Last night was the biggest colossal failure I've experienced in a long time and much was learned from it. Failures sting more when coming off a winning season. Because I had been making rapid breakthroughs in approaching and had not experienced a major disappointment in my game in some time, this further illustrates what an awful social and great learning experience this was.

I will list 3 certainties I will live by from now on and a short story for those of us who are readers.

1. "She plays your game or you DON'T FUCKING PLAY." - Patrice O'Neal
2. The level of not giving a fuck must be meritorious. - Me
3. Drill and Practice 1 and 2 until they are unwaveringly manifested. - Common Sense

Story: I had a great read on this college girl. My instinct and intuition have always been my biggest strengths. After talking to her a few times throughout the week and playing text games I could tell her interest level was high and she was horny. She would qualify herself and pass compliance tests. It seemed as though all my effort put into these countless approaches was paying off and things were coming together. Last night I told her I wanted her company. Again I received more IOI.

See my game revolves around isolation and seduction; lots of day game is paramount. Going on walks and playing catch at parks is literally the extent of my "dates" and its a really game heavy way of doing things more about the company and seduction process than the setting.

Enter her curve-ball: she invites me over to drink at her place and then go out to a lame undergrad 'fake-ID heavy' bar. This is not what I had in mind at all and I got lots of clues that should have told me to bail because of a possible sabotage. It wasn't my crew (I'm 4-5 years older than everyone) and they all knew each other and I knew no-one. When we talked on the phone before meeting there was alot of screaming girls and guys and she made sure to scream a dudes name playfully while talking to me (yes this was a test not an accident).

I got the impression she was playing bs games and this was gonna be an immature 18-20 crowd that I couldn't really have a good time with. (past experiences teach well) I decided to man up and meet with them figuring I could just go in with total confidence and bail if it was lame. This decision was completely wrong. The experience ended up totally awkward.

She was situated against the wall between 2 tables and completely inaccessible the way she was sitting. She was surrounded by a bunch of friends 3 deep each way with her roommates on the outside as bitch shields. I decided just to acknowledge the target and talk to the roommates. I immediately directly addressed to them how awkward their friend was making this on purpose and told them I'm insulted. We actually had a few laughs.

I got sick of the bs and shouted across the table "HEY (NAME) your friends are cool and all but why don't you come out here and talk to me for a bit!?" She says ok but takes a while to maneuver her way out, probably about 1-2 minutes. While doing so, she decides to only introduce me to the one dude she was hugging on (out of like a dozen people) calling him her best friend and kissing him. Why no other introductions? Her drunken girl games were so obvious and disgusting. Pretty sure he had the same name as the dude she just so happened to mention on the phone.

As insulted as I was I always expect women to pull this shit so I decided to directly call her out on her game boldly yet I remained playful and kino heavy. I think we probably talked for 30 seconds before she said she had to go to the restroom and I believe ended up on the dance floor never to be seen again. I didn't get to be the one to bail.

The bottom line is she was leading me and introducing me to her world on her terms. This is completely wrong because there should never have been a point where I let her lead. As awkward as this all was I actually think I lost this one as soon as I left my apartment. I should have made it clear how I wanted and when I wanted to hang out and led her into my world playing my game as originally intended. I broke my 3 rules to live by just because I thought I could persist my way into some pussy. When you don't trust your instincts and break your rules it never works out. Oh well gotta lose some. I'm at school now and I already see like hundreds of other girls that are hotter so as pissed off as I was, its already passed for the most part.

Great field report and very educational. And your 3 mentality you have is great.

I have to say this to all the guys starting out, but his rule #2 is a must have mentality. Once this becomes a part of you, your cold approaches are gonna go 10 times better. No matter what tactics, openers, routines, etc... you use.

Thanks for the feedback! I probably could have put it together a little neater. Basically though I was playing into her frame. I didn't want to meet her friends and hang out with a bunch of people recently out of high school who I knew I couldn't really relate to very well. I didn't want to go out and get wasted with all these people and I didn't want to be some anchor she could use as just another source of man attention.

All of these things happened because I wasn't true to the frame I had been building. All week I'd been doing things right. In her mind I was a mystery, a bad ass, someone she wanted to unravel. I really could have had her craving me and had alot of fun if I stayed true to MY game.

Instead my biggest shortcoming, lack of patience, proved to be my undoing as I just was so excited to see her. With hindsight we always wonder why these mistakes happen in the worst scenarios. We can only learn however when its a woman or situation that has great value to us.