DAY1 - Tuesday 15th MAY 2012


During my lunchbreak I went to the local shopping centre, in the car I read "The Chains that bind" section of the book which went over limiting beliefs. My main limiting beliefs are how people perceive me and what they think of me, this does have a strong hold on me at the moment, I care too much about what people think of me - I really need to overcome this to become a stronger and more confident person.

I jumped out the car and began the 5 approaches.

1) Carpark - Asked female directions to the local cinema
2) Waitrose - Asked the guy about closing times as I needed to do some late night shopping
3) Greggs - Spoke to a member of staff, asked them if they had just started doing the sausgae, bean and cheese melt as they didn’t have it last time I was in
4) Greggs - Opened a elderly couple, asked them for directions to the local cinema, they didn’t know so they asked the next table along who relayed the information.
5) Stopped 2 guys walking through the shopping centre, asked them to point me in the direction of the cinema.

I have done cold approaches on the street before, with direct openers so this was reasonably straight forward. I was ok with it, maybe could have pushed myself more to lengthen the conversation.

DAY2 - Wednesday 16th MAY 2012


Went into Brighton town at 6 and met up with Krys and Neo and ran the 5 approaches.
1) Blue Eyes - Approached a shopping centre guy who was dusting and asked him what time the shopping centre was closing, as I expected it to stay open later this evening.
2) Hazel Eyes - Girl with headset in, stopped and asked for directions to Starbucks.
3) Brown Eyes - Women sitting at bus stop, asked her which bus goes to the Uni as I need to meet up with friends etc.
4) Brown Eyes - Asked directions to the station, she was hot, eye contact was good.
5) Hazel Eyes - Walked into TKmaxx and picked up a bag and asked out load to this women with her back to me, does this bag make my bum look big? She said it didnt suit me, I said whys that? this is Brighton is it not? smiled, I didnt carry it though.

Near the end, I was just opening unrealistic set’s like a girl travelling along the road on a bike.....Cajuns cousin did an epic FAIL of this mmmm....

All in all I had done the exercises required for day2, but felt like I hadn’t pushed myself further. I had done what was required and I was happy with that. Even though a month or so ago I was going up to girls and using direct openers like “I just saw you and thought you were beauttiful” etc.

It’s coming though, it’s coming......

DAY3 - Thursday 17th MAY 2012

This phone challenge exercise was easier said than done!
I used the script "Hey is that moviephone" "oh I must have the wrong number then, while I have you there, can you recommend any new films, I am off to see some friends this afternoon and we wish to see a good film because we haven't seen one for a while"

I first started making up random Brighton numbers, but that wasn't working, loads of non connections.

So got the BT Directory website up and made a note of 20 numbers. Called all of them and not one recommendation. About 14 of them had no answer and the ones that did answer, said pretty much they hadn't seen anything recently!! I suppose it was during the day and people are at work, I wrote down another 20numbers and got similar results.

I read somewhere on the forums that people didn't like the interaction between a cold caller and their home phone, so I looked up 10 numbers for estate agents as I thought businesses would be a lot more friendly. Out of those I managed to get 2 recommendations for movies

(1) American Pie
(2) Women in black

I got home and attacked all the numbers that didn't answer earlier and wrote down some new ones. I got one funny reaction. Some guy told me he watched hardcore midget porn, so I didn't count that as one but I played his frame quite well.

(3) Cabin in the woods

Must of called over 50 numbers, some up to 3times as they didnt answer and I finally got the 3 recommendations.. All round I was happy, and after the first few calls it became quite addicted to get on with the next call.

DAY4 - Friday 18th MAY 2012

Didn’t have time to do anything during the day, so after coming back from work, I showered, shaved and got smartly dressed and headed into town.

Met up with Neo at the station. The challenge was to approach women and get a clothing shop recommendation.

1// Approached this one girl as she was leaving the station listening to her headphones, asked her if there was any mens clothing stars, “You look like a stylish kind of girl” - she suggested I head toward town, no recommendation though, I pursued it but she wasn’t interested.

2// Approached the second girl and again said she looked like a stylish girl and where was the best place to get some clothes. Again she said head into town and theres a place like H&M

3// Walking towards town and stopped a girl coming towards me and said what was her recommendations and she pointed my in the direction of town.


Looking back I think I should of gone with.
"Hey you seem like a stylish girl blahblah "

and if she wasn't sure, it should of gone like this...

"alright imagine I am your bf, how would you dress me up?"

DAY5 - Saturday 19th MAY 2012

Grooming day!

First I worked on the exercises from day3 including the vocal training. My vocal projection is poor and I do mumble in general, something I really need to improve!. I did the Low or Soft voice and the Fast Speech and recorded it from my phone.
Then I moved on to something else which I need to focus on is the Stand up Straight from day4. I walked around my room with this posture and tried to maintain it all day.

Went into town and got some mouthwash and Blanx tooth Whiting.

Grooming wise, I'll be doing these.
- Whiten your teeth
- Freshen your breath
- Eat Healthier - starting Monday, as I eat too much crap/take aways.
- Join a Gym - continue fitness training.

Did a few approaches which consisted of directions, while walking into town, I asked directions to some cool clothing shops then once in town I asked a few women directions to an Italian restaurant.

Did one opener where I told a tanned women that I liked her tan and where did she get it done. She said she had been Australia for 6weeks.

