| Ok, now that I've got your attention, here's my first field report in the last 2 years. I haven't been on this forum in a long time because I was in a serious relationship that recently ended. So, I decided to try to get back in the game a little bit and here's what happened:
A friend of mine asked me if I would like to go swing dancing with her and 2 of her friends. So, I said yes and invited along 2 other good female friends of mine. Altogether, there were 5 girls and me. We went to a place in downtown Seattle called The Century Ballroom.
The moment we got there, the girls with me nervously walked to a corner where we sat down our coats and stayed there. Also next to us was a large fan where people could cool off after a few dances. When we got there there was an HB 7 standing by the fan. I used some C&F to tell her that she was hogging the fan that was CLEARLY mine. She laughed and told me that surrounded by so many girls I needed to pick one to dance with. "OK," I replied, "I choose this one." and offered my hand to her. We danced together for a song and I then danced with each of the girls I'd brought with me.
Having danced with all the people I knew it was time to sarge a little. This trip was primarily to hang out with friends and sarging was mostly an afterthought. I felt like this attitude helped a lot since it was far less pressure to get involved in other groups and my targets would realize that if I didn't care for their company then I had better people to be with.
I approached a 3 set unsure how it would work. I didn't want to do the typcial AFC move of just asking a girl to dance. So, I opened with the jealous girlfriend opener (works especially well for me since my roommate just got engaged). To my surprise, despite the loud music, the girls were pretty enthusiastic about giving me their opinion. After some comfort building, I asked one of them to dance and she said yes.
After about an hour and a half of dancing with strangers, my friends were ready to go. But, I approached the first girl I had danced with. She was again standing in front of the fan.
Weasley: Right where I knew you'd be.
HB: What?
Weasley: We met when you were in front of the fan. Do you live here or something?
HB: (laughs)
Weasley: Hey, my friends are ready to go but I've got time for one more dance. We should end the night the way we started.
(offers hand)
HB: Sure.
So, we danced one more time. At the end of the dance I thanked her and pointed to my cheek saying "Kiss goodbye?" She blushed and excused herself and I returned to my friends. It would've been a good ego boost to have gotten the kiss but I'm still re-learning so I'll just take it in stride.
By this time it was almost 1 am and my friends were all starving so we walked to a nearby IHOP to get food. Then, I drove everyone home and went to bed.
The whole night taught me 2 things:
1. To PUAs everywhere: If you don't know how to swing dance you need to learn! The basic steps are really easy. I'm not that good yet but last night almost every girl I danced with wanted to teach me another move and I already feel like I'm dancing better. If you can get out on the dance floor and look like you know what you're doing it's a huge DHV
2. To all PUAs in the Seattle area: Century Ballroom is a great place to sarge! Every time I've been there there's been a bunch of HBs who really want someone to dance with them. The targets could not be more approachable. Also, admission is only $7 and the nearby IHOP makes for an easy, cheap insta-date. If you're living in the area and want to check it out you're welcome to message me and we can see about going as wings.
Though I'd say last night was fun I don't consider it a sarge success. Then again, I wasn't really trying to make it into that. My goal was to have a good time with some friends and maybe flirt with some strangers and that's exactly what I did.
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