As I mentioned in a
previous post. I'm just getting back in the field after a long relationship, and it ain't easy.
The core issue that I need to get handled now is conversation "fluidity" since I'm kinda rusty on talking to strangers, and women in particular. So I decided seeing as how this a gorgeous Saturday here in BC I'm gonna catch a bus downtown and do some day game.
Couple of days ago I was out with my friend, and she showed me a Japanese convenience store that is around here where I chatted up some girl about tea. So I decided I'll go there and see if I can game any cute girls shopping for groceries. On the way to downtown, this punk-emo girl sits besides me on the bus. She has a front pouch that has spikes on it so I open with "Are those spikes on the pouch so it wouldn't get stolen?", She laughs and says it came like that (I figured). We talk for a bit and I decide to milk the conversation until I'm blown out (the "blow me, or blow me out" mentality). We chat all through the ride to downtown, but her "punkness" is quite a turn off to me (that and some other things) so I don't even bother with trying to get a number. She gets off one stop before mine and introduces herself as a "btw" kinda deal, I introduce myself and we part.
I head towards the convenience store and on the way spot a pretty cute blonde girl. I stop her and go direct with "I know this is unusual, but I wouldn't forgive myself if I don't stop you and tell you I think you're cute." As I say "cute" her face goes from :huh: to :shy:. But she says she has a bf, so I part with her. On the whole, at the moment, I don't feel disappointed by the strike-out as much as I feel good about breaking through the fear of approaching her on a crowded street (I was pissing my pants; "what if ppl see me?", "what if she makes a scene?", bla bla bla bla bla. So I just feel GOOD about approaching. I wonder if this is what people call being "process oriented"?
I make my way to the shop and I've already decided that I can't go and have lunch until I approached 5 girls. That was 2, 3 more to go.
I open one girl by the tea section again, but it goes nowhere so I pull out. Open another girl there with something about the store and asking if she can read the labels on the stuff (everything is labeled in Japanese, but she looks white), she says so and turns out she is half Japanese. However, her attention is not on me at all and she leaves.
The last girl I open, I actually go direct again, and she is taken by surprise but seems happy about it. I talk to her about my visit to Japan some time ago, and after a while try and pull for an instant date to go eat (since she IS the 5th girl), she says she can't right now. I ask for a phone number but she says she's there to get a phone since she just moved here 3 days ago. I'm about to pull out when I remember what my friend said (again,
earlier post) and ask for fb, she gives me her fb, asks for my name (should have probably introduced myself), and I head off to eat.
On my way back I get off the bus to get some stuff at Safeway, and as I return to the stop, there's a cute girl there. I ask her if she is able to text the bus for times (since here in Vancouver you can do that), since my phone can't get to them (I have a bone to pick with Rogers now, b/c she could). I ask if she's in school and turns out she involved in a production of TV show that's gonna be out soon; Yukon Gold. I think I should have gone into something DHV-ish at that point, but instead I stacked openers and used a personal story from life (modified to "Can I get your opinion on something? so my buddy bla bla bla"). We chatted some more on the bus, but OUT OF NOWHERE she's like "oh well that's my stop" and I don't even have enough time to ask for a number (I knew her stop is coming soon though, so I probably should have acted sooner).
All in all, 6 opens, 1 fb (that I'm not even sure if it's her or not) and a wall of text. Any feedback would be greatly appreciated.
CHAT