2 with a girl from the street. So I am stuck here on day 30 until I get a new phone number from a girl in the street and my plan is to get her to buy some berries and meet me by the docks some day when its good weather for her to crack up new jokes for my comedy routine. Once that is completed I have to find a new girl or the same girl to invite to our Stylelife event.

Went out today with my wing but I didn't do any real approaches. I mean I was talking to my wing while he was eating forgetting about the game. After it was game on I walked the streets for an hour or so but did not see a girl I wanted to date. The only one I saw was a girl who was hot who got on the bus a few seats away from me. But I didn't approach her. I will walk the city a couple of hours tomorrow on my quest. Sticking points right now:

-Opening and making a great conversation in streets is HARD
-Touching someone naturally in the streets is HARD
-Maintaing that success attitude

Anyways I am gonna close this shit no matter how long it takes. Guess have to figure it out somehow.