| At 11 PM I am sleeping in my bed for 20 minutes. For the past years my body has been accustomed to having a good nights sleep, getting healthy, full of testosterone and what not. And waking up naturally to the sunlight. But not tonight. Tonight we are doing our first night of sagging. The past 40 days or so we have been doing the SLA Challenge using only day game so we are getting good at that, but tonight will be different. Naturally I have been out in my life a thousand times drunk, and I have also been out sober a lot. The difference is never in this setting, with only studying to become a pick up artist. Not for a very long time. So I call my wing, see whats up. I don't really wanna get out tonight. But I have a huge meal so I don't get hungry. Hit the bus and meet up. Popped a caffeine pill with 200mG of caffeine (two espressos) to get me through the night. It worked.
Now at this point we don't really know what our plan is. We have stepped into this new universe called night game and we have no idea how to go about. I had no idea, I usually plan and read up on the material for day game but I was empty of ideas for night game. So I let my wing tell me what to do. In the beginning we would just approach every other set we saw. My turn to start so I started by asking a group of 4-5 people where to go in this city. We spoke to them for maybe a minute or two, had some laughs. I had a good stance and so did my wing. Ok.
My wing approached a group of 4-5 asian men who were all dressed up. He asked them where to go out in this city, if this place is open or not. They replied.. I asked them how they all know each other, if they are a family or something because they are all asian. One of them replied back, in the same cocky manner, if we are brothers because we are norwegian. I laughed at this and said good point. We said good bye to them, told them to have a great night. Small talk is very easy when you are communicating to a big set instead of singles. People are more comfortable replying.
Later we enter a pub to meet up to some gamers (video gamers), friends of my wing. I shake hands with them but I am a bit puzzled how to make small talk with them. I try to say one of them oops like a plumber, he did, but they are not very receptive so I just stop talking to them. I suspect their mentality is something like "go out with friends, don't really have fun or make cool conversations, get drunk, maybe do something stupid, go to sleep, work and repeat". We experimented simply walking feeling good around this place. Apart from a chat we had with two 50 year old guys when we opened them asking something about coffee, something they were REALLY interested in (who knew) we left this pub. We hit another and I try to ask some girls something situational like "whats that band playing" but I couldn't project my voice properly and my body language didn't have enough energy.
Next we had a bit of a walk in the streets looking around at people. My wing practices some approaches while I wait outside 7-eleven. Next thing I know two guys approach me asking me where to buy weed. I ask them if I look like a drug dealer or something, even though they are annoying I think of them as practice. So I try to make small talk with them and I try to tell them some stories… But they don't seen very interested and my stories not captivating. Then I make a comment to one of those guys that "ok, I am not a drug guy but working out is my drug" and me tells me I look weak or whatever and that I should eat more food. But I didn't know what to say because:
How the hell do you use logic to drunk people? What can I reply? If this was daytime I could speak relatively fast and just use logic to comment him. No, he doesn't know of any of my progress, no he can't see my body properly, no he can't make snappy comments like that. But because his brain is drunk I really have no idea how to convey it to him. I am sober with a totally different attitude, he is drunk.
After that two girls come ask me for cigarettes and as I fumble to make a reply they say "nahhhhh he doesn't". I don't know how to reply to their drunk brains either. Should have done something, should have said something.
Next its my turn to open 3 sets.
At first I didn't, I walked past a lot of sets but made lots of excuses and thinking why I was making these excuses. I wasn't really nervous. I was feeling calm. I don't know what happened. Then I realized I had a subconscious fear of rejection, because I am so used in day game that everybody hears my voice and understands me. But here I was afraid of rejection in the sense that my energy would be too low for them, that they wouldn't give a shit about this guy who approached them. I know logically this is simply solved by practice and opening a lot of sets. Anyways, so these were my approaches:
#1
Two guys and a girl were walking down the street. I called them over my shoulder something like "Hey guys I have to ask you because you are looking drunk.. Me and my friend are having some problems. We are both working tomorrow and are sober now but in a good mood. But we have no idea how to greet durnk people like you!" So two of the guys stopped and I addressed one of the guys basically, and ignoring the girls. I tried to shake his hand like a caveman and give him a bear hug. Like a drunk man. I also think I yelled something. What I tried to do was to act drunk around them. But it was a little awkward. But right after I did that the girl was shaking my hand and really staring at me, like totally baffled at my approach with them. It felt like she looked at me like "OHHHHH YOU ARE ALPHA COMPARED TO THESE GUYS" or something. But I didn't know how to address her to I asked if she wasn't drunk because she wasn't saying anything. Then I left them to walk onwards.
#2
Approached a group of 4-5 people in the same street asked if they saw our really drunk friend. It looked like they glimpsed what I said to them, but walked onwards. One of them bothered to reply to me and joked that yeah we totally saw him. Not a good approach.
#3
We entered BurgerKing with a drunk friend of ours. While waiting two girls were walking through the restaurant I told them I just had to ask them if I look like a drug dealer. I explained the situation that happened outside 7-eleven. Stood with a straight back, not turned agains them but half to them half to my wing.
After my drunk friend bought me a burger, though I told his drunk mind I didn't wan one, I decided to give it away. A girl was standing not so far from me getting napkins with her menu and I decided to jokingly give my burger to her tray. She spotted me just as I did this and I just smiled to her. I assumed she knew I GAVE it to her but she thought I tried to steal one from her. So she decided to ignore me and speak to my friends, give them hugs. I tried to explicitly tell her I did NOT try to steal it from her but GIVE one to her. But she didn't understand this and left.
WRAP UP
-I LOVE feeling like a scientist. There is SO much I have to learn about night game. Baby steps. I will go out every friday and every saturday from now on, unless I have something really cool to do.
-It is VERY hard to talk to drunk people. I think they need drunk rapport and I don't know how to fake it. Ideas?
-I realized I have a subconscious fear of rejection because of my lack of enrgy/rapport with drunk people
-I also realize what a tremendous opportunity it is not drinking and having a proper analytical mind. IF I learn to use it - I can't yet.
-I couldn't even explain to a drunk girl I didn't try to steal a burger from her
This will take a lot from me. But I know every single one of you have been in my situation and there is bound to be a lot of field reports and guides on how to get through where I am right now. With the fantastic brain evolution has given me I will find a solution. I will think on my own and Google a bit. Sarge on brothers.
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