This community helped me get out of my oneitis and helped me through more difficult times in life. Now I am on a positive path and really want to become amazing socially.

The rules for my game;

1) I am doing this for myself. Yes girls are great etc. but ultimately the only constant in life is the man in the mirror. So my aim is to work on myself, and my social skills tirelessly. Girls and great relationships will simply be a consequence of improving my life skills.

2) I will strive towards being an alpha male. Both in my thinking and physically.

3) I will be process dependent (ties in with 1) but also I will learn to enjoy the process, find ways to amuse myself and love doing what I have to do .

Finally because this is about more than just women and sex I will blog about not just my day game but also about other pua related goals that I am working on or achieve.

Happy reading.

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- Met a few wings from this forum.

Had not been on game for a few months due to exams and boy was AA back!!
But I remembered how much I enjoyed just going out and sarging!!!. One of the things my wing reminded me was to just be social. Start conversations with everyone!!!!.

- Idea for starting a conversation. Find out what the current on going topic is and ask people about it. E.g. What is this Jubilee weekend? People love telling you about something that they know .

- Did a bit of street game and then went to a street party! Here again my wings were very good at just starting conversations with girls. So one of them set down next to a group and started chatting to them but I was too shy. Damn I want to sort that out . Also there was a bar and here too AA came back and I found it difficult to approach.

Ok so writing this has made me realise I want to improve my bar/club openings a bit. Think of a few simple conversation starters. Do you have any simple ways of just spontaneously opening girls in clubs. Not too indirect that you seem like you are trying but not too direct to make it awkward either?

Happy Gaming *

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Went out for street game again on Oxford Street.

Did very direct approaches. "Hey you looked so cute I had to start a conversation with you." and variations of that.

I opened about 7-8 sets in total.

Unfortunately I cannot remember each of them specifically but I noticed that my approach must have improved as I did not get the usual "What??" response when I opened and most girls spend a good few seconds before politely saying they were going somewhere etc.

I got 1 number close:
Me: Hey you looked so cute I wanted to start a conversation
Her: Slight shock
Me: So what are you doing in London
Her: I am visiting a friend
Me: oh so where are you from?
Her: Munich
Me: Oh I have been there I visited blah blah blah
Me: Another question..............
Her: some response
Me: Yeh so I do salsa you should join me
Her: What days?
Me; blah blah blah days
Her: Cool.
Then I gave her my number and told her to call if she was interested. She would have gladly given her mine as she was comfortable enough giving me her phone to type in the number etc.

In hind sight should have pushed for instant date.


Sticky point: What do you say to girls when they say I am in a hurry? Do you have good things to make them re-think or to make them comfortable with spending a few minutes talking to you?

Originally I used to be given the I have a boyfriend excuse now its the I am in a hurry excuse. Could this just be a random change (due to fairly small sample size) or could this be some sort of reflection on my game performance?

Happy Gaming *

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I read somewhere that maintaining strong but friendly eye contact is a good way to capture somebody's attention. I think tomorrow when I am out for day game I will be working on maintaining very strong eye contact while doing my opening.

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So this is one of those stories where I think joining this community helped me in other areas of my life.

I was on the tube from London back to my home. A girl sat opposite me and seemed to be upset by something. Normally I would ignore it but since joining this community I have become more daring and increasingly interested in other people.

Attempt 1:
Me: Excuse me would you like some tissue paper (very low and inaudible voice).

I realised I was in audible and decided not to ask very loudly as I did not want to focus other peoples attention on her.

Attempt 2:
Me: Waved hand slightly to get her attention an then pointed to tissue paper on the other.
Her: Gives really big smile
Me: Returns smile
Her: Where are you from
Me: blah blah blah

Conversation blah blah blah

Me: Whats your name
Her: I will tell you but only if you remember and add me on facebook.
Me: Ok write it on my phone

We then had to go our saperate ways as we reached her stop. But one thing I could have done better is give her hug rather than just a hand shake as I think I want to be more comfortable with hugging people and more kino in general.

Happy Gaming *

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Ok so I revisited chiefs page on the game and saw that to open a group simply say hi preferably to the girl you are interested in and shake her hand . Haha so simple I never thought of it but seems very logical so I will try it the next time I do bar game .

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So it takes about 30 days to get into a simple new habit/routine. I have about 15 days before I go abroad but basically I will try to do the following to thing everyday at least until I go abroad:

- Meditate for 20 minutes
- Watch something inspiring or remind myself of the traits I wish to have

Happy Gaming *

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Hey all,
So I went out on day game with my usual wing. I will only journal some of my unique sets and group the failed ones into why I think they went badly.