DAY6 - Sunday 20th MAY 2012

Feelling pretty hungover from awards evening the night before. After the awards were done, I went to a CLUB and approached pretty much everything, drunkgame is not game! So based on last nights antics, I have decided to give up drinking for 2weeks.

Showered and went into town late afternoon, was quite dead but workable.

1\\ Lady walking her dog with a pink coat - “aw that is soooo cute, I love that coat your dog is wearing, where is it from, I need to get my dog one”
2\\ Spanish girl at bus stop - “I love your scarf thats so cool, where is it from?”
3\\ Women with medal and bike - “congratulations on your medal, where did you cycle from?”
4\\ Chick with dotted coat - “I really like your coat, where is it from? My sisters birthday is coming up and this looks perfect”

Also complimented a guy on his shirt in a shop for good measure. I found that just going straight in with the compliment rather than saying hello gets a better response.

Once I had done the 4, went to a bar on the seafront with Krys and ordered the most expensive Lemonade possible. 2 Lemonades thats “£7.80 please” “Oh sorry, 50p for drinking outside, £8.30 in total” Wow!
Serves me right for giving up Alcohol!

DAY7 - Monday 21st MAY 2012

Mission today was to do 3 approaches with an indirect opener.

Went out at lunchtime and managed one indirect opener, I used the jealous girlfriend opener but I think she was young and pretty shy, so she said she didn’t know.

After work I went into town and met up with Krys and Neo and went again.

1) I stopped a chick at the bus stop and asked her the first date option routine which I kind of made up 10mins before as it’s short and sweet.

It went like this “Let me grab a females thoughts on something, first date... would you prefer a meal or drinks or even both”

First chick suggested a meal as it helped get to know each other. I got the opener out but it didn’t really go anywhere, so I said thanks and she moved on.

2) HB9, I stopped her walking past the bus stop and ran the same opener. I felt pretty nervous as she was hot. So I didn’t really feel the urge to escalate after the initial opener. She suggested drinks as it lightens the mood etc. So I thanked her and she went on her way.

3) 2set by the clocktower, ran the same opener. I realised that doing 2sets or more seemed to work well as they usually debated it amongst themselves.

Things I could of done to escalate was to get a name introduction and build more rapport.

I need to jump in, as I was hanging around for a while feeling really afc before doing these approaches.

DAY8 - Tuesday 22nd MAY 2012


Following on from yesterday, the challenge was to use 3 indirect openers and have a false time constraint and a root. The time constraint being a quick hint that you can’t hang around to make a feel at ease.The root being a valid reason or legitimate context for approaching her, otherwise she’ll be suspicious of your intentions.

I used the same indirect opener as yesterday.

“Let me grab a females thoughts on something, first date... would you prefer a meal or drinks or even both”

I went with, “hey let me grab your thoughts on something, I am on my way to get a bus but you look like the right kind of girl to ask, first date... would you prefer a meal or drinks or even both”

Went to Churchill sq and metup with Neo. Walked around for a while being really AFC and not approaching.
I did notice these 3 approaches were quite responsive, it maybe the root or time constraint or even my posture and tone felt alot better.

1) HB9, great rack on north street. First thing she said when I saw her was she was off to see her bf. Should of so negged that. Went with the opener and she said meal over drinks, as it gives you time to meet them etc. I tried to remember good posture and strong eye contact.

2) By bus stop, she was about to get on a bus but she didn’t show eagerness to get on the bus as I stopped her, eventually she did as it was about to leave. Ran the same opener and she responded well, & said drinks work well as your not committed to a longer period of time.

3) Blond. Stopped her and I felt absolute money, she took her headphones out and listened to what I had to say and went with the same opener, worked really well. Her body language looked positive. She said drinks would go nicely. I fucked up by talking about BBQ’s on the beach and then said, I am having a BBQ next week you should come. Fucking what??? Absolute FAIL, why the hell did I say that!

After doing the 3 approaches, went onto the Uni campus and started popping more sets with indirect openers. There was a single set, where she was looking a little stroppy, so I said to her smile and we got into conversation about uni and she said she was doing 9 exams and I said you absolute geek and she found amusing.

All in all another positive day, did eat takeaway today though grrrr. Think it’s a comfort thing, Oh I’ll eat that then I’ll do some etc.

Also got a text off a PUA I metup with few weeks ago, asking me what the cinema directions routine was all about? It was in fact him I approached in day1!! Haha, what are the chances.

DAY9 - Wednesday 23rd MAY 2012

Day9 tasks was to go over any of the missions which hadn’t been done or needed more work. I've done all the field missions but do need to go over the vocal exercises and body posture, but I’ll do that over the weekend when I have more time.

Went into town and met up with Krys and Neo.

The next mission was to approach 2 groups of people with 3 or more people with at least one male and one female in the group. There was no particular material, just open a 3 or more set.

1) Opened 2 chinese couples walking together, stopped them and asked them where they would recommend for Italian restaurants. They said Marina blah blah.

2) 2 guys and 1girl. Again asked the same opener, negged the guy accidentally as he was pointing one way and his male friend was pointing the other. They felt at ease. I said thanks and moved on.

Wasn’t really that demanding, and maybe I should've gone further and escalated the conversation, but I done what I needed to do. After those I had to head back as I've an exam tomorrow!

Hi, have you completed your Stylelife challenge? Will you public your progress?

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