today was crazy to say the least
woke at noon to get my haircut at a professional stylist (was $55 but well worth it. i recommend it to any and everyone). so now i have a faux hawk and look sexier than usual
my buddy and pua wing was hosting a huge frat party so i tagged along. everything started out cool. i talked to some of the guys and helped set things up and got to be known a bit more. people started showing up and my old one-itis from last year shows up with two friends and some other guy. i dont get affected by anything anymore and on top of that have capped it off with nlp stuff that secures confidence. i am solid like a rock. still though, i have this association with her like i still used to. i treated her like a high valued pua would anyone (different than my old afc ways. she could see it and my new look and nows that i have changed). anyway... i am able to get her in. she came up to me later in the night and we talked for a bit.
i dont know why but it really messed up my game. i dont want to blame her but i havent had an AFC night since back in the old days. i guess i kinda forgot what it was like. literally for two hours i was nervous and didnt know what to do. i just walked around scanning looking like any other afc. i knew what i was doing wrong but i kept going out of not knowing how to recover. it looked ugly.
i eventually found a friend who saved some dignity that i had lost over the night and we went around talking to people we knew and getting more drinks. mind you this has been two hours into it so people start to settle in and i am nervous as shit. my frame was totally rattled. i knew that there was a lot of fun to be had at the party though so with that once of hope i stayed and kept going.
i have to admit i used drinks as a crutch tonight. i got a few in my system and used a friend to bogart into a set and i just started small chatting it up. my confidence was rising and it was showing in how animated i was, how loud i was, and how in control of myself i was.
things started looking better. there were so many sets tonight to count but to make things short i got a girl i knew from a party last week and used her as a pivot (she even opened girls for me that she was jealous of haha). anyway... it ended up a girl i met and this other girl from the previous week competing. i love it
i finally get to just the new girl alone. she is sitting on my lap and giving me way more than enough IOI's (my wing and buddy was gaming her earlier so i wasnt sure if it was cool to pull the trigger until he gave me the signal). once he did i told her:
Me: hey i have to take off with my friends. let me get your number
HB: ok. ya!
*we take out phones and exchange numbers*
*i flip her around give her a kiss and say later*
(at this point her friend was looking at me like she was attracted and my target made a comment about it to her in front of me to the extent of keep your eyes off my guy LOL)
for starting off the night so crappy, i was glad i was able to pull back and get at least one k/# close. she was a nice cute girl so maybe i can get a day two out of it. i'll keep you all posted.
what i learned from tonight:
- never give up
if you have to and ONLY if you have to use a crutch to get you through tougher times (this includes opinion openers, drinks, wings, etc)
how to better sarge with a wing
how to set a frame for yourself as "boyfriend material" or "hookup material"
how to better pivot
avoid the dance floor
a side note to this fr is i was having a conversation with my pivot about how girls see guys. she told me "that guy over there i hooked up with a few weeks back. he's one of those guys that really isnt boyfriend material". i asked her if girls can tell these things and she told me that girls know if your the guy to be boyfriends or to be random hookups. for a pua the later sounds better but if you want a relationship also you need to know how to control your frame to portray this. most of it is the level of flirting you do with every girl. anyway... i wont spoil it. let you all figure that out on your own.
thanks for reading the whole thing and i will keep you guys in the loop if a day 2 happens
~Lucid