Handshake Set:
"Hey I saw you over there, you looked really cute so I had to come and say hi"
She: ohh blah blah (as she starts walking away)
Me: Reaches out for a hand shake and pulls her in
Me: So what are you doing in London?
Her: Blah blah blah

But she was really shy and i could see her slowly trying to walk away so I let her .

But I really enjoyed doing the handshake pull in technique. I will try and perfect that but hopefully I will not have to use it too much.

Couple Set:
So I opened this woman with a tap on the shoulder. She turned around and suddenly this guy appeared from nowhere and stopped.
I looked at him and at her. I could not tell whether he was a boyfriend or a passer by but nevertheless I did my opening line. "You looked cute so I thought I would say hi".

She said "hi" and walked away and the 'boyfriend' turned towards me and showed me his engagment/wedding ring. LOL

Learning outcome:
Horror stories of people beating you up because of approaching their girlfriend or wife are pretty much untrue/incredibly rare.

Failed Sets:
So a lot of sets I 'opened' today were horrible. But half way through I realised that it was not them but me. I was very nervous, talking very fast and my opener just sounded really canned.

My wing cheered me up and basically got me to remember how I felt after I just got my first number close. It helped a lot. In every set I opened after that I got at least a basic conversation going.

Learning outcome:
- Calm the fuck down!!!! Its only a girl !!!!
- Take your time. Stop them. Then slowly do your opening.
- If an opening goes bad instead of thinking; God my game sucks so bad, try and think what could I have done better in that set?


Happy Gaming folks *

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So today I am going to be going out to practice again .

The unperturbed monk:
When I was learning how to dance I remember often wanting to give up. When I did not do very well I remember saying to myself things like “you are bad at everything and you always seem to be the worst in the group”. But I continued. I did not give up on myself and I went through with the performance and by the end of it I could do some moves better than a lot of the more experienced in the group.
The same concept applies to this game. Often girls walk away or are very cold to approaches (I have never once had anyone be outright rude) and when this happens enough times it is easy to start allowing limiting beliefs to appear. These can turn into negative thoughts and in a game where your body language plays such a major role being in this negative frame of mind is not welcome.
It is very important to remember that all this is just practice. In the same way that I was not a great dancer when I started out I will remember that I might not be the best pick up artist when I start out. I will also appreciate my progress more. For example before I could not stop girls but now I almost always do. Yes they often leave after I perform my opener but that’s another story. So now I will work on my opener. But In the same way that in racket games you don’t always get the perfect shot that is not a good enough reason to ruin the rest of your game. I will remember that even if some sets don’t work out it should not be a reason to ruin the rest of my game.

Say opener slowly with a tiny smile on my face. Think of all the ways the interaction might go positively. Pauses, Pauses, Pauses.

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I have not managed to go out to sarge this week but during conversations with my wing I have been reminded of something important which I am going to write about.

Sometimes it is easy to forget how important it is to have fun while doing this. Like any art pick-up no doubt requires a lot of practice and repetition. If you take it all too seriously and let yourself be put down by rejection then you begin to lose the will to practice. You start dreading approaches and then don't get enough practice which means your game remains where it is and it turns into a vicious cycle.

On the other hand you could make it all fun for yourself. Think of it as a way of experimenting on people, when talking think of it as you qualifying them, if girls reject you then its just an excuse to re-evaluate your approach etc. But really enjoy yourself.

So having thought all this, the next time I go out onto the field I am going to think of it as a hobby, a sport and really just take pleasure in everything.

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Hello guys,
So I have been away for almost a month but I am now back and will be continuing with game both day and night.

Quick update:

So yesterday I was with two new guys on the street. One still had some AA and did not approach. The other however really impressed me. He did two approaches and got a number from both.

Seeing this made me think that my conversion rate i.e. ratio of opens to numbers is extremely low and even those that I do get rarely convert.

So I wonder if a part of me is still un-confident when approaching and perhaps that shows? Maybe smile and remember all the amazing approaches I have had to overcome this?

Do any of you long term guys know what common obstacle it might be.

On a very side note:
I am recently attempting to learn speed reading . Has anyone done this? How was it. What is your comprehension like at high speeds?

Tomorrow I am going for both day and night game so will keep you updated.

Bye bye,

Social Magnet

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So I have skipped a couple of days worth of blogs and apologies for that but the basic idea is this:

- I can now stop about 70% of the girls I wish to direct approach and once they have listened to my opener they seem to be pretty much grounded.

New sticky point:
- I usually start with "so what are you doing in London" and that gets them telling me what they are doing/what they do etc. which I can then ask about and follow through with a conversation about things.

Unfortunately I have found that (from my experience of about 5 girls so far) that the questions are one way and I often do not seem to enjoy the conversations that much which makes the whole thing then go down hill.

So the next thing I am working on is having fun conversations which I will enjoy and if I am enjoying them then so will she .

